I Can Not Stand

   Go to a psychologist, not bad. And mint with hawthorn will not help with these strong torments. You don't even want to accept separation. To forget it, you have to come to terms with the separation, and this is not happening to you for now. Why did he decide to return in a year? Are you sure he loves you? Is it in another country that you don't see each other ?? What prevents you from sitting with the child and seeing each other? And why did he adopt a child and not theirs? Why don't you give birth to a child? I also don't believe they will take their child. Once adopted, he is their legal child. If they are a foster family it is different. Fight for him if you think he loves you.

   Your "loving man" is lying to you, and you are not doing well. Like those fanatics, if you say you're going to kill yourself ... Tell her how he proved his love to you, that I found it interesting

   I commented on your previous topic "I don't love my husband" under number 6. Now I ask you - what different do you expect people to tell you this time? And again, you don't mention a word about your five-year-old child, so where is he in the whole picture?

   He doesn't love you obviously enough. There is no power to stop the man he loves, believe me this is so!

   Just don't be a mistress anymore. It will always end that way, the relationship in question. Don't worry, you'll realize you've been used to it and you'll hate it. Now you are in a moment of negation ... You don't need a psychologist, you need a little self-confidence. Honestly, when will women learn ??? !!

   Your story overlaps a lot with mine, only where I am on the other side, ie the man. If this person truly loves you and you both know that you have found a soul mate in the other, be together forever. If he does not love his wife, he must leave her, it is terrible for a child to live in a family that has no love and understanding. He will see his child when the court determines this. If he truly loves you, he will look for you and bring you back.

   You wrote that you wanted advice. Sooner or later you'll say, "There was a 39-year-old who told me to forget it." I know very well what is in your soul. I was in the same situation. Only the child was not adopted. Ask yourself what is right? Good for you, and at the same time for a child to be thrown into the clutches of institutions, misery and begging life on the cold streets. His life will be ruined from an early age. I don't make you feel guilty that you can cause it. The other option is to consult both with a lawyer. What can be done in this case without the child being reprimanded. Unfortunately, the court stands in a larger percentage behind the mother. For this you need to go to a lawyer together. I also "died" for a woman 300 km away. from me. We turned our heads tightly. I roared for her all night. I was not fit for work, for conversation, for anything. We gathered after many requests, conversations, tears and even lies on my part. I borrowed money. I couldn't get them back on time. Gold, equipment, everything is gone. I ate a slice and a slice of salami. Before that, I ate a loaf of bread on my own. I lost a lot of weight. I poured money into air conditioners, insulation, windows, just to get her to come and live with me with her 5-month-old boy. Her husband had been gone for months and could not provide them with such things. I also bought a cot for over BGN 350 and she was inclined to come. Every month I went to her hometown by car to see her relatives, as well as the father to see his child. I didn't understand then that I was separating parents and a child. And this lasted 2-3 years. Every month I gave BGN 400 per trip.

And I made 800. She was paying a maternity loan. 3-4 times the child's father managed to make her run away. It hurt a lot. I got it back. Until one day I fell. I turned black and collapsed at home. I don't know how long I was unconscious, but I was scared. I might not have regained consciousness. I told myself that in an hour I should stop thinking about her and focus on the rational way of thinking. It was very difficult for me. I thought of the child, of the father, of what I could provide for them if they were with me. It was very difficult for me to conclude that this should stop. With great sorrow and tears I explained it on Skype. We broke up and I told her I would never bother her again. 6-7 months passed and I found a single woman who was a little older than me and could not have children anymore. After 5-6 months I met the mother of my child. Everything from my painful relationship disappeared. Now I think very rarely and I don't care. I look after my child and nothing else. There is someone to live for!