Dear readers, I want some advice from you. I don't know if I'm not obsessed with the impossible or if my friend is wrong. I am 17 years old. we are both engaged and live on a family basis. I study at a prestigious school and I have excellent success. my parents are very understanding people and do not hinder my relationship because of my age. so far so good. but we have a bad and considerable disadvantage - we live with theirs. and I would not complain to my mother-in-law because she is a very good woman, but my father-in-law is unbearable. he doesn't work because he has a sick heart and stays at home all day drinking and when I get home I listen to the scandals he raises about his wife. besides, I don't just wear sixes to school, but I go to work every day. I haven't rested since ........ I don't remember when, and every night when we sit down to dinner I only listen to him complain. sometimes I try not to listen to him, but it is simply impossible. besides, the apartment we live in is very small - my husband and I have one room - 3 by 2 (I'm not exaggerating). we only argue with him because he tells me that if I don't stop neglecting his parents, I have to pack. I love him very much and I know he does too, but things can't go on like this. please advise me whether to change my attitude or he is wrong and to insist on the desire to move out (even though we have no money). I hope someone will give me advice. but things cannot go on like this. please advise me whether to change my attitude or he is wrong and to insist on the desire to move out (even though we have no money). I hope someone will give me advice. but things cannot go on like this. please advise me whether to change my attitude or he is wrong and to insist on the desire to move out (even though we have no money). I hope someone will give me advice.
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First I will say that for me you are too young to be engaged and to live on a family basis with someone. I'm 21 and I never imagined being married to someone, non-stop, etc. But I'm just basically like that, everyone decides for themselves, but anyway. You still have so much time in front of you. It's weird that you spend your best years this way. I hope things get better. Although, reading about his father, it seemed to me that your husband would somehow always protect his parents and more or less put someone above you. You want to move out properly, because it sucks, you're still a young "family" and you don't have to listen to your father's nonsense. After a while, he may scream at you too. Maybe it would be good to separate for a while, to go home and be a normal 17-year-old girl for at least a few months (if you don't want so much, at least for one). Going to school, having fun with your girlfriends ... Family life can wait a while, to see how things will develop.