Hello! Before I start writing, I will be happy if the moderators publish my story, although there are many similar ones. And so I will start with the fact that I am 11 years old. In my previous class, I was extremely shy and quite trusting. It didn't work well because the kids just used me. There was only one girl I was friends with, but not so close. There was another group in which the children treated me well, but I never managed to fit in there because it seemed unattainable to me. Half a year ago I moved to a new school. My class is great and I generally like it. There is a group of girls who are very nice and somehow I feel good among them. The problem, however, is that we don't talk often because I'm shy again (still not as shy as in my previous class). It's just hard for me to communicate with them, because I really want to be their friend and I don't know how they will react to my every word. I know it sounds silly to you, but I have this problem. Not that the other girls aren't decent, but I just don't feel good around them. I don't know how to describe it, maybe it's some instinct. So, the group I want to join is three girls. They are all very beautiful, kind, decent, smart good friends ... everything exactly. Just among so many users who have used me before - now I do not believe that I meet such wonderful people and I do not want to waste the chance to be their friend. My question is how can I not be so shy and become friends with them without being superfluous? Sorry if there are spelling mistakes. Thanks in advance! Not that the other girls aren't decent, but I just don't feel good around them. I don't know how to describe it, maybe it's some instinct. So, the group I want to join is three girls. They are all very beautiful, kind, decent, smart good friends ... everything exactly. Just among so many users who have used me before - now I do not believe that I meet such wonderful people and I do not want to waste the chance to be their friend. My question is how can I not be so shy and become friends with them without being superfluous? Sorry if there are spelling mistakes. Thanks in advance! Not that the other girls aren't decent, but I just don't feel good around them. I don't know how to describe it, maybe it's some instinct. So, the group I want to join is three girls. They are all very beautiful, kind, decent, smart good friends ... everything exactly. Just among so many users who have used me before - now I do not believe that I meet such wonderful people and I do not want to waste the chance to be their friend. My question is how can I not be so shy and become friends with them without being superfluous? Sorry if there are spelling mistakes. Thanks in advance! everything exactly. Just among so many users who have used me before - now I do not believe that I meet such wonderful people and I do not want to waste the chance to be their friend. My question is how can I not be so shy and become friends with them without being superfluous? Sorry if there are spelling mistakes. Thanks in advance! everything exactly. Just among so many users who have used me before - now I do not believe that I meet such wonderful people and I do not want to waste the chance to be their friend. My question is how can I not be so shy and become friends with them without being superfluous? Sorry if there are spelling mistakes. Thanks in advance!
1 nuriarocagranell answered
I was the same when I was 11 ... I was always thinking about how I wanted to fit in, to have friends, in short I was an outsider, that they even harassed me from time to time. Look ... Don't bother with the thoughts "I want to fit in", "what can I do to make them like me?", "Didn't my behavior repel them today?". There is no point in all this. I'm currently 19 and I wonder why I was excited about it until I was 14, but a lot. I have noticed that when these thoughts are not present in your mind, one is that you are many times more confident, and the second is that it is much easier to make contacts. If it happens, it happens. If not, then you are not one type of people and you are still looking for your environment elsewhere. The right people will like you. You can enroll in some extracurricular activities (sports, painting, dancing ... whatever you are interested in), if you are no longer, it is possible to break a little and not be so shy. But that's just a guess. Good luck and head up! - scorpion.