We were together for 5 months then. Our relationship was new. We were both 26 years old. I really loved her and was in love with her. We had gathered for a party with friends, we were quite a large group. It was quite late, and some decided to leave. The party was at its max and I was among those who wanted to stay. She had to go home because her mother had called. We kissed and I sent her in a friend's car. The next morning, another friend who was with us and had left earlier with the others told me that he had seen them enter my other friend's apartment. She had written to me that she had come home so that there would be no scandals with her mother, and she went to bed immediately. I asked her directly if what I had heard was true. To my great regret, he could not deny it. Just when I felt happiest, the most unexpected thing happened to me. We broke up. Only I know what happened to me. Just a terrible period of my life. In the first days I didn't touch the other garbage. But in the end I couldn't stand it and one night I beat him. Whether because of this or not, shortly after this incident he went abroad and to this day he is there. All this happened in the summer of 2016. We were separated for exactly one year. I tried to be with other girls to forget her. But as I had sex with them, it was as if I could see her face, as if I heard her voice. Last summer some of our friends had a wedding. We were both invited, ironically. Our tables were so that we were directly facing each other and we looked at each other all night. I drank a lot that night, and as a result I suddenly went to her and talked to her. It was as if she was waiting. We exchanged a few stories there and she said we could go to them, she was alone that evening. I agreed and we went. We had extremely strong sex. But very crazy sex. I liked it a lot, it hadn't happened to me for a long time. She wanted us to be together again, but I flatly refused. I also explained that I no longer have any trust and therefore there can be no serious connection between us. However, she suggested that we not stop seeing each other. We were together almost every day and had sex. I was pleased with this fact again and it lasted for several months. Later, however, I don't know how things happened and we became boyfriends again. I'm telling you quite honestly, I really don't know how, but we started a relationship again. However, nothing is as it used to be for me. I have no confidence. I can't forget about infidelity and that weighs a lot on me. When I asked her why she did it, she told me it was stupid. Out of stupidity or whore for me it's all this. The strange thing is that we are still together. It is explained to me in love, nice kind words, extremely kind attitude on her part, and everything was as it should be. I really get the impression that she is in love with me and does her best to forget about that case. But I'm only with her for sex. I just admit it. I have a good job, a normal and quiet life, everything is right for me, and I also have quality sex every day. And that's why I pretend to have the same feelings as her. However, I do not have these warm feelings in me. I just don't see a common future, although I have no particular fear that he is cheating on me again. I even tried it. I also wrote from a fake profile, which I think was quite well done, she saw the message instantly, but did not respond. But even so, this mistake of hers weighs heavily on me. I tried to really forget about it, to look at things positively, but there just comes a moment and I think about that night and everything it did to me. However, I can't put an end to things inexplicably. Even after a year of separation, here I am with her again. And the anger inside me is still hovering. I even tried to cheat on her to get revenge on her or to calm down, I don't know if, but literally at the last minute I refused to go on a date with the other girl and dumped her. I decided that would not fix things. But I tell myself that if something just "happens" to me this time, I will not refuse, as I did when we were at the beginning of our relationship. I cared a lot about her then and I refused one of my former colleagues. From this I understand that I have changed. I don't know how to get out of this situation. I want to know if there are people who forgave the infidelity and then had a happy relationship again? How do you think I should act? Has anyone been in a similar situation or had direct observations? In general, what advice would you give me?
1 guruchoudhary answered
Seeing your doubts first, I think she thought of the profile, just no matter how you do it, it shows. To forgive her is right, but not to forget. Looking for your girl, the infidel is not exactly that girl. In fact, there are quite decent or at least enough to not be with this one. I just can't believe she's been with you and one day she decides to go to this friend's apartment. These women, like her, are never "such women", but something made them, circumstances, alcohol, stupidity. Stupidity is incurable, no matter how positive you are, to be with it is a visible mistake. Or at least don't stop looking for the right woman, and meanwhile do it with her, no matter how immoral.