I Don't Know How To Feel. HELP!

   Pampered. You sound extremely infantile. Are you in a relationship because of gifts, or because of the person next to you? I see the beginning of a claim that will drink the blood of this man ... If you think of such things from now on, then it is SURE that tomorrow you will start singing to him and nagging that he does not take you to resorts, that he does not he bought you a leather coat, like your girlfriend's husband, and a whole bunch of other things. And the horse went to the river ... - this will be the end. Our grandmothers have always dressed in resorts! Why do you need to compare it with others? Isn't he the only one for you ?! She wanted presents to make her feel urgent ... How funny you sound, and even ugly! Even on the question posed in this way, it becomes clear that you are not special, but you are the most elementary guild. If you give so much importance to gifts, why don't you give him gifts yourself? He is just as valuable and special to you, as much as you for him. What's more, you can stimulate him and he will start doing it for you. Finally, give up the absurd idea that a woman has some privileges in a relationship, that she is a princess to whom she owes something.

   As you are so many kilometers apart, it can't help but cool down. There may be another there. Where a person's daily life is, there he feels good. That's why he doesn't make gestures to you, because he's here for a short time, he's already a stranger. I don't know why you struggle with such relationships and how you trust someone who is in another country. And is a man will rarely admit that he cheats on you, never rely on talk. The truth is that distance has alienated you.

   Someone complained to me about such nonsense and I immediately jumped out. Love is love, it's not bad to do these things, but I can't justify such dramas when I don't do them with anything.

   I think it's more important what you feel, not what you show. There are people who are reserved and do not like to show their feelings to others. If you love the person, you accept him as he is. If you start with the pretensions, with the comparisons with this and that, the relationship begins to fall apart. You are too influenced by your girlfriends, not to be left behind you want gestures, roses, etc. showy stories. Love is not like a new garment to brag to friends about. I assume you're too young and you're worried about that. There is a very good thought in The Little Prince: "You can only really see with your heart. The essential is invisible to the eyes. “

   To those who have not understood obviously (especially the first person) - no, I have not pampered or wanted resorts and so on, I am just one of the people who prefer their halves to show them their affection

   My husband is a benchmark in this regard. He is so careful and caring that it is natural for me to give me flowers without a bait, to hold my hand on the street, to kiss me without worries when we are among people. He is close to a person, dear. It must come from within. It doesn't work for you. Pity!

   It's not love if he doesn't give you presents now and doesn't hold hands, provided you're displaced by what you expect in the future. Come on, be non-stop together for 1 month and tell me how you will feel for the rest of your life? You just don't have a sober judgment.

   You are not spoiled and do not lower your criteria and put up with behavior that makes you feel bad. If you feel neglected and feel that something is wrong, then there is a reason. It is not true that small gestures are not important. If the person really cares about you, he will try to pay attention to these things. He almost publicly distances himself from you - a man he loves does not behave like that. I've been in such a relationship and I've found thousands of excuses for him - that not everyone likes to show their feelings, that some people are cooler, but that doesn't mean they don't like you, that small gestures and flowers were ligatures ... he he couldn't show affection ... nonsense on wheels. You know what happened after we broke up - it turned out that with the next one he came from the inside and it was only natural for him to do all these things, which did not for me and show affection. He just didn't care for me enough. He didn't have to try. I wasn't the right woman for him to show off his best and that's it. Do not reconcile and do not compromise with yourself. The person will appear, to whom it will come naturally and from within to do all this with you and he will do it with pleasure. Comments such as those of number 1, which devalue the woman and aim to humiliate you and suggest that you have no value and you should be almost grateful for any male attention, directly ignore. You don't need such men, let them find a woman according to their taste - after all, there are passengers for every train. You know how many men make such loud statements, but when the right woman appears, they suddenly find their master and you can't recognize them. It all comes down to whether he met the right woman. If for some these are nonsense and pretensions - for others they are not. You hold on to the things that are important to you. If you value and respect yourself enough, the man next to you will also appreciate and respect you.

   And he is one of the people who prefer not to show their affection, and what can we do to help? "It's just me" is indicative that you JUST consider yourself the center of the universe. JUST.

   And how did he even know that he loved you, since he neither told you nor demonstrated it. It is absolutely normal when you have an attraction to a person to seek physical contact with him - whether through a hug, kiss, holding hands and / or other, it is normal to do so. How does he even show you his love that you are so sure of? F32

   And I'm restrained in these acts of love, but that doesn't mean I don't love. We found out that you are a pretentious league because of this "drama" and "HELP!" In the title, this relationship is doomed and not because of the distance.

   In particular, I can say on numbers 10, 11, 12 that you have obviously not experienced such a thing, whether you are a man or a woman. To be honest, I'm happy for you, I don't feel the need to attack you as you attack me. If it happened to you, you would understand why it is HELP, etc. I'm sad that for you this means that I'm a liar, because it becomes clear to me how you were raised and with what values, especially for that, instead of helping someone who obviously feels this for a long time and needs advice, you attack and insult (for 10 and 12) so as the woman of 9 said I will not pay attention to your words and malice. Many thanks to the woman who did not attack me, but was really nice and helped in some way. For the man who wrote 11 - I'm sure of his love,

   Emmy author, this is not normal. He rarely comes, at least when he comes, he should give you something, kiss you, hug you. I had such a long-distance relationship and I was hesitant about the same things. When I met a person who does these things - gives a bouquet, takes care of, etc., then you see that it was not normal. It was the same with me. Amy looked at it from another perspective. He lives in Germany, you are here. It is clear that he is earning some money. Isn't it right for him to buy you a present from there, to surprise you with something if he loves you? To show that he thought of you and tried before he came. I tell you from experience and it was the same with me. He worked for the man, he made money, he didn't take a rose from me, he didn't buy me a hairpin, and I, the naive fool, then sympathized with him, how unjust, he was penniless, because he only repeated that he had no money. And then I wasn't even working yet and collecting money when he came to pay for a room to spend the night. And I collected for months because I really didn't have money. Can you imagine how far you have come? For you, a similar job. It is a shame for a man, especially if he returns from abroad, not to take a wrist of 3 leva where it is called. Uncle Scrooge's final form. They are left alone. And here we are not talking about the fabrications of men that we have demanded, gifts blah, blah. This is an attitude. To come back from there, to think in advance where you will go, to show that he thought how to make you happy. Sit in a nice restaurant, not a potato salad for both. There are many more naive Bulgarian women than gold diggers, so I am annoyed by topics in which men accuse women of loving money. I know many more women who have felt sorry for a man at some point, money was given to him as his name and whatever you can think of. And I wonder in my mind then how stupid I was. Instead of buying something for myself because I had no money at all, I spent months collecting money to pay for his hotel room. Fortunately, you haven't gotten there, but there are some alarming signs. And it's okay to hug you and kiss you, after all, and you haven't seen each other in a long time. And to surprise you with something, it is right to prepare a program in advance where to go, to think, this is an attitude.

   Author, you have to understand that people express such an attitude towards you, because that's how you present yourself to all of us. Here are others who stand entirely behind you 5 was a bastard, did not deserve you and just remove it. We are different people. Some take down stars, others don't. However, everyone feels a sense of love. If you don't like the way he loves you and that's a big problem for you, split up. Without defending the people who "attack" you, I will say that it is very ugly and a bad indicator of your personality if you feel bad because your friend did not make gestures in front of OTHER people. That's your problem. Good health from me.