Hello, 2 years ago I ended my long-term relationship because things were no longer going well. Last summer at the sea I met a boy I liked at first sight, but unfortunately I had to return to Sofia the same day. I'm on the following principle, we may never meet again and that's why I grabbed the moment to exchange fb. The first few days we wrote things together and answered each other without delay, which makes me very happy. Over the days, however, the common things and intimate topics began to revolve. Because, I liked it, I refrained from intimacy, emphasizing the common themes again, being careful not to give the wrong impression to me that I am one of the easy / easy ones. In the end, I decided to get involved. Not long after, he asked me when I would go to Varna again (it was very clear to me what it was about). I didn't think sober at first, and to some extent I promised him that I would probably be there soon. I realized that if we slept I would complicate things for myself if he only wanted me for one night. That's why I turned away, telling him that urgent commitments had popped up for me (there is something I shouldn't have told him) and let's find out later. As soon as I got into his intimate rhythm, a few days later his attitude towards me changed drastically. Things were true. During the day we still wrote things in common, but he answered me much less often (once every few hours), even when he stayed online on Facebook. And then he started writing to me only in the evening and only about the intimate. One day I tried to write to him during the day. His demeanor was so cold that he didn't tell me, "You know we only write to each other in the evening, what are you writing to me about now?" " The last straw. When I started it " what do you think of me .. etc. after that I removed it from fb. A month and 2 weeks later, I wake up and watch him send me an invitation at 3 in the morning. Assuming it would be different this time, I accepted. After months of silence, it was Christmas and I was the first to write to greet him, but mostly I used the occasion to melt the ice. We wrote about common topics almost all day. In the evening the same thing again, I joined the fun again. That night, goodnight, he told me to write to him the next day. That's what I did, I wrote to him for good morning.
All day long he came in, out, and lingered from time to time, but there was no answer, not even a blue one, and only after work did he answer me. Although after work, he answered me very rarely again. Where is my mistake for the same scenario to happen 2 times? In the end, I just left things like that, I fell silent. Months passed but we never wrote to each other. I still liked him and it was quite difficult for me to see him online every day without contact between us. I came to the conclusion that the only way to forget it was to remove it again as much as I didn't want to. I just wanted to get to know him. I wanted to communicate in a friendly way about common things, and the intimate could wait a while. I'm not a traffic jam, not to mention. I love to write a lot of things with him, but not only that, and plus we had started the topic quite early after we met. Maybe I'm not right to climb? Nowadays it doesn't seem to be a problem and is even considered normal? I'm not one of the girls with 100/200 likes in a photo or a so-called family (he is, and there are female girls), I don't live for social networks or their likes, I don't make selfies.
I don't know what artificial eyelashes, hair, silicones, nails and others. I don't feel the need to take pictures or dress provocatively in order to attract the male audience. I attract her when I am myself. I'm not ashamed to take pictures and go out without makeup. Overall I'm fine (pocket boyfriend) Is that my mistake? Because as I look, muffins gain far more attention than normal girls who want to love but are thrown to the sides like rags. At the same time, the men complain about the muffins and go to them again. I do not understand. After months of hard attempts to forget it, to this day it never leaves my head despite my daily commitments. Here's the shock, I'm going to add it. Not that I largely think it will be the old song in a new voice. Lately, my patience is not much and in most cases I am in a hurry with my final conclusions. After all, once you live, and if I don't take the risk, I'll stick with the guesses. So, if he eventually accepts me and we start communicating, should I continue in the same rhythm if the script is repeated? If not, how can I act tactfully to deal with such situations? And have you ever written only intimate topics with a boy and subsequently become more? I look forward to your advice :)
1 bts_official answered
You allow it. You allow men to write to you only in the evening and look for you only for the bed. You allow this. If someone tries this again, you just cut it all at once, you don't reflect his Easter eggs in 3-4 in the morning, you want respect and that's it. He has formed an opinion about you as easy and stupid and always available, you haven't stopped him. Looking for him, you humiliate yourself again and he mocks you.