Hello! I have a girlfriend of 2 years. Our whole relationship is filled with problems like intimacy and old past things. Mostly children's things like picking and tearing. When we last left, things were going well until the problem of intimacy between us started. She didn't do it and she's a year younger than me. I procrastinated this thing for a long time ... There is no definite reason why and how ... We spent a year and the problems like why you don't want to be with me started. And I didn't have a formulated answer to answer her and I didn't want to talk about it (I loved her and wanted to be with her) but something was pushing me. From nerves or fear I do not know over time a gap and tension is formed between us. It got colder has nothing to do with the girl I fell in love with. We just talk about the past, we connect it to the present, and we constantly argue and talk about it. From this tension between us, I feel that both she and I cannot relax. And when we try to do something on my part, it gets stuck. And we always rely on the fact that I had no desire, that I was going to relax with another, and so we get nowhere. And that guides our attitude towards each other. I don't want it to be a loss, I realize everything clearly. But I just don't know where to start. Is the relationship already exhausted through my fault and if we are intimate will things change? I don't know ... It's just not the girl I wanted to be the change with and she's radical. She is always right, she sticks to what she wants, even if at times she overdoes it and sees that she is wrong. I just put up with just not arguing that it's getting scary ... I just don't know
1 _yoshida_akari answered
She acts like an energy vampire. This usually happens as a side effect of the projection of one of the partners. When your partner (in this case your girlfriend) projects on you a past relationship with one of your previous partners and actually sees him in you (but you can't be him), at some point reality knocks on your door and irritates. In these cases, the whole world becomes the culprit of the partner and he begins to hate and try to crush the partner on which he has designed so far and did not meet his expectations. You can talk about it, but hardly anything will change. Most likely there will be a scandal and no real improvements. She just doesn't want you, she wants the idea. You can only help her by breaking up with her and sending her away with this idea she is in love with.