Hi, I'm an 18-year-old girl. Soon my boyfriend and I are 2 months old, but I feel that I feel almost nothing towards him. I liked him about 2 months before we left, but before that I was very hurt by my ex-boyfriend and I had a hard time overcoming our separation ... or at least I thought I had succeeded. We broke up with him 10 months ago and shortly after that he went abroad. He came back a few days ago and we are constantly spotted on the streets. When I see him, I have the feeling that my heart will jump out. Besides, he and my friend are from the same company, they see each other sometimes and that makes it even weirder. I feel really confused, I don't know what to do. My friend cares a lot about me, he didn't go to study abroad because of me, he works and sits in the same city to be together. Rare are such guys and I want to give him a chance, and also myself, but I just think of my ex, who broke up with me without blinking, given that he knew how much I loved him and how many things I had done for him. I have no hope that I can be with him again, but I feel that if I had this opportunity I would be, although I know that I can feel the pain he has caused me again. For a few days I started thinking about him for absolutely no reason, I have no idea why.
Finally he came back here and it made me even weirder, I started thinking about him even more. I don't want to be with someone while I love another, I don't know if I love him at all, even what causes these constant thoughts. I just suffocate, nothing is done to me, I just think about it and I suffer terribly. I don't want to give my friend vain hopes, who is ready for anything for me and to ruin my relationship for the sake of a man like my ex. But on the other hand, I feel like I'm even busy when I'm with my boyfriend, I don't want to be together for as long a day as it sounds. I know that my feelings do not depend on me, but I still feel terrible and I do not want to do this with a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! that even when I'm with my boyfriend, I don't want to be together for as long a day as it sounds. I know that my feelings do not depend on me, but I still feel terrible and I do not want to do this with a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! that even when I'm with my boyfriend, I don't want to be together for as long a day as it sounds. I know that my feelings do not depend on me, but I still feel terrible and I do not want to do this with a real and good person like him.
He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! but I still feel terrible and I don't want to do that to a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! but I still feel terrible and I don't want to do that to a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance!
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Oh no, this must be a fake topic ... It can't be the hundredth topic of how we can't love the good boy, and whether to go after the bad one again ... Otherwise, dear, psychology is just something. Which will you appreciate more - the toy that you already have and have tossed for a year (in this case even 2 months), or the one that has slipped away from you? It's ugly to imagine that we are like a "toy" for others, if you see "love" here ... but the reality is that for most people it is just like that ... I can advise the girl to remember what his parents told him when they gave him toys ... Learn to appreciate them, not to constantly roar about what you don't have ... But of course, some things, if they don't develop by the age of 7, then hard work ...