Hi!
It's a story, but please know it's not your fault. Don't feel like an idiot at all, or anything like that, because you slept with your two-year-old friend, or that it sucked.
The boy in question, I can only call an undergrown, self-insecure scumbag. Not that when I was a student, a lot of people didn't learn, but nowadays, referring mainly to your macho, things seem to have gotten worse. They're slapping on the butt, that's fast-checking and likeness right with porn movies being advertised, and to apply them when you're having sex for the first time with your girlfriend... you must have totally stopped with the cerebral cortex. Explaining that it doesn't satisfy you sexually, since you've only done it once, guess what, there's still no brain cells. I'm sorry if that offends you.
About school and the fact that he's blown up to classmates - your only option to go as easy as possible is not to show you at all that it offends you/ affects you when someone laughs at you or starts talking to you about this stuff. Unfortunately, children are unscrupulous and like to bully (at least in my observations). The more you show that your subject is sick and affects you, the more time the will continue. But! Try not to worry about it - as much as possible - before it happens. By September, there's time, and eventually no one's bothering you.
If you still want to take a defensive position, let's say in case someone attacks you, that you're a tree, that you have a big butt and small breasts, you have two options. The first - you speak frankly, calmly, like "yes, I may have been a tree, what is expected when it's my first time? no one was born scientific," or anything like that. I'm giving it to you as a guide. The second option is to be offensive - but you had a little butt, tell them he's got a little dick. Well, you were a tree with your trees. You kind of pass the ball to him, so the aggression divides.
Look, don't blow it, because it's going to pass. Don't let one story waste more precious time and nerves than is normal. You look smart, and life goes on. There is a fairy tale - every miracle in 3 days. I personally have been through hundreds of similar situations, since I was more open and sociable at school, from there I have some experience and give you an opinion. Good luck, be smiling and don't give up on fools!
I can only imagine how you felt about how humiliating and stupid a situation you felt.
If you've blown anything you can't do, people say every miracle is for 3 days .If it's an option, change the school, though it's pretty radical.
If you're not going to have to deal with the jerk and the consequences of it with his head up and that's it.
You didn't embarrass yourself, and you're actually too superficial and cruel to see the reality. I'm going to tell you a story like that that struck me when I was 15 years old.
A man forced me and I told a friend in the class .She told everyone "within days everyone was spitting on me, they were calling me a whore, a slut, they were probably doing it with something... Then I not only had to deal with the shock of the experience ,not only with the pain and humiliation (but with the betrayal of a close friend and the taunts of an entire class ).
I didn't get support on my own. He's got a cention who laughs over the scar doesn't know what a wound is! Don't let the unworthy break you!
I wish you happiness and head up.
Oh, come on. He can say your butt is green on points, how you're going to stop it. You can't control people's adoring. You're going with your head up. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG!!! When you start to get scorned, you don't care what he says. And you got rid of a bully and an abuser, which is a fact. They'il talk for three days, and then it's over. Everyone expects you to be crushed and crushed, but you have to let it happen. Now think about the future, don't break the next one through the same prism. And don't idealize so much the first time, the good is yet to come.
Hello, sweet girl. Now we're going to have to build your defense. It's not going to be easy, he's preparing for a tough fight. To everyone he's told, you can tell stories about his impotence and how he didn't really become his dick. I also advise you to pay somewhere to beat him up, or to give him a big fight.
Hmm... at the moment I am sincerely glad that I have not gone to bed with anyone yet; it is such cases that force me to be more careful and not to give myself easily to anyone, especially not to be susceptible to manipulation by boys of our age.
So, to your problem— you were in love and blinded; feelings often cloud the mind, it is normal. You felt pressured and succumbed to the pressure, I think it's a normal reaction. Maybe you were also internally worried about losing him precisely because of his frequent insused; I guess he planted your guilt.
People like him these days are everywhere... even if they cover it successfully for quite a long time. The truth is that one should always have one mind and seek to unravel the behavior of those around him, especially in such relationships. You're young and inexperienced (as I am) and that's a very bad joke in this case... always know one thing: if they press you for anything in any form, they're not for you. That, in my opinion, is the golden rule.
About the other thing- I don't think at school, no one would dare say anything. The girls will immediately find out which "league" this young man is from and realize that he is a player who is clearly composed enough and insecure enough in himself that he is inclined to offend and spread such stories. The boys (depending on whether they're like him) tend to react to his words, but they're unlikely to come face to face with you to make fun of you. You can't expect understanding from his acquaintances and friends, they're certainly from his "breed," as they say. But you shouldn't care about that. Whoever is mature enough will quickly understand exactly what it is about and will exclude this softly spoken hormonal puberty from its surroundings.
I see that you are a smart, literate girl, keep up the same spirit — work on yourself and give yourself time after this relationship; don't embark on a new relationship when you're not ready. Let them pass the wounds of old love a little bit, as they say. I'm sure you'il find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and will never dare treat you as something less or somehow manipulate you. There will always be rubbish, look out for them, be cautious and quickly throw them out where they belong! That's my final advice to you.
I wish you lots of smiles and peace of mind.
— M. R., 18 years
I'm sorry, but what's with a brain-dead diva with testicles in his head instead of a brain? First, no normal man or normal woman tells left and right what he has done with his partner. It's called self-esteem and respect for the person you've been intimate with, even if things haven't happened! Second, you were a virgin and inexperienced, and you can't be like a actress in bed. Experience is acquired over time, and it's more than logical, but apparently your ex is too dumb to think of it. You can't play something great while you're still learning your first chords. Third, as a virgin, he was obliged to predispose you, but not you, and he sucks in bed and he didn't.
The most sensible thing to do is change school. Another option is to stand up to everyone on your own and explain how much he doesn't cost in bed, because he can't predispose a girl, how dumb he is to expect a virgin to be a goddess in bed, as she teaches A and B in sex, and that probably as you tell others, so will other girls, and some don't want to talk gossip behind his back, especially when it comes to his intimate life. Only it requires a game of words and psyche, which you will probably find difficult to find because you are stressed by the situation.
Black Sabbath
Most likely it was one of the alfies of the class, to them the girls have a strong passion, which is confused with love.
Give yourself time, then give the goggles a chance.
Honey, I'm 17, too, and not so long ago, I dated an idiot like yours. I'm in a lot of pain, too, and I understand how you feel. Used and transmitted. I'm really sorry to hear your story. But the last thing you have to do is think about the opinions of others. To laugh and say whatever they want. You have to pay attention to yourself now. You have to raise your head and remember that even though you now feel like he's taken everything from you, there's a part of you that he'il never be able to take away from you. We all make mistakes. We have to learn to forgive each other. I hope I've managed to make you feel a little better.
P. S. hit his slap haha
Oh, it's not your fault, how do you know you're reunited with a bigoted man and a class manipulator. It's his parents' fault for not educating him to become human. And what, they're going to make fun of you, even though there's nothing for the villains. Good classmates and your friends will be on your side. I know you're that you gave this guy your virginity, but let's not let that hate all the boys, because there are decent guys who would even beat him up, that slob! Head up there and know, you didn't do anything to be ashamed. And that's going to pass! And you can deny to the end that you weren't with him, no one thought of you after all. I've finally found out that I've slept with a lot of people I haven't.
Apparently, this pisser wanted to emulate some character from a late movie. Then he left you so he wouldn't be held accountable. The consequences are bad for you, though. Because if he hadn't left you, you'd definitely leave him with that attitude. I even wonder how you managed to tell your mother. Good luck going forward, and remember that's not all of them, and for the students at the school, don't worry. They can make movies without them.
Oh, my God. when you start with these "merits"...
But you'il understand it further :)
Accept that this man has serious problems with himself, once he gets there, humiliating a girl. He will always remain unhappy and unsatisfied. He's killing some serious complexes.
You're all right. Every virgin girl is a tree. I was a tree all year after my first time. But I'm still with him, 12 years later.
Have your self-esteem, and if someone at school asks you anything, say you were wrong with that person. Come up with a flaw in him and say it, in all-around.
Puck, who knows and respects you, won't believe that sick brain. Take it easy!
I understand you're almost an adult, but this guy clearly doesn't deserve you.
There's something for? If you were in front of me right now, I'd yell at you that you think you're guilty of something.
Girl, sex is not a bad thing, and in a normal situation it is not painful. Your ex somehow decided that the first time might be part of a movie, but that's not going to happen. I'm really sorry, you can't know, but I'm mad at this guy, and I wish you hadn't experienced something so nasty. The really bad thing is, you're going to have an unpleasant memory, a slight injury, and it's going to take you a long time to believe a boy again. Sex is a feeling, an emotion, and you just haven't been lucky with that experience of you. You're not a tree. The first time is painful, the boy has to approach you carefully, and you have to be calm. This whole story is based on the fact that he was rude to you, not that you weren't good in bed. The truth is that in time and with the right person you will have amazing intimate experiences, and then you will already realize that you do not have an ounce of guilt for the first time.
I advise you not to let anyone crush you, remind you of that and laugh at you. Stand up proudly and say that sex is done by two, and if it's not good, it can't be your fault alone, especially from one experience, and first for you. The more you fit in and show weakness, the more people will take advantage of it and talk. For your years, it's normal to entangle dramas and intrigues, everything will pass for a few months until something new happens to someone, so that there's a new gossip on the agenda. Try to be strong, accept what happened and react with dignity to the response.
Walk with your head held high and you don't care about that shit! What do you buy, find something else to blacken him for!
If I were you, I'd deny that this ever happened.
Separately, ask a psychologist for help, you'il need it.
He raped you, so you feel like that ,"-
It's weird that he showed off his face in two years. They don't usually wait that long. And whoever makes fun of it, he's not a quality person. You can only be glad that poor quality people show how poor they are. That way you can just run away from them. And to tell yourself that such "fuckers" are rising into a cult, with this behavior...
Be a strong girl, this guy raped you if you ask me! Why are girls more than us so stupid and naïve and let ourselves go to boys? Girl, raise your head and convince them you don't care, and you'il see in three days they'il have forgotten. The same goes for your breasts when they make fun of you for being small. Tell them, "Better small and exquisite than being big on the leg." Courage girl and you'il see how they're going to give up on themselves.
M.J.
Move to another school! Don't worry like that!
I felt bad for you, but I wasn't surprised. There are men like that. You should share with your mother. You shouldn't be afraid to tell your mother. She'il give you better advice.
I totally understand. Attack is the best defense!! Remember this well and never forget it, it will always help you in difficult situations, especially in this case. By no means show shame and despair, even on the contrary - since there are no witnesses, you can say anything... whatever comes to mind, you can humiliate him verbally, especially in front of girls, and so that he himself is ashamed and angry. Always counter his words. Since only you, the two of you know the truth, can not prove in any way the opposite of your words, the same applies to you, however, but the important thing is to get out of a position, you can even say that it never happened. let's see how he proves it... It's just words., Never leave yourself to a man! Never!!
He's number 16 again when they ask him to walk with his head held high and say that in bed from him and a cabbage dick doesn't work! A real man will never jump on you like a wild animal. This man is not, but some kid who, if they send him to the barracks, will cry right away that he wants to be with Mom.
You tell the others he was a little boy.
Honey, it sucks what you've been through, but every miracle in three days like people said. Your classmates will quickly find new topics to talk about and completely forget about this guy's fairy tales and... T.
Look, it's worse, the memory he left you, he's going to haunt you for a long time, and no wonder in your next relationship you're having a problem because of it. You're just going to be afraid to relax, you're going to think it's always going to hurt, and it's going to suck, and so on.
So as hard as it is for you, try to accept that what he did to you has nothing to do with love and yes, when you're with a loved one, you should be nice to both of you, and not hurt, and if something is not OK and someone is uncomfortable, you have to stop, even if you have to talk and only then continue. Sex with a loved one should bring pleasure, not pain! I'm so sorry about what you've been through, but i guess it's supposed to be this way to learn your lesson, namely that there are too many guys who care about you, not because of who you are as a person, but just to sleep with you. It's not fair, but it is!
It's happened to me, too. I'm even going to tell you so you can see that almost every one of us has bad memories.
So I was 19 when I met a great guy-kind, caring, with a sense of humor. Well, I wasn't a virgin, and I slept with him. Sex was nothing special, but I accepted it. So far so good, but then he didn't want anything from me but sex. I mean, we used to go to the movies, walk around, and then he wanted every date we had for sex. Well, I didn't agree, and one time I just told him I wasn't in the mood today and wanted to do something else. Guess what, you dumped me right now, that's all. he didn't even have the courage to dump me, and just as a coward he started to shun me, not to pick up his phone, ignore me from everywhere, and of course I finally felt that all this pretending, complimenting, etc. it was just to sleep with me. I felt very dirty and offended and it was a long time before I let another boy into my life.
So now try to find some activity and not think about that you've been through, and you're going to see how in time you won't care so much. But I repeat sex and love have nothing to do with what you've been through! I don't mean to be extreme, but it was almost rape, especially if you asked him to stop, and he kept going anyway. Well, I'm not saying he did it intentionally, he may have just been inexperienced, but his behavior after that is already very, very ugly, and for that there is no justification.
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Hi! I read every single comment on several occasions. I don't even have words, thank you so much for everything you've done for me. I didn't expect all this, really! I also want to thank the editors for publishing my story. Thank you! You've done so much for a complete stranger, I'm grateful to you!
I've been thinking a lot about what you told me. And I'm trying to get over this situation, but things have happened.
He texted me yesterday. Yes, that's right. He had the guts to call me. He wrote me a lot of things, but one thing shocked me.
He told me to change school or take sedatives because I've got a tough year ahead of me.
I'm so sorry, because of this and my stupid naivety, mom can't sleep peacefully. I spoke to her ( she also read your comments and follows the topic ) , we decided to go to a psychologist to help me. After long conversations with her, we decided to share this with tati. He's !!! He told me I shouldn't be leaning my head. It doesn't matter! We decided to file a lawsuit! We've had a consultation with a few lawyers. Everyone said this was considered rape and that I should seek my rights. I also mentioned this about the messages. I said everything. I hope things work out! I'il follow the advice you gave me.
THANK YOU !!!
in the middle of his school he stuck a slap, if possible in the company of a friend, not to be alone
Honey, if I'm in your father's place, I'm going to break that piss! This squirt deserves to spend the glazing of his life in a wheelchair
! You're not going to let yourself go to a thing yesterday... Oh to bring you down mentally! He should be ashamed of his behavior, not you!
Write down what happened next. I hope things work out and this guy gets what he deserves. Success!
Wow, he didn't deserve you at all. About your shapes, don't be shy, every bust has its own pros. The fact that he was so rude and careless is just... You don't have to be sad, but on the contrary to show that you have self-esteem, and if someone asks you to actually say how bad he was in bed, because in your history you seem to be watching a lot of and expects from the first time everything to be like in the movies. Be brave and show that you don't care about him or the opinions of others. And also, I think you should give it back to him! Luck!
Well, I don't feel sorry for you, he's not the only one with problems, so you have to get on with it. To you girls, someone to smile at you or say a good word to you once and you already consider it your greatest love, especially if it's from the 'popular', kids in the class... It's like you haven't seen movies, his mom's old...
Oh, it's very unpleasant. First, I want to tell you it's not your fault. To be honest, I don't know how you came across such a jerk... I advise you to make him try his own medicine. Demek started blowing that he was too bad, he didn't get up, he was small, he was the worst in bed of all the people you've ever been with... That kind of thing.
Girl, they are, the boys" these days. I'd say he's the garbage in this situation, not you! You just loved! But unfortunately, that could cost you a lot today. I'm just thinking about how such a good kid got caught up in an idiot like this. He didn't deserve you. Imagine the level of his complexes after he went to embarrass the man he was in, in love." He's going to get it, sooner or later, because no one should be humiliated like that. I advise you to walk with your head up, because you have done nothing wrong, and I still tell you , you just allowed yourself to love!
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