Hello, I am a girl living in New York, I met the man of my life two years ago, but there is a problem, I am 20 years old and he is 24, but he is married with two children, his wife is 16 years older than him. I've met a nastier woman I've never seen (vicious, short, fat, and how nasty he treats the boy, I feel sorry for him). So he works hard and supports them, not only them, but also her family (he earns a lot of money, has a production company and now gets an inheritance), but anyway I love him not because of the money, but because of himself. He is a funny, kind and amazing man and he wants us to live together. He does not love his wife, but he did not divorce because of the children, according to him it is very important for the father to be present while the children are growing up (his father died of cancer when he was only 10 years old). His children are so cute one is 4 the other is 5 years old and both are boys. Now he is determined to divorce her and take the children, but he first asked me if I would like to live together as a happy family. His children like me very much and have already started calling me mom. I am completely ready to take care of them, but still, if I did well, I am very happy ... but I wonder ... Please let me know if I did the right thing or not. Thank you in advance! I am very happy ... but I wonder .. Please let me know if I did the right thing or not. Thank you in advance! I am very happy ... but I wonder .. Please let me know if I did the right thing or not. Thank you in advance!
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I went through the same thing in the United States ... you didn't do well. I met the love of my life there, but I decided I had no right to ruin a family. If he divorces the children will blame you for the end of their family, it's not that simple just because they tell you mom. In the event of a divorce, he must pay maintenance to his wife and children, a mortgage and your new family will probably be deprived. There is probably a crisis in their marriage, it's normal, he fell in love with you, you with him, but that's not enough ...
If you love each other and you are ready to look after his children, I think you are doing the right thing. I wish you to be very happy and some day to have your own child. Good luck
Forget it and find another.
From the author, To number 1, thank you for the sincerity ... More than once he came home with the children because his wife got drunk and screamed and even hit one of the children ... the children do not want to be with her because they are being bullied not to mention him .... his wife is neurotic and hysterical and drinks a lot of alcohol .... To number 2 thank you for the support very kind of you and thank you for the wishes :)
Are you sure of your feelings for him? I ask because you're only 20, and you're ready to even look after his children, and probably give birth to yours. And the fact that his children call you "mom" should not be a factor at all ... I mean, children are easy to manipulate, and when they grow up a little, instead of calling you "mom", they probably won't want to they see because you took their father away. You can't take care of them because they are not orphans, they have a mother. In your place, I would look for a free man.
As a rule, if the kids like you, take them with you and you will be such a young, nice family with your friend.
They call you "Mom". That's great. I see the idea is great to take care of the boys once they love you. :)))))) Good luck!