Hello everyone, I have some doubts and I decided to share them with you. I have been with my friend for a year, but in the last 2 months the closeness between us has evaporated. I hug him, kiss him, caress him, and he stands like a mummy and does not react. He does not take the initiative for any tenderness and caresses towards me. Not to mention sex, he always claims that he is tired, that he has a headache (typically female excuses). It is true that he works a lot and gets tired, but still these excuses are valid for a while. I'm starting to wonder if there is another or what I tried to talk to him, he categorically denies having another, everything gives way to tension and fatigue from work. Even so, I'm getting pretty dumb and I'm starting to feel like an intruder in my own relationship. Advise me what to do. Thank you in advance.
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I went through the same thing. I don't know exactly what is the case with you. Don't make me paranoid, but first check for another, but secretly from him so as not to offend him - see phones, internet ... Otherwise, maybe he is really under some stress, there may be problems, men are the most sensitive to finance and work. We women are taught that a man is almost a sex robot, but this is not the case. They are also emotional and usually lack of money and problems at work are reflected in bed. Another possible reason is that there is a problem between you, that your relationship is not going well. For example, when I argue with my friend after 30 minutes I'm gone and I'm ready to rape him haha, but he's not like me and it passes more slowly, and when he is offended and angry, the last thing we do is sex :( I would advise you not to put too much pressure on your boyfriend.
It may just be the period, sometimes the feelings cool down.
There is another, and another, in which he is in love and is still experiencing the first thrills with her ... If he is tired from work - it will be obvious to him, he will be rotten, he will sleep a lot, etc.
Try to talk again. If it doesn't work, tell him what you think and feel and that you want a full-fledged relationship (I guess) and if he's not ready or doesn't want to or for some other reason, you'll leave him. Try to fix the problem if you do not want the end of the relationship. Success :) MP =)
Thanks to everyone for the comments, you were helpful to me. I will keep you informed of what is happening.
There is another. I know the movie, and it's called "Infidelity."
I have the same problem with my fiancée, we have been together for 5 years, we have a child of 3 :) I am 23 years old. everything was ok in the beginning, now we have sex 1 time in 10 days ... every morning - (come on in the evening I'm tired), every night the opposite haha. last time when she came to me, I hugged her and started kissing her gently on the neck, and she told me "if you're going to start, I'm asleep ..." lol
From the author: my friend left me about 10 days ago, after we planned to live together ...; (
Hello, I'm 17 and I don't know what to do ..: X My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and he hasn't paid the same attention to me for about 1 week as before .. For example, yesterday I had to pray to him to get some intimacy .. Before he was the initiator, but now it's as if everything has evaporated ... I have the feeling that he doesn't want me anymore .. He used to call me by nice names, and now to tell me first I have to tell him the thing and he repeats the same ..: X I think he either has another or I'm tired of him .. Can you advise me what to do ..? Should I ask him directly or turn ...? Thank you in advance :)
I have the same problem for 1 year, I almost live with my boyfriend and almost a month is not the same, I do not know what to do anymore. I don't believe that there is another one because we are always together and he comes home from the slave bus straight home, but he also doesn't claim that he is tired. He never even said it.