Здравейте, много ми е трудно но реших да пиша тук защото просто няма на кого другиго да споделя моята мъка. В началото на годината се запознах с едно момче, дори по-скоро мъж който е доста по-голям от мен. Аз съм от малък град и за съжаление тук всичко се знае. Той наскоро стана на 25 години. Запознахме се на един фестивал, адски много си паснахме.. Виждахме се много пъти, опознахме се. Ходехме си и на гости. Той живее сам, работи за себе си, . постоянно беше свободен за забавления. Ходехме в Пловдив, защото има по - малка вероятност някой познат да ни види, все пак това беше една забранена игра. Нито моите близки знаеха, нито неговите. Всичко беше между нас и клипчетата и снимките, които си правехме... Аз започвах да се влюбвам, никога не бях харесвала толкова много някого. Тази усмивка не ми излизаше от ума. Постоянно се шегувахме, казваше ми, че съм луда и обсебена. Аз го обожавах, той мен също.. поне така твърди де. Правехме секс рядко, но това беше най-хубавия и страстен секс. Той беше опитен и това ми харесваше. Знаеше кога и къде да ме докосне, как да ме погали и аз се разтапях. Още в самото начало той ми беше казал, че не иска да ме наради, че няма нищо против да се виждаме дори приятелски. Аз пожелах, но тайно не се отказах от него. Виждахме се с нагласата да е чисто приятелски, и така беше, лежахме си и гледахме телевизия, докато аз не го видя че е целия надървен и не спира да ме гледа с онзи жаден за ласки поглед. Обичах този поглед, знаех какво обича, обичах да го гледам как се разтапя от удоволствие.. Един ден той ми каза, че не обичал да прави много секс, веднъж в месеца му стигало и затова не искал да ме разочарова, защото аз съм била искала и знаел, че ще бъда незадоволена. Аз му казах, че ми е достатъчно. Правех му свирка, с такова желание, че той не можеше да прикаже колко му харесва и му личеше. Той ме опипваше, целуваше ме навсякъде, обичаше да ме наплясква и да мачка гърдите ми, да ги хапе. Винаги когато му правех свирка той ме галеше долу и пъхаше пръстчета там, аз обожавах това, свършвах жестоко. Колкото и да му казвах, че ми харесва той не вярваше и знаеше, че искам да усещам него, а не пръстите му. Никога не му е било скучно, белезници, О-рингове, каишки, какво ли още не. Обичахме да се снимаме и после да се гледаме. Много неща сме правили... Не спирам да се чудя защо не иска да правим секс. Чудила съм се дали съм широка, питала съм го какво ли не, но отговор нямам. Винаги ми е казвал колко съм секси, винаги когато отида у тях и той е надървен.. Казвал ми е, че свирките които му правя са най-добрите които са му правили до сега. Това не е важно, той много може да говори, но да каже къде е проблема не иска. През юни се наложи да спрем да се виждаме но не заради нас, а заради мои. проблеми в семейството. В началото на август аз отидох да го. почерпя за рождения ми ден, той не очакваше аз отидох у тях и той адски много се зарадва да ме види. Тръгна да ме саблича надолу, но аз бях в цикъл и му казах да не го прави. Може би е искал да ме изчука. Хах, какъв подарък. Аз копнея за това, но не за секс, а за секс с него. Направих му свирка. Беше много доволен, интересното беше, че ме е чакал и за тези месеци през които не се виждахме не е бил а друга. Той е искрен и знам, че ако го е направил щеше да си признае. От тогава не сме се виждали. Не спирам да си мисля за това къде. може да е проблема.. Какво мислите Моля, модераторите да публикуват историята ми. Надявам се да изразите мненията си, и да ми помогнете с някакви напътствания. :)
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We can't know what the problem is, but it's not in you. Many men today cannot end up with vaginal stimulation just because of porn. You're not "wide" down there, but he's used to being stimulated with his hand, and that can be a problem for him. In general, men prefer whistles because there is no mental pressure to control when they end and so on. He may be afraid of getting pregnant if he has had unpleasant surprises in the past. I think you should only discuss this topic with him. He seems to be an honest man and will tell you what worries him,
Hi, You didn't say how old you are, but the fact that you're hiding gives me a bad feeling that you're smaller than he wants and has moral restraints. It feels kind of awful when you have sex, but nature doesn't ask. :) One thing is for sure, you are quite ardent, and once you master the whistles - you will not think of another. M32
You don't write how old you are. But so there is no commitment to you. And she may not want to get you pregnant or anything. However, I think he may have another wife. Because it's weird at 25 to want to have sex once a month. No friendly sex. Usually we women fall in love. Men can do it without falling in love. Don't get involved in games like friendly sex. There is no such thing.
Oh, how sweet and naive you are. :) My lover, as much as he tells me and proves that I am the only one, he would never replace me, I don't believe him, and you are attached to some sweet-talking stories. Men can do with .. with with different, I will disappoint you but at the age of 25 he is in the prime of his sexual experiences. Who will not want a young man, but will run away? !! After the man's first ejaculation, the seminal fluid changes, becoming smaller and more transparent. This can tell if he is cheating on you or not. I hope your uncle didn't hurt you because you fell head over heels.
How old are you ?
From the author: I know, I'm small, still 16. I don't know about getting pregnant, always with a condom, he doesn't risk it. For another woman, no, in the beginning when we met there was a friend with whom they did not see each other and separated. She had been tired of him for three years. For porn, yes, he watches porn, we even watched it together, but he much prefers to watch my photos and our videos and masturbate on them. This is kind of weird for me ...
From 2: Ho-ho, yes, you are quite small ... :) I would definitely have reservations with you if I were 25. To know that he uses you only for sex - decide if it suits you
At 16, and he's 25? Maybe he has some moral inhibitions and can't overcome his brain, doesn't want to sleep with a teenager and worries that he will hurt you. Maybe he doesn't feel reliable, he's not quite sure about the relationship, because he realizes that even if it's long, it won't be very serious. You like hiding, but it can be depressing. He is more mature, there are a number of worries that are far from your mind because you are small and sunken. It is normal not to be able to relax when everything is a secret and is a secret because of the difference in age and people's talk. Maybe he had a bad experience in the past. Once my boyfriend and I broke a condom, I was ovulating, we gave ourselves the last money for a pill, my whole body was shocked, the month was heavy, nasty, I was bleeding for 2 days, it only stained, it went for a cycle, because I no longer have a cycle came 1 month, and he had to come in a week, at most two ... we were collecting pennies for pregnancy tests. We were adults, but we were not very independent and it was a miracle. Abe, I haven't had sex in a long time. Then we both had a hard time relaxing. If your friend has had a similar story, he may be afraid that there will be no repetition, and with exactly the one with the least need. In any case, it will be a moral restraint, because otherwise I wouldn't be upset. There's no man who's aroused and doesn't want sex, you know? Moreover, we are talking about a young boy with experience. he may be afraid that there will be no repetition, and exactly the one with the least need. In any case, it will be a moral restraint, because otherwise I wouldn't be upset. There's no man who's aroused and doesn't want sex, you know? Moreover, we are talking about a young boy with experience. he may be afraid that there will be no repetition, and exactly the one with the least need. In any case, it will be a moral restraint, because otherwise I wouldn't be upset. There's no man who's aroused and doesn't want sex, you know? Moreover, we are talking about a young boy with experience.
I'm the author ... Yes, it's a secret, we hide, but we don't hide because I want to or because we like to do it. We hide so as not to create unnecessary quarrels with family, etc. I hide from my family because I did not want to understand, although in the end my mother found out about it. He never said he wanted us to hide, we even walked calmly sometimes, we regularly tossed back and forth together. For the restraints, I have no idea .. I really wonder why he doesn't want to have sex with me, or wants to once a month, provided that. every time he keeps kissing me, caressing me, touching me and admiring me. To make me French, and to play with my fingers. He was constantly kissing my breasts and caressing my back. He liked to have a good time .... To want to give me pleasure in other ways. We've always said to ourselves what we like and what we don't. There is nothing hidden. I don't know why that could be so. What about restraints? What do you think? Something specific? And you men? Is it hellishly weird for me? He had told me some time ago that he knew I wanted sex, so he didn't want to hurt me. He said it would be a little bit for me once or twice. times a month. He didn't want to hurt me, but he was. At the same time, he loved being with me, next to me, and he loved the whistles I gave him. I was a goddess .. And I think it's weird for her to watch videos that end in me. body or do something and masturbate .. strange .. Hell of a lot of controversy I think. I have no idea .. More posts .. please. :) ' that I wanted sex and therefore did not want to hurt me. He said it would be a little bit once or twice. times a month. He didn't want to hurt me, but he was. At the same time, he loved being with me, next to me, and he loved the whistles I gave him. I was a goddess .. And I think it's weird for her to watch videos that end in me. body or do something and masturbate .. strange .. Hell of a lot of controversy I think. I have no idea .. More posts .. please. :) ' that I wanted sex and therefore did not want to hurt me. He said it would be a little bit once or twice. times a month. He didn't want to hurt me, but he was. At the same time, he loved being with me, next to me, and he loved the whistles I gave him. I was a goddess .. And I think it's weird for her to watch videos that end in me. body or do something and masturbate .. strange .. Hell of a lot of controversy I think. I have no idea .. More posts .. please. :) '
Author, what did you not understand? You are young. I'm already 30, I'm sure you'll get me physically aroused too, but you're small and I'd be sick. He just wants to, but he has reservations.
God, goddess of the whistles? !! That it has a whistle that is naughty, something I do not remember? Would you describe a divine whistle for us to learn?
If he had enough sex once a month, he wouldn't be aroused every time he saw you. As you describe things, he obviously has a special fetish, something he is probably ashamed of. Talk to him, assure him that he can share with you and approach with understanding anything. Maybe he prefers to end up on you, with his hand or something else. Another option is to dislike him with a condom, but he's worried about hinting at contraceptives. Once you understand what the drama really is, you can consult a sexologist if the problems persist.
Thanks for the comments., Number 11 - these are his words, I would say I'm good, but a goddess by no means. Number 12 - he told me he wanted to start cumming inside me, I told him I didn't want to take contraceptives. He told me he was afraid to take risks with anyone, so he always did it with a condom. Can he not want it because I don't let it end in me? Is it such a great pleasure? After I refused, he no longer raised the issue. In principle, he likes to end deep. in my throat. I don't know .. Number 10- Since the problem is in the years, why will he continue to see me and want to do some things when he is doing something else, isn't he sick? :)
11 Yes, ask your friend ...
Do not deceive the girl, because if he wanted her so much, age is not an obstacle. If you haven't read it well, he has sex with her, albeit quite rarely, and you comment that he didn't touch her sexually at all, just because he was afraid. Please, dear readers, before commenting, read the topic 2-3 times, if necessary, in order to clarify it and give objective advice. Every man reinforces his partner's desire by telling her that she is a goddess in sex, oral love, kissing, etc. For their part, women also do this by saying kind or perverted words to them, if you tell a man- "You you are a unique baby ", you are the only one who gives me pleasure", of course he will get angry and have a huge libido. There is another, in turn he goes with both, but neither of you knows. Or as they said above, he uses you from time to time for sex, and he has a serious girlfriend for a long time, and you know that monogamous people are rare. There is a huge difference between a serious friend and another like you, for time lapse and for physiological needs. It's abnormal for me to love and cheat, but there are plenty of them, so maybe she doesn't want to feel it and drives her more casually with you.
"Can he not want to, because I don't let him cum inside me? Is it such a big pleasure?" "Probably yes." And yes. It is not physical pleasure, everything is on a mental basis, to feel completely merged with someone in your most intimate moment. A condom also does not have a positive effect on intimacy. Is drinking contraceptives such a big sacrifice for you? If so, consider an alternative - for example, mascara. I understand that it is not pleasant to pour chemistry or to have various things in your body, but sometimes such sacrifices are necessary for a relationship if you do not want it to gradually die. He certainly likes sex, and at best is often content to watch your shared videos. The worse one has another and you are his extra fun.
Up to 16 ––– Your comment shows your husband. You are not familiar with female physiology, but why do you recommend mascara? 1- Spiral DOES NOT FIT in unborn girls !!! 2- Contraceptives are NOT ACCEPTED !!! 3- Men are irresponsible and think about their pleasure, as there are people like the author's boyfriend and comment 16 ... A woman will NEVER trust you! 4- Why should a 16-year-old girl ruin her health just to please her "big" friend? !! To the author - Do not bind yourself at all and do not let it end in you, because you will be the one who will suffer when you make trouble, how will you set fire to your shoes at a hundred km per hour, and you will wonder and worry. He has no serious intentions towards you! Men have tactics to get angry by not getting something, but there are naive girls and they please them. First make sure he's serious,
From №16: №17 you are right - I am a man. I was not familiar with the details of the IUD, but I think it is generally necessary to consult a doctor before taking contraceptives. As for the subject of selfishness - there are arguments against both sexes, as well as exceptions - I think that a debate on this issue is unnecessary. The author asks a specific question - looking for the reason why her "friend" is pulling. Accordingly, we indicate possible options. It is absolutely possible that they have nothing to do with the real situation. Honestly, the fact that the gentleman in question has not admitted what makes him behave in this way increasingly leads me to think that he may be hiding other things. An open conversation between the two is a must to clarify which side expects what from this relationship. And whether any sacrifices are needed at all to maintain something that probably has no future.