Good morning all!
I'm a woman in my 30s. In the last 7 years. something is happening to me and I'm worried.
It all started after my stay in an infectious disease hospital. I had a high fever, vomited bile (mixed with black scales), had a terrible headache, and found it difficult to open my eyes. I had to have a puncture due to suspected meningitis - the result was negative. Then I was a student for the first time. This happened for the period 2011-2013.
Diagnosis: Acute viral infection, unspecified.
I went for a scan because of the headache and it showed again that I was healthy. So far so good, but there has been terrible hair loss to this day.
2013 I changed my specialty and everything seemed to subside. I decided it was all due to stress and tension at university. The hair loss continued even then.
In 2017 I visited a gynecologist and found nothing. At the same time, I moved in with my current husband, and all the symptoms seemed to worsen. I had a lot of clashes with his mother. She wants to control his life and tries to do the same with me and control our family in general. We have to live in them until our home becomes habitable. It has already taken 3 years ...
In the summer of 2018. we got married and to this day I feel as if something is wrong. Back in 2017. I began to receive crises, the origin of which was clarified only at 5 months. It turned out that I had a folded bile. My liver was enlarged and my hair loss intensified, my weight changed dramatically and from 53 kg I became 48 kg. A series of hormone tests followed and I was told that my thyroid was slightly enlarged. I was not prescribed treatment.
Since then, I have been determined to get rid of everything toxic in my life. I started playing sports, eating healthy, enrolling in various courses and continuing to study. My main goal is to get rid of stress as much as possible.
My mother-in-law is still the same, but I'm not anymore. It is not tied to numbers or manipulations at all. I let her reap what she sowed. At university I no longer worry and I managed to protect myself from overheating. I made new contacts and my social life began to flourish. Unfortunately, my husband turned out to be a child who had not yet grown up, and I found out only now. From 11 years we are together and as much as I am uncomfortable writing it, I feel as if I have made a big mistake by going with it. If I had lived with him earlier, we would not have married. He is unable to recover and all the weight falls on me. We have been in them for three generations and you can figure out for yourself what it's all about ... His mother and grandmother are terribly pushy and want to control everyone and everything.
In the end, I have the feeling that what is happening to me is due to the wrong choices in my life. I want to have children, but I'm not convinced I've found the right person. I've never been with another man. He is my childhood love and I feel disappointed or seen sooner. I will soon start a new job and this motivates me even more to get better.
Tomorrow I will visit a gastroenterologist, do my thyroid tests and everything is fine. The weight is great and I have gained muscle mass. Hair loss continues. I intend to act as follows: 1). after the visit to the gastroenterologist I will go to the endocrinologist because of the liver; 2). in case everything is okay there, I go to a gynecologist and I will want to have sex hormones tested, because for years I have very hair on my chest, abdomen and as far as I can remember I get pimples if I eat jam ... I have some hypotheses about hair loss and I hope with this research to find the cause and relax. In my opinion, something may be wrong with the liver (accumulation of toxins), bile (malfunction), polycystic ovaries, chronic stress (distress), diabetes in the initial phase. Lastly, fungus on the scalp as a result of long-term henna :) and from there she also suffered liver.
If it turns out that I'm completely healthy and everything disappears as an option ... I sit down to talk to my husband and if we don't move out I leave him. I will not live my whole life under stress and tension as long as he does whatever he wants. Learn to take responsibility and take care of your family. I won't be in both roles all my life.
Thank you for your time, I need to share how I feel.
Please publish my story.
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