I met a boy about 2 months ago. I'm 16, he's 24. We started going out completely friendly until, of course, the feelings came. He is from another city, but it is close and he has no problem coming. We started seeing each other more often and we really liked each other. He told me he didn't want to hurry just because he didn't want to get in a fast relationship. I told him no problem, we will not hurry. Until I found out from a girl's mother that she had seen him for 3 months before, but she had no serious intentions towards him and dizzied him as she knew how, of course without him knowing. I asked him if he wanted us to hurry because of her, because at least I think he still has feelings for her. He denied telling me he had no feelings for her. She said that she also failed 2 connections and he returned to her, but it all ended in a few days (I don't understand why he told me that at all). After his words, I really thought about giving up on him, but I didn't want to, because I asked about him and no one said anything bad. We talked about her for 3, 4 days and I learned many more things she did. That they kept in touch, they wrote to each other, made her friends tell him how much she wanted him and in fact she was not with him, she had sent him an SMS about how much she wanted to be with him and how much she loved him, of course he was tied up again, but everything lasted 5 days and until then. She convinced me that there was nothing left for her and that I had to stop thinking about things, because if I constantly doubted him, nothing would happen. I really believed him, I stopped.
Now we keep seeing each other and I really see that he likes me and shows it. I'm worried that he's started talking a lot about sex and how he wants to sleep with me and whatnot, but he hasn't told me to sleep and other things, I'm just worried that that's all we talk about most of the time. Today I asked him now what we do if we go or just see each other. And he tells me ... well, I didn't tell you that I don't want to hurry, I like you very much, but let's not hurry, because I don't want my relationship to end again in 2, 3 months and I don't want to hurt you. Now, after these words, I have been thinking for 2 hours and I can't understand exactly what he wants from me. I see that he is not indifferent, but in his words I understand that he does not want to hurry, because when this girl returns again (she is studying in another city) he can go after her again and not want to be with me and not be hurt so much. Or he really doesn't want to hurry, which I don't understand and I don't think that's really the problem. A lot of things went through my head and so I didn't decide what to do. Should I continue to meet him and forget what he told me. Whether to wait for this girl to come back and see what happens, or just try to reduce my feelings for him and keep colder. If anyone has any other advice please let me know. I will be very grateful to anyone who shared their opinion on my problem. If anyone has any other advice please let me know. I will be very grateful to anyone who shared their opinion on my problem. If anyone has any other advice please let me know. I will be very grateful to anyone who shared their opinion on my problem.
1 santoscreater answered
For me, wait for the girl to come back and see what happens :)