there is something I hate with all my heart. Something that confuses me in life. And it makes me feel feelings inside that I don't like. Feelings that burn me from within. I hate to be criticized. I hate being told what to do. I hate to be underestimated. I hate being a persona non grata. I hate to be given epithets, labels and the like. I hate a lot of things related to my state of mind and the way a particular group of people treat me. I feel like shouting to scream to break something, but when the hatred is stronger I am at a dead end. Why the hell do I want to be appreciated. Why do I revolve in a circle of unhappiness and hatred.
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I am the same. This is narcissistic behavior, the result of strong parental attention in early childhood. We are used to being taken care of, the attention is focused on us, to be special, to do what we want and so on :) Many people have it, but most of them overcome it somehow. I've taken it upon myself to realize that it's just another program in my brain.
'Why the hell do I always want to be appreciated' - THIS IS YOUR PROBLEM. Man, stop caring about their opinion and approval and you will see how you will start to feel that you are blossoming with life! You only need to care when you will have a specific benefit from a specific person! They feel that you care and kind of caress your ego by criticizing and teaching you. Don't you think they want you to be well, let alone better than them? Oooo - Absurd! It's one thing to be criticized and taught by your parents, because your parents really want you to be well and progress, but the others are just one .. as they were called .. emotional vampires; D Come on calm down and adjust that for you your judgment is the most correct. Smile more, look them straight in the eye and you don't care at all :) See that they are also full of defects and minuses ... and you know what - don't tell them,
Well look at every second word you "hate" and change that. Say "I want" and "I can" and "I will do it" or "I will try" and only then wait for the evaluation results.
Why are you so dependent on other people's evaluation? Believe in yourself, respect yourself and have self-confidence. You yourself. You don't need someone else to give you confidence and grades. Work on it. And others treat you like that because they feel that you are attached to them and we depend on their opinion. When you stop depending on them, they will stop. And where does so much hatred come from in you? Every second word is' I hate. Calm down. Think positive and believe in yourself.
Because you're bad. Therefore! Envious and grandma. "A man who did what he did ... You know it from now on.
Sometimes you will have to endure criticism no matter how unpleasant you are! In life no one will caress you with a feather!
That's number 6, no one will pet him with a feather, like many other people, like me and I guess you. But, I don't like the way you tell him, "you have to put up with this." I rather advise him not to get tied up and not to care, because not only will no one caress him with a feather, but everyone is trying to impose himself and his interest. And it is very important not to be attached to various human egos, except when there is no personal interest - and then, just to simulate some kind of consent. Otherwise complete indifference and that's it.
Look what, I'm also very uncomfortable being criticized, but I accept it, I feel terrible and humiliated for a while, but then it passes. Life is dishonest and unjust sometimes. I also tried to criticize the other people around me, because they criticize me too, but I didn't succeed. And they start with that and tell me to shut up. Not fair! They had the right to criticize me, and I have no right to criticize them. Ah, not to be seen! God dammit! Where will this happen from? Well, if I don't have the right to be criticized, then they don't have that right either. So calm down and don't get upset about unnecessary things and don't worry! Everything will be fine! The most important thing is to be alive and healthy. My advice in this case is not to pay attention to them and they will stop. Or tell them: "Watch your work"! And if a fight breaks out and they start beating you, you slap them too! Be firm! Stand up for yourself and your rights! Prove to yourself that you are independent of them and that they have no right to tease you in this way. Trust me! Don't feel like garbage! Be yourself!
Any criticism is constructive. I have been criticized a lot and I appreciate it every time because it gives me guidance on what to change in my behavior in order to be successful and liked. If you refuse criticism, you risk being left alone and vicious.
Number 9, that's right! Criticism has to be accepted anyway. But they must be justified. For example, when I am criticized by my parents or other older people, I accept it because I understand my mistakes. Look now, no one is born sinless, everyone more or less makes mistakes and one must be criticized to make them easier to realize. One learns from one's mistakes !!!! Parents have also received criticism from their parents. Older people have lived longer and are therefore more experienced. They need to listen the most. And younger people too. I want to be successful and liked. I want to have good friends, a good future, not to stay mean, people to stay away from me and feel like an outsider. I'm not blaming anyone, I'm just telling the TRUTH ITSELF !!!!!!!! This is from me! See you soon!!!! - Written again from №8.