Hi, I'm a teenage girl, I'm 16! I want to ask you for advice because I don't know how or what to talk to people. I have a few girlfriends in your class, but we don't see each other outside of school and frankly, I don't consider them real friends - they're just not my type. I have 2-3 real friends outside of school and I can be myself with them and not care at all and we're really close. It's just that if we go to a party and they bring other friends, I'd be ashamed to talk to them - because I don't even know what to say - not say something stupid and then they're going to comment on me and say I'm super stuck - but I realize that from those worries I'm really getting more closed. I want to talk to different people, but I just don't know-how. I'm a little chubby too, and that's a lot of my self-esteem. But at times I don't have a problem meeting someone like at sea I met a guy and it was great - I wasn't worried at all that I was a chubby or anything. To tell you the truth, I don't understand what's wrong with me and why I'm like that. I want to talk to the boys and go to parties, but I know if I go to a party I'd be ashamed to dance so people wouldn't say anything. For example, being with my girlfriend, I'm not ashamed at all, and she'd never say I'm shy, but if she wants to introduce me to a friend of hers, I won't be able to say a word to her. I'm really asking the editors to publish it because I really want to find out what's wrong with me. Thank you in advance!
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missfire69 answered · June 10, 2020
It's like reading for myself, god! And I was the only one. You just described me. I'm exactly the same! I've been like this for years. I thought it was just not for me. But I didn't recognize it. For the second time I went to university in both majors, which I studied, it was exactly the same as at school. While all my colleagues and colleagues talk, gather outside the university, socialize, I'm a lone wolf... I can't say a word to anyone. Well, there are people I talk to and we talk to a few times and we have a story, but only if I talk to them individually. If a third person or more is included, it's over. I'm not in the conversation anymore. The two of them talk, and I look like a calf. That's always the case with any people! And that doesn't work, because I guess they just don't want to talk to me. I don't know why. And if I try to say something to someone I open a topic, I try to communicate, but he does not want as if, avoids the conversation, answers briefly. And when another person starts talking to him, you get a tree for hours. This is what happens to my colleagues, my former colleagues from my previous major, my classmates from school. I don't know. Yes, I confess, I'm fat. I'm not a sexy chick. But that's why they can't help communicating with me. to supplement among my colleagues and the companies I have always been to there were more fat girls and those who are not very beautiful, but communicate with them without a problem... I also have a few close friends with whom I get along greatly, but whenever I'm introduced to someone, I'm ashamed of how I'm going to like him, and especially if I'm introduced to a whole company, I'm very ashamed of how they're going to perceive me... because I don't get communication, it's because I'm ugly and fat. I don't know what's wrong with me. But that's why it's so hard for me to tie any contact when I like a boy... and the fear that the likes of me will also be outraged at how disturbing, difficult-to-understand and boring I am that and both ugly and fat on top of that you imagine what it is... and that's what's leading me to complexes now. I feel humiliated. And the other girls my age, they don't have a problem with someone who communicates with him calmly and relaxedly and they know what words to say to him, so they impress him, they know how to seduce him... and with me none of the above things can work. I feel like I'm a total shame.