You might find a cooking man. Don't worry, I like to cook, I've studied for a chef, but things aren't always very good.
Fingers crossed to be beautiful! I also didn't know anything at the beginning of our relationship, but it's not like I learned to cook and sew that even a sewing machine I bought. It's all about desire. My husband and I got picked up very early, I was 17 when I lived with him, you know how much my skills were, considering I lived with my mother and father before.
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You're not going to like to do something, the bad thing is if you can't make enough money to pay someone else to do this job.
You can't and don't want to cook, sew and iron, and are you a valedictorian at an elite school or not to study?
In order for a person to give up, to learn minimal housework, must have studied a lot and then worked for enough money to afford a housekeeper.
So I can say that your mother is either right or not, if you're smart and it seems like you're going to make money, you don't have to learn to cook and iron, if you're going to make a mediocre deal with you, he's going to make most of the money for your cohabitation, then cook you, iron you, etc.
What are these mothers who teach each other that daughters are breeding cows and servants of men? How did you not teach her to be an discoverer, to follow something, to work, to build a career, to develop in different fields?
I don't think these are issues that are key and vital to a successful relationship and starting a family. Your mother watching her own business, she grew up in another time, another generation won't understand. As long as you're not some slob, don't shower, wash your clothes, etc. (which is for you mostly), is not a problem for a mature and modern man. En masse, women prefer to build a career and develop rather than stand by the stove, and much better so, we can do more than that. Everyone can follow a recipe and execute it, wash two dishes, etc. For example, I can't cook either, but sometimes I do it under duress, because my husband is a chef and works late when he comes home, surely the last thing he does is cooking. Regularly (despite his work) we eat outside or order, he understands me completely, so should it be with everyone. It's better not to cook, but to eat outside, than to do it reluctantly and it sucks. :D There are much more important things than housework. There are already multicookers, dishwashers and all sorts of them. That's your problem.
Cooking is not just a woman's duty, many couples share household chores. About sewing, you can give to a tailor if it's complicated. I doubt you'il be able to sew a button... Look, if you don't pick up anything at home and you don't make any money, and you expect your husband to work, and you're going to cook for you, and you're lazy on the couch "because you can't and you don't love," then i don't think it's going to work out for you. It is also an option to make enough money for restaurants every day, although the food in the restaurants can not be compared with the homemade in taste and qualities. Think about it when you can't or don't want to do one thing or another, what you're actually offering in return. Usually the logic is when you don't want to do something, you make enough money to pay someone else to do it for you.
I! But that's never got in my way with men. In the 21th year, you can live beautifully without being the perfect housewife. But go explain it to previous generations, years ago, and my grandmother was telling me the same thing, who was going to pick me up when I couldn't boil an egg. Well, I'm doing fine, and I'm happy. Besides, a man, if he has to, he learns to do things like putting on the washing machine. And for the other thing, as long as you have money, you won't have to cook and clean.
I can't cook well either ( I do some cooking stuff) but I'm not one of the good cooks.. I'm a 26-year-old :)
It's nice to learn to do things, at least kind of. You can't just drive it to things from the store and from the restaurant. I'm sure you're eating mom's dishes... If you're thinking of starting a family one day, maybe it's not a bad idea to start learning. After all, if you have kids, you're going to have to cook for them. I know a couple where a woman does not want to cook, does not know, after the appearance of the child, she is already three, this becomes a big problem. He works two jobs, she's a housewife, the guy comes home crappy, and she only buys from the store, and that's super unprofitable.
Well, yes, I sew. and i can not :)) And I do not like to cook, my husband was not looking for service personnel, but a companion in life. Doesn't your mother have any cool human qualities that she had to attract men with services? Every man, like any woman, can learn to cook, sew, and so on.
"the food in restaurants can not be compared to the homemade in taste and qualities. "
It depends on the restaurant.
Number four- and why is that supposed to be with everyone? Because that's what you say? I can't imagine i'm going to drag myself into restaurants every night, or order pizza or schnitzel with potatoes from the pizzeria in the neighborhood. I can afford it, but I'd rather go shopping for good bio-products on the market on Saturdays and cook my own. I have two children and I try to cook healthily. To have time for this, I have a cleaner who does everything without cooking and comes twice a week. I've lived in Germany for 15 years, a German husband. All my neighbors, both young and old, cook. We live like this, everyone does what he likes. I don't impose my opinion like the lady above.
Sewing is outdated, there are people for it. You can find a man chef. Chefs make good money. But if you're lazy and pretentious, a lack of cooking skills will be the least of your worries.
Your mother's right, a man's love goes through the belly. No mambo, no fun!
When you live alone for a while and get hungry enough, you'il learn quickly. I guess you're a young girl, used to wear dad and mom messing around. Move out, make enough money and eat at a restaurant. At 1 moment you will feel that you are giving a mass of money, and you are not eating healthy enough.
For sewing, I do not see much of a problem, and I give a needlewoman to repair clothes when necessary, but this is rare. And who irons your clothes? Are you going a scam?
And in my opinion, home food is times tastier, quality and healthy than in most restaurants. I can cook, but I don't do it alone. We cook with my husband. I can't imagine after work I'm on the stove, and he's on the couch or he on the stove, and I'm on the couch, because you see it's very complicated and "I don't like it." You need reciprocity in a relationship, especially if you both work. We enjoy cooking, we use it to talk, have a glass of wine together. The other is maid, not relationships. To me, frankly, the author seems just lazy to me. If you think someone owes you because you're a princess, you're certainly not going to get far. The same goes for men who think a woman is a maid like mom.
Every woman is different. And there are different preferences in household chores. I've loved to cook since I was a little girl. My mom was at work all day, my grandmother died when I was 8 years old- i started and I learned. When I got married, I came across a mother-in-law professional chef-- but she was a cook in her soul, so deliciously cooked that you eat-you can't stop. I've learned from it and pickles to do, and i've got to get in the way of me, and i'm not getting anything out of my hands.. And I don't force it, I like it. But that's what I see a needle-allergy I get. Not that I can't force it. And very often my husband sews his own buttons on shirts. But at least his stomach is full. There's no complete happiness anywhere.
The old ladies, take it easy. Just because someone doesn't do the things the author says doesn't mean he's lazy. And vice versa - there are women who actively and demonstratively do these things (which are not really a big deal at all - every single man calmly survives and has no one to do them), with the goal of making the very tired hosts out with great value.
The most important thing for a modern man is to be able to listen to him when he has a desire to share things with you, especially some of his fears, worries. Being his psychologist - being able to give him courage, self-esteem, confidence that he can be smarter than his colleagues at work. And not like some women do- talking to him critically and squashing him extra, or just silently on the street.
Also, don't waste your appearance.
If you do all this, believe me, it won't make any difference that you can't/can't confuse smelly manges. He'il take the initiative to get you involved, get up at work and start earning more, thanks to your stable emotional support, and hire a mrs.
Don't worry, men aren't looking to marry seamstresses, ironing and cooks. They just want to have a partner who understands and predisposes them to a partner they can talk to, who can maintain their interest, attracts them sexually, knows how to behave among people, doesn't embarrass or embarrass them, and most of all, who they can trust.
When I read your comments, I can't believe what a laziness the modern woman has become. Only money, luxury and clothes are in your heads. I, as a man, can't imagine the woman next to me not cooking. I can cook pretty well. I can't imagine the next generations what kind of mothers and grandmothers they're going to have. Where will the grandmother be in the future, to which the child will go and smell something delicious from the door. And no one forcibly drives you or stops you from developing, but I think that for any self-respecting woman it is great happiness to please her friend/husband and her child with something delicious. Horror, what the modern woman looked like - lazy, mercantile, mostly selfish, but at the same time with claims to the heavens.
I've been brainwashed so much that no man will take me. Relax, men don't watch this. They're looking to be pretty and love them. When I was 26 and living alone, I started making food sometimes. To tell you the truth, it's not hard at all. It's a good thing that as a kid, I didn't waste my childhood teaching me how to cook. There are all kinds of recipes on the Internet. Cooking is super easy.
Tell them not to attach themselves so much that they cook, cooking is easy.
We don't cook for more than an hour a week at home. We eat mostly salads, fruits, steaks, which become super fast on a frying pan, shrimp that are done in 2 min, fish that you only toss it. in the oven and is ready, soups that are cooked super easy and the rest of the food in restaurants. Summer we eat entirely in restaurants. I never hang over the stove in the summer. Guests if we invite them to a restaurant. I never do. I'm trying to look good. The whole family looks perfect, we play sports and we are healthy and beautiful. Unlike cooking women, which smell like mange, they are thick and with varicose veins. And the men spilled blisters on the couch, pouring brandy. Tell your grandmother you don't cook on purpose because you want a man to like you for who you are, and not to be with you, because he likes to be raised like a pig.
The comments here are almost just for a family of two. When you have children, you have to feed them healthily. You can't wait for someone to come in and mess up, a very simple word, number 17, 3 manges. I cook, I learned to do it when I got married. It became my hobby, perhaps because it's too far from my profession. The mental work at the university until noon, in the afternoon I cook according to a variety of recipes - French, Italian, Indian cuisine, recently I tried interesting Arabic recipes. Children are happy to join in. Now we bake Christmas cookies and just at home it is very cheerful. Just because I cook and have children doesn't make me a maid or a breeding cow.
I learned to cook relatively late. My friend is a very good cook and we share the household and household chores. These things are also relevant for home comfort and communication between two people. If you can't figure out who to cook tonight or who should wash the dishes, how will you find a common language for something else?
And because some ladies have written that understanding and beauty is "more important." Well, a woman's beauty is a wonderful thing, but you can't eat with her. Men like beautiful women, but also love good cooks and delicious food that brings quite a lot of warmth into the home.
That's why it's good for at least one of you to cook and the other to make money. The other option is to both work and share your chores. If only one does all these things, the other is like a parasite on his back.
Beautiful gs who do not cook, do not clean and do not wash are for "temporary consumption" on the part of the men, not for family and home. And those who chase high peaks in the profession quite often become careerist, unable to start a healthy family or "not having time to look after their children".
"Boring hosts" are an important part of the family's solder not only with their "manges", but with all the warmth they bring and have given much more support to their men and children. Not just with the food they cooked.
If a woman can't cook you dinner, or she doesn't want to, then what else can you count on her for? She'il wait for you to do these things for her...
I ask feminists not to rush their speeches! I'm not saying become slaves to your men, nor do I reject the idea that housework is more boring than the desired profession.
But when you are two people, these things need to be divided between you, not just rely on your "ability to understand" or your appearance.
I'm interested in what a lady who can understand it would say.
Let's say her husband sits next to her and explains that she "wants her to learn to cook at least two of his favorite dishes." Is... you're capable of understanding, aren't you? :D
There's an easy solution. Get yourself a male chef by profession. He's going to cook, he's going to make money with cooking.
My husband is like the author - he can't even fry eggs. I asked him why. He says, he just doesn't drag me in, I don't want to do it. If it were up, we'd only eat on restaurateurs. I'm the other extreme - I prefer home-cooked food at times and i'm very pleased to cook it. I'd do it every day, but I'm too busy for that. But whenever I see time, I start with fun to spin around the stove. For me, this is a way of rest first and secondly - I love to see my husband or guests eat my meals afterwards.
I mentioned my husband to say I understand the author. Just because she doesn't get caught cooking doesn't make her lazy. I also can neither sew, nor knit, nor embroider. Only my cooking is a weakness. I know super-occupied women who sew their own clothes, because that's their way of resting.
As for cooking, it is a very fun pastime if a person approaches it as a creative. To experiment with tastes, to prepare dishes from the cuisine of different peoples, to measure the scales different products, to detect the time for their preparation - it is a whole adventure. For people who have time, of course.
21 - cheered me up. Big laughs and you wrote. Cool. I also translated it to my husband, who weighs 65 kg in wet clothes at 180, does not drink brandy and does not lie on the sofas. We laughed a lot. And not to miss - I cook every day - healthy food.
Come on, a woman who didn't cook automatically labeled her a feminist, or lazy, or one who was waiting for a man to make money. It's like there's no feminists who love to cook. It's as if there are no cooks who think that by cooking for their husband they have the right to wait only for his money, because they cook for him and so bring heat, right? I don't understand why guys like you are so passionate about developing farms on a cooking theme. One will think that you are genuinely concerned about women who don't cook and the men of these women.
"If a woman can't cook you dinner, or she doesn't want to, then what else can you count on her for? " - you have every right to think like that about yourself! :-)) But the right!
Heat is imported with the attitude and love of the mate, and this does not necessarily take the form of cooking.
If things with the heat were going with manges and porridge, at least there would be no cheating men.
Uph, what are you guys doing? He couldn't imagine a woman not cooking. I can't imagine men just waiting for something to cook for them, and i can't boil some eggs. Besides, the chef was a man's profession. It's all right. I've never seen a man chef here.
I can't do much for cooking, but basic dishes I can do. We're not going to starve to death.
Ever since I was a kid and grandma wanted to teach me to cook, to iron, to sew something, basically she introduced me to these things. He taught me to wash my dolls' clothes by hand. It was very annoying at the time, and I just wanted him to do what he was doing to me and do my. Yes, but now I wish I wasn't like that. She's still alive and well, and I just want to soak up as much as I can from her. You know, when we're younger and the older ones tell us this from me, you'il remember when you grow up, but I won't be there. Well, luckily, I realized things before they left.
She taught me to sew buttons, sew if I had a hole in a garment or a sock. Now I can patch up my clothes and his clothes if there's an emergency. She taught me to get tortillas, make pies, stew. And by no means is it weighing on me now, but the other way around. I know that only if I have an oven/hob, dishes and products, I can come up with something to eat. If you only need from the store, the pocket quickly empties.
I don't see anything wrong with being able to do these things, and I'm by no means talking about being 24/7 in the kitchen k to do. It's another thing to cook your boyfriend/husband and his happy look by eating your meal.
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