Hello, I am writing here because my life is very confused at the moment and I have no one to share it with. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, and we have been living together abroad for a year and a half. I don't trust him at all because he lied to me many times. He cheated on me, but I keep closing my eyes. If he raised the topic after the next time I caught him, he starts to feel sorry and tell me how he wants to be only with me and the like. And I'm bonding and I think it's going to change. We work together at his request, we live together and in a lie and infidelity I have not caught him for a year. The problem is that I suffocate when we are non-stop together, and when we are not I don't believe a single word. I don't know if he has changed as he says or if he will cheat on me again. Our daily life is monotonous, after work we hurry to go home to stay at the computer. We're not going anywhere, because he is sitting at the computer. He doesn't pay enough attention to me, and when I talk to him he tells me that because we work together there is no need to do things together after work. Our sex life has declined a lot, I walk around almost naked in front of him and he only watches on the computer or phone. About a month ago, a colleague with whom the three of us live made a few hints to me, and we've been having sex ever since. He is great, he makes me feel wanted, he takes care of me, we hear each other all the time, he wants (like me) to start working somewhere else and to continue to develop. It all started with him just because of sex, but I think I'm starting to fall in love. One week we were just the two of us, we slept together, he hugs me, kisses me, the sex is amazing, he always asks me if I'm hungry, if I'm cold, he holds my hand. I told my friend that things weren't going well between us, that I don't trust him and maybe he feels it already, and he asked us to have a child to prove to me that he wants to be with me. I do not know what to do. Whether to try to save my previous relationship or to end it and what happens to the colleague.
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By no means do you have a child with your current boyfriend! Many couples before the separation think that the baby will solve their problems, but in 95% of cases it just gets worse. Neither sex will start, nor will it start to pay more attention to you, and you will be busy with the child and you will feel even more neglected. He's just used to you and you're comfortable with him, and when he sees that things are getting rough, he starts manipulating and roaring at you, blabbering on about wanting to be a father and playing with your feelings and hopes at all. Very low. Fuck him, your trust in him has been undermined to the limit and rightly so. So the family does not start, the risk is too great. To be cycles on the computer, to walk on women, alive and well! Not to mention that you slept with someone else ... I don't even know what you mean by these things. Try with your colleague, there is no way to know what will come out, but there is nothing to lose. Lies, infidelity, ignoring, etc. What is it for you, what will you save?