Hello, a 20-year-old girl writes to you. I soon went to study in England because the boy I liked lived there. My goal was not to be there at all, but I made that choice because of him. At first, our relationship was very strange. We were just friends, he liked me, I didn't, but a few months later he went to work there. I don't know what happened, I felt very lonely, I missed him terribly, I cried every day, I couldn't stand it and I told him that I liked him too. Unfortunately, I was in 12th grade at the time and I couldn't go, but I started studying to be accepted to a university. So, they accepted me, I went there, I went to live with him and his friends. After a few days we left and moved out on our own. Everything was great, we were together for almost 5 months, but during the last month he constantly avoided me, went out with his friends, he justified himself by saying that his family had many problems and that he wanted to return to Bulgaria. We broke up almost a month ago, I was, and still am, devastated. I stopped studying, working, I don't care about anything. I can't sleep because when I go to bed I start to tremble, I have the feeling that my heart will jump, I have a fever, I have lost weight, because I have the feeling that when I eat I will fall apart. I don't know how to describe these feelings to you, it's awful. A few days ago he told me that he would return to Bulgaria because of his family, and three days later I found out that he had returned and would live in Sofia to be together. with a girl. I knew they had been friends for a long time, but I thought they only had friendly feelings. She kept talking to me about her friends, and he talked to me about her, but I also kept talking about my friends because I miss them so much. Now I just don't know what I'm going to do. I came here only because of him, I miss my family, I miss my friends, I feel extremely confused and ill. I made a hell of an effort to be accepted here, but now I do not want to be in another country alone at all, and in general my intentions were not like that. I can't forgive him for what he did, I don't even want to see him, and at the same time I want to hug him tightly and never let him go again. I have no idea what I'm going to do, I feel extremely awful, I've been through a lot, but I don't know how I'm going to get through this. Please advise me something, because I really do not know what to do and what will happen from now on but now I do not want to be in another country alone at all, and in general my intentions were not like that. I can't forgive him for what he did, I don't even want to see him, and at the same time I want to hug him tightly and never let him go again. I have no idea what I'm going to do, I feel extremely awful, I've been through a lot, but I don't know how I'm going to get through this. Please advise me something, because I really do not know what to do and what will happen from now on but now I do not want to be in another country alone at all, and in general my intentions were not like that. I can't forgive him for what he did, I don't even want to see him, and at the same time I want to hug him tightly and never let him go again. I have no idea what I'm going to do, I feel extremely awful, I've been through a lot, but I don't know how I'm going to get through this. Please advise me something, because I really do not know what to do and what will happen from now on
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That's right, you put a man in front of you! You will experience it, you have no other choice ...
I'm so sorry for your pain. I really don't know how I can comment on his action, I wish you to be strong for yourself, and know. that you are the most important, achieve your dreams. Repeat that each. evil is for good, though you see it later. I know how you feel, I've been through something like this and it still hurts, but. I already realize that there is no point in. this and everything will be fine. Hug you be strong. Ž
Hello. The decision is too foolish of you, because before you decided to go with him and GO to the other country, you had to consider what is POSSIBLE to happen to you, namely the fact that his feelings may be temporary and he dumps you; It can only accept you as a number; He may not feel anything for you and lie to you that he is not alone and so on. What are you going to do now? Under no circumstances should you try to get it back! Don't do it to yourself, and try to have some dignity, after all, this is pure nonsense with you, but you don't realize it. You give him your trust when you go to study in another country, and he leaves you to be with ANOTHER girl in your home country. My advice is to look for friends in England or to return to Bulgaria and continue your studies in our country, but in no case do not deal with your ex.
Well, darling, you went to his whistle and this is a lesson you have to learn. You better try to realize yourself there, if you can't adjust, come back here and that's it. You forget this one, because it's not worth thinking about for a minute a day. Unfortunately, it is full of such, it is up to you whether you will learn the lesson that the main priority in your life is you. Tomorrow someone like that will whistle for you to go to Africa, then what will you do?
What you're saying makes me think he just wanted to go with her. I know it won't comfort you, but you don't need such a person in life. You really put in a lot of effort and I congratulate you. Of course, many people will now tell you to come back if you don't want to be alone in another country, but you have (because you deserve it) the chance to get a good education. And yes, you don't like it now, but you won't want to study or work in Bulgaria either, because in the first place you suffer from separation, and moving to England only strengthens these feelings, but it is not the original source. My case is not exactly like yours, but I also study abroad and it was very difficult for me when I came. I am a person who always thinks about what was before and imagines that he was happier then. When I came, I just thought about how my family and friends were gone and how school (which I didn't like because I didn't get along with the class, but which I was used to) ended, but I didn't want it to end. I had about two weeks before the semester started and generally spent them in the ritual morning roar on my mother's phone and lying in bed all day. I will not comment on my horrible roommates. I could hardly wait for the winter vacation, the week before it I was very happy and the moment it started, I got depressed and finally came back roaring. However, the university distracted me, as did the friends I found there. My advice is to concentrate on the friendships from the university, and when you calm down, to continue with your studies. The separation is hard, I know, but things won't work out just by going home. You need to find other activities and focus on them. You left because of the love of a man who treated you badly, stay and fight for yourself and your future. Good luck and I'm sure you will succeed! <3
I'm sorry you feel that way. But you are not clear with your own desires. You followed him to a foreign country without being aware of yourself, him or whether you had a relationship. But you immediately lived together, that is, you played with your family. You may need it, but he obviously didn't. I think your feelings are very strong, not exactly because you love him very much, but because you can't swallow the ego that has left you. Now what are you doing - leaving work, school and shedding tears for someone who seems to have promised you nothing. Don't ruin your life, it is in front of you and you will have the best years. Don't stick to this boy - you've met, you haven't succeeded, don't exaggerate. Clarify with yourself - do you want to get a good education or will you go home to lurk some ex. Do you think that he will run to you? What is most important to you?
This is nostalgia! There is no one to share with, to lean on ... Come back, what to wither there!
Hello lovely girl! The divisions are always heavy. People say that time heals. And years ago, when I broke up with my first friend, I took it very hard. Every day roar, thrashing, I did not eat. But very soon I met a wonderful boy who cheered me up and helped me forget him. My first friend taught me one thing - you have to look at yourself. To be good to you, to be a little selfish, not to allow your happiness to depend on someone and to spoil your own comfort. You'll be sick for a while. It may take months, but try to disregard it. Cut contact with him. Go out with friends. Go out with colleagues from work or university. Learn. Keep busy. And you will really feel much better. This is the way to deal with the problem. Abstain from it. He doesn't deserve you and his act is vile. You are young. You will find someone who will appreciate you. Life is ahead of you!
If you do not intend to stay in England and you left only because of your ex-boyfriend, it is a good idea to return to Bulgaria. Tuition there and other expenses are quite expensive, and you do not need to take student loans, which can be quite difficult to repay. I will also advise you not to cling to the people who blaspheme our homeland for nothing, because in this world there is no country or mother that is perfect, except the one that gave birth to us.
I sympathize with you, I was in your situation abroad, I was walking down the street and crying. Don't feel sorry for him, he wasn't a man for you, look on the bright side - they accepted you to study, you saw another country and culture, maybe this is your luck in life - to end up there, find a job and you arrange your life. Find friends, student clubs and colleagues, Bulgarian communities. He is not the only one there, you speak English, look for your friends and do not isolate yourself. But if you feel bad there, if you get depressed and you are not well - go back to Bulgaria.