Hello. I have been living abroad for several years and I am in 11th grade, but now I am with different people and they just don't accept me. Maybe because I'm a foreigner, but I'm just isolated from them, I can't go to someone and make friends, it's naughty to go to school and "have no friends". I actually have them, but I rarely see them, and 80% of the time I'm like a stranger. I'm good in character, in appearance - most like me, but that's it. In fact, I'm an outsider. How do I deal with that, loneliness is a terrible thing, being in a place with 500 people and feeling alone. I like to be alone, but not lonely .. What can I do To return to Bulgaria? I have a hobby, and turn off telling me to go to some activities to meet people, it does not happen. How can I just fit into the situation, I can't be impudent with my classmates,
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Talk to someone find your hobby or find common topics to talk about. It may just have happened to you. Good luck and success for the future
See, they are not going to change, in order to adapt to, you have to do it. I have also been abroad for many years. The first year was very difficult and lonely for me. It took me a while to realize that I was a stranger to them, I was the different one, who didn't understand and that's why they decided to stay away. And I thought the same of them. Well, in the end, I am on their side and I have to adapt to them. So it is. I pushed myself to get to know each other, to go out together, etc. Over time, I already have a lot of friends, even in fact my whole environment is already here. You will need to look for contact and the opportunity to be close to them.
Getting started is hard and I really know how you feel. This also applies to the school in a work environment. Most likely, on the one hand, they isolate because you are a foreigner, on the other hand, this may be in their culture. At work, for example, it is good for everyone to maintain good relationships, jokes are made, people talk to each other ... but nothing more and that's it. I am also outside and I know what is wrong with you. If there are other foreigners or Bulgarians around you, try to establish contacts with them. They know what's wrong with you because they're going through it, or they've been through it. If you have just stopped there, it is best to be patient. Nothing is known and as you say by force beauty does not happen and they may need time to get used to you and get to know you. But even then this is not mandatory. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Write them off so much that you don't fall asleep on your hat. You will meet other people at some point.
I have experienced and continue to experience just such things. I still can't fit in - no one insults me or anything, but I'm obviously not interesting enough to anyone. I can't give you advice because I have no idea how to fix this thing, but at least know that there are others like you. And loneliness feels very good right among various crowds. Here today I was on an aniventure with crowds of people with cool interests and yet I never know how to make an acquaintance. I don't think I'm ugly, I'm not rude, I can talk about many topics and yet I can't do this job with contacts. And for others it seems so easy and natural, without resistance, without awkward moments. It probably just looks that way, but I know. Maybe it's from the energy we radiate. For people like us, outsiders, we need a HELL of luck - to get to the right place at the right time, where there would be people who would give us a chance. But I personally got tired of looking, hoping ... It hurts a lot. Too much.
Start training, I know you said you don't want such suggestions, but when you train a person, his brain releases endorphins and so naturally your brain will cope with the situation, plus you build body and character! :)
Thank you very much. By the way, I train, study and have goals in life, these goals and music are the things that keep me on my feet. Maybe these are all trials that will prepare me and make me stronger. Otherwise, to number 4, and you do not give up, try a hobby and do things that give you pleasure, like me fitness and music. Don't give up, and in time the past will make you realize how strong you are, what you went through, but it won't be in vain :). They don't insult me either, they have respect, which is nice, but they don't try to they get to know me, every year I have a different class, but I only found decent friends, but they moved and now we have no contact. So as they say "I won't give up, because I have so many ***** to proove wrong";)