I Am Very Cold With People. How To Change?

   My advice, my girl, is that you need a lot of CPA *, but for that later. Otherwise, a person with such a strong inferiority complex and fear of disapproval means that he DOESN'T LOVE HIMSELF.

   In general, I'm the same case, especially if I'm stressed, I'm rude, not helpful. I don't know how to change it either, but I think with desire and will. Try to be especially kind even with strangers, smile at the sellers, at your colleagues, always greet, always wish a good day, if someone is in a bad mood do not catch him, do not react violently, literally listen to your voice while talking, it will happen. I've had as much trouble because I'm irritable as you can't imagine, and in the end it brought me to the obvious point that I was to blame. However, with excuses that someone else has challenged you, that something has made you cold, that someone has hurt you, you can't go far, no one owes you, and mostly with meekness, you can go a little further.

   Okay, why are you jumping against your colleagues? Women do not "look for an account" for you, but see on the one hand that you are strange, and on the other - that you are not well, and try to find the reasons that led you to this state! Instead of being grateful to them for caring and interested in you at all, and trying to help you! If I run into a person like you, it's easiest for me to ignore him and cut him out of my life. Women who devote their time and attention and try to help you deserve praise and respect! And that with the complaint - well, yes! When you are an extremely unpleasant person to communicate with, and everyone is fed up with you, a complaint from you can be the drop with which the cup of patience overflows, and they explode against you. And vice versa - when you are a pleasant person to communicate with, you make others happy with your presence, you cheer them up and take an interest in them and their problems, then people are far more tolerant of your various peculiarities, shortcomings, complaints, etc. So the facts you have established are due to this. IT IS NOT TENDENCY or aimed specifically at your person! Just elementary psychology.

   Yes, find a man. Regular sex makes a woman confident, beautiful, smiling, but she blooms! I've been alone for a year or so, so far I've been ok, but I plan to change that, because sometimes I find myself becoming sour, and it's not in my nature at all. Change something, take risks, move things!

   And I have become so over time. As a child, I was prettier, happier, with more self-confidence, but in my teens I began to change, unfortunately for naughty people both in appearance and character. Most are cool and only go with cool company, and I can't boast of an attractive appearance and I was an outsider. Very few people really respected me, used me, insulted me, pretended to be nice to me, and behind my back they spat and insulted me and almost made me rubbish. It's just that at one point I somehow crossed the border and I don't care about almost anyone anymore, especially strangers. Do not write on anyone's forehead who is good, who is bad, who is a hypocrite or a user. And that's why I've made it a rule to keep everyone cool and not care at all. I don't smile at anyone, I take myself seriously. I feel like a bitch if I have to smile at everything and everyone. It's not just that I can't change, I don't want to. I really respect only the people I trust and consider close. My friend is the opposite of me. He is always smiling, leaning to his ears when in contact, especially with friends, but also with others in general. And everyone who knows us immediately noticed this big difference in us. I try to show at least a little more cheerful look because of him, but somehow I don't succeed. It's just that this way of behaving has taken root in me over the years. And let's face it - I feel good. However, everyone is different. Somewhere you don't have to smile at everyone because the person against you can be a lowly user and a hypocrite. Just don't care about everyone, because sometimes a person suffers from kindness. Most people do not appreciate the benefits and the good that some have. If you want to become more smiling and cheerful towards others, try gradually with smiles and raised your head.

   to be offended by the remark that they didn't make you do housework really shows an inferiority complex. Colleagues do not get a job, but this is a way for some older people to show superiority over younger ones. I do not know the exact situation, but it may have been said quite by the way, and you attach special importance to it. And the fact that you are cold and withdrawn with people shows a fear of rejection. Work on your self-esteem and communication with others.

   The actions of your colleagues are actually quite logical. Man is a social animal, with a constant need for communication. By criticizing, they are actually defending their own views and way of life. People need to share, even you. That's why you're on the spodeli pages now. You can change. How? With will. Start with some activity. A sport that requires team play, board society and role-playing games, find a bridge partner. There is no happiness in closing in on yourself. Grandpa Torbalan

   From the author: To 4.: This is not the only criticism from these colleagues. And they weren't the only ones at all. It's not because of age or anything. That was just an example. Much younger people behaved even worse, especially in Sofia ... I worked seasonal work there. I'm generally silent at work (now) because I'm afraid I'll be fired (and knowing that it will be the same everywhere else), but I didn't care so much about seasonal work, I'm in a few months anyway . I tried "not to give up" - it was getting worse. I also tried to make a joke - worse. They were just dying of anger that they couldn't touch me. The question is: why do they want to offend me, insult me, etc.? A more logical answer other than "just don't like me" I can't think of. I'm looking for the reason, I'm not saying that someone owes something. But for me, this is an unnecessary complication of most of everyday life. And I smile, even though I don't drool. It's just like I can't hide my complexes. As for "not paying attention" - I have never been able to close my eyes to the obvious, to the truth, just something in me says "Who are you deceiving when you say black and white" ... and everything is as before ...

   The suspicion of people comes from the fact that they expect to receive from others the criticism they make themselves and naturally receive it, there is no way. You do not like your character, your cold attitude, you radiate negativity and accordingly you accept only negativity from others. Whatever you broadcast, you accept, it is very simple. Even if someone treats you well, you probably won't reflect on them at all or you will suspect them of plotting against you because you are set up to see only that in people. People like you cannot imagine that a person can be sincere and well-meaning and have no hidden intent in words, because they themselves are never sincere. The truth is that you do not like yourself and that is where your insecurity comes from (no matter how outwardly you pretend to be confident), your suspicion and the negative messages that you think you receive from others. A person with low self-esteem will always derive something negative in his address from even the most innocent comment. It is tiring to communicate with such people, one must constantly comply with their touch, and therefore it is normal for them to start avoiding them. I will also add a personal observation that people who were pampered as children grow up to be very insecure and suspicious adults. Probably due to the fact that at some point they realized that the world does not revolve around them and that not everyone likes and pleases them, and to be accepted again, they begin to depend too much on the approval of others - uncertainties follow , suspicions, mental anguish, depression ... My theory, but it seems to be true. one must constantly take into account their touchiness and therefore it is normal for them to start avoiding them. I will also add a personal observation that people who were pampered as children grow up to be very insecure and suspicious adults. Probably due to the fact that at some point they realized that the world does not revolve around them and that not everyone likes and pleases them, and to be accepted again, they begin to depend too much on the approval of others - uncertainties follow , suspicions, mental anguish, depression ... My theory, but it seems to be true. one must constantly take into account their touchiness and therefore it is normal for them to start avoiding them. I will also add a personal observation that people who were pampered as children grow up to be very insecure and suspicious adults. Probably due to the fact that at some point they realized that the world does not revolve around them and that not everyone likes and pleases them, and to be accepted again, they begin to depend too much on the approval of others - uncertainties follow , suspicions, mental anguish, depression ... My theory, but it seems to be true.

   Before I advise you anything, I would like you to know that every single opinion here (including mine) is just an assumption of what the reality might be. Given that even you yourself do not know why this happens. The first thing I guess is that you're afraid of being disliked, of being rejected by the group, and that's why you cut them off first, right at the beginning with your cold demeanor. But then I got to the part with your colleagues and thought it was more about low self-esteem (as a result of not so pleasant adolescent experiences). The reaction itself, expressed after their words, for me personally means that you take in what they tell you (whether criticism or not). These are things that almost everyone encounters at some point in their lives. More often at an earlier age, because children are then much more primary and unaware of the unpleasant consequences of their words. I myself have encountered this. It was their fault, but from then on it is our responsibility to decide how to accept their words and how they will affect us. I don't think I or anyone can tell you what to do (that is, give you the solution). This is a personal path that a person must personally walk ... I would definitely call it part of our spiritual growth, formation as a person. Whatever we decide in such a situation, it will change us ... Another question is how it will change us. I can only give you guidelines by telling you how I overcame this, but as far as my way is applicable to you, only you know or you will know;) That's right years ago there were quite a few statements about my appearance, my abilities, my mental baggage even. I was very angry with people, I didn't tell them, but I always saw only the negatives, I always thought that they loved my evil. However, this did not last long, both them and I felt that something was wrong and needed to change. The process didn't take a day or a day ... The change isn't over now, years later, but it doesn't matter, because that girl hasn't been around for a long time. (I think one should stop improving). For me, this happened through my meeting with people, good role models, from whom I can learn, whom I could count on, hear more opinions and, accordingly, maybe change mine. It came from books (there are amazing books, be it philosophical or everyday ... The last ones I read and really impressed me were East of Steinbeck's Paradise and Elif Shafak's Love). But listening and reading alone do not change a person, they are a means but not a solution. The most important thing is to think ... over and over again ... over everything. Why so, not how, how to achieve this, why to achieve it, why I did this, why I said that. Self-analysis ... And not only the analysis of others would also be helpful. But let it not be filled with hostility, but with understanding and correct, objective judgment. I hope this helps you more or less. I wish you to be open to others and, above all, to solve your problems, present, past, and even future. Also Happy Holidays! ; РРР And not only the analysis of others would also be helpful. But let it not be filled with hostility, but with understanding and correct, objective judgment. I hope this helps you more or less. I wish you to be open to others and, above all, to solve your problems, present, past, and even future. Also Happy Holidays! ; РРР And not only the analysis of others would also be helpful. But let it not be filled with hostility, but with understanding and correct, objective judgment. I hope this helps you more or less. I wish you to be open to others and, above all, to solve your problems, present, past, and even future. Also Happy Holidays! ; РРР

   I agree with 12 except for the last paragraph, because it is the ankles that, as adults, care less, for some to feel briefly uncomfortable that they are no longer the center of the universe or something, but adapt relatively easily, especially compared to those who have been raised in the other extreme - very criticized, stressed since childhood, so those with the least self-confidence and the most complexes. 8 is a very accurate comment, 9 is also helpful, and 13 is meaningful.

   I am the author. You say fear of rejection ... When it has happened, it is absolutely impossible not to. It is not fear, it is just an anticipation of what has happened absolutely every time so far. By what logic should I expect something different? !! At one time I was optimistic when I was with new people, but now I think I have enough different attempts with the same result. Many people have told me that I should have more self-confidence, they have complimented me, but at the same time they avoid me. There was a colleague at the university with whom I supposedly "had a story", and we often sat next to each other, but she always turned to the person on the other side or back. Also, when I talk to someone, a lot of people have interrupted us as if I don't exist, without "sorry to interrupt you." and my interlocutor immediately turns around and often forgets about me afterwards. Some colleagues had asked me seriously why I had such low self-esteem, and the same ones, when I asked them / said something, reluctantly answered me in one word and immediately turned around. So what more can I do by turning around? !! I don't think they do it intentionally and consciously, it just comes from within, but it's a fact.

   When they turn, leave. You know, I don't waste my time with them anymore.

   Hi, You remind me of myself in some ways: for example, my sister and I grew up in a family with fewer opportunities than some of my peers, we graduated from "elite" universities dedicated to learning, we met criticism from a lot of people and at least for ourselves. I would say that sometimes I am cold to others and an outsider. Like you, I don't look very good and until recently I wore some "interesting" clothes and my fashion was foreign. And my sister, like you, took the years in high school and university quite hard because her classmates had great material gains, and she didn't. I accepted things more spiritually and it was easier for me, because I think that a fool with BGN 1,000,000 still remains a fool, but with BGN 1,000,000 - ie that material gains do not determine what we are human, and human qualities determine that. I don't know for sure it's harder for girls when you have to compare yourself with your peers, but again. Now I'm at your age somewhere, and a lot of people respect me - I have friends from rich families and I'm looking for a job (that mom and dads have money, does not mean that the son does not have to prove) and look for me, but I cut them and keep cold and probably "bloated" sometimes, but I'm focused on my career development and I do not have much time for nonsense. Given that I've been through some things like yours and that some of my behavior is similar to yours, I can give you some tips based on how I deal with the problem: 1. Try to have more fun - usually negativity is caused by a lack of good things in life - a lot of people had told me that and I didn't believe it at first, but I really started to have fun and see friends and I'm really much better now. Think about it - haven't you seen people who are constantly having fun and for them life is a song? They suffer from another problem, that along with the fun they do not see the problems that can pop up in life, but with your critical self-assessment I think there is no chance to have this problem (unless you get into indiscriminate parties). It will probably be difficult for you at first. And it was for me - the first step, believe it or not, was to start going to the gym. The saying "a healthy mind in a healthy body" is true, and sports charge with energy and reduce the symptoms of depression. Anyway, I already had 1 topic to talk about with my colleagues at work and to be less "unpleasant". Then I started dancing and found friends there too. I also started qualification courses and English courses and there I also communicated with my classmates and formed friendships. 2. Renew old friendships - I was also isolated in a period a few years ago, when I thought only about work, how to prove myself to others and my daily life was "home-work-home", but I decided to change to one April 1 and I heard from a few old friends and believe it or not - there are almost no old friends who when you hear from them and offer them to go out for coffee to see each other, do not agree. Then I just started with the gym. And when you see each other - talk about this, that and try to be in their company (without forcing them - just see each other). Along with the old friends, I made a lot of new friends. 3. Learn to talk "general talk" or to feel when a conversation is interesting to people. What you said, that your interlocutors often stopped talking to you and kept talking to other people, and that they answered you reluctantly, reminds me of myself in high school. Then I wanted to have meaningful conversations and many classmates were not interested in them and were happy to start another conversation if there was anyone. First - this type of people show a lack of respect and for their behavior you should not care at all (let alone look for guilt in yourself). You can politely tell this type of people "we'll finish the conversation in 5 minutes, if you want to ask her then", giving both your interlocutor and the other person a chance to correct themselves (and if they are valuable people, they will). Not to stumble at them "don't you see that I'm talking to the man" - because the man who interrupted you, he may have just been rude and kind, but you insulted him and he hated you. Respectively, if they stumble on you, politely apologize to them, because sometimes those who offend are reckless and if they are human then they can apologize. Second - just 80% of conversations between people are "common talk", ie complete nonsense - gossip, events, who did what over the weekend, etc. It is rare to find people with whom you can have quality conversations and to exchange ideas and if you have such friends - keep them like gold. Now you can be very good at "general talk", but if you don't know how, it's important to learn them, because they're usually interesting to most people and break up the situation. Some time ago it was very difficult for me to have this type of conversation and most of my classmates avoided me, they interrupted my conversations or talked to me briefly, but in practice I now know them better than they do. I often talk to various tips about all sorts of things - from "who spoils this country", to "how in Bai Tosh's time - they made steaks at the villa, and now they can't", they sometimes give me comments and assessments, but I accept them with ridicule, because neither I can give them an adequate assessment of them, nor they me, but the important thing is "to be in a fairy tale." This is exactly what is important in these conversations - "to be in a fairy tale". 4. Be polite - believe it or not, and it can be a form of "coldness" (I personally replaced negativity with this form), but it makes people like you more and not be an outsider (sometimes they even invite you to be part of the company just because you were polite). Being polite to people has helped me in many situations (and I realize that I would have had a lot of problems if I had been rude to some people I was polite to). In short, be polite whenever you can (even if you encounter rude aunts from various government counters) - usually the rudeness of many people is not due to themselves, but to the situation in which they are or the attitude of others to them. Simply put - do not allow the vulgar behavior of others. whatever the cause, it affects you too. I personally try to be polite "English style", supposedly as a "gentleman", but I do not hide my coldness and a lot of people have told me that I behave quite "officially", but "unofficially" behave only with people I appreciate and who treated me well. To others I am just polite (and hypocritical at times) - nothing more. 5. Accept that people don't have an equal start - being from a poor family shouldn't bother you at all and play a role in your self-esteem. We Bulgarians are like that. People don't have an equal start, but they don't have an equal end - and people with a better start sometimes end up worse. I wrote to you above about my rich friends, whom I have respect for and whom I am currently helping and looking for work for, because they lack work experience and mom and dad will not support them forever. Bulgarians have a saying "very good is not good". But it was this difficult start that built me ​​as a responsible person and what I am today. Read about a number of millionaires - Dan Locke, Robert Downey Jr., Sylvester Stallone. They have gone through extremely difficult and difficult moments and this is exactly what has made them more than ordinary people. Because they did not give up and continued to fight. Personally, I am very grateful for my difficult times, even though they were difficult, and I am grateful for a number of unfulfilled dreams, because later I realized that I dreamed things that would complicate my life a lot. That is, "be careful what you wish might happen to you." And I'll bet a lot of money that you underestimate your appearance. I bet you are a completely normal, young and beautiful girl. And it doesn't matter that you wear glasses - I know a lot of pretty girls wearing glasses. And you should even be glad that you are not one of those "muffins" that "shine with beauty", because many of them also have low self-esteem, especially when a girl shows up who they think is "more beautiful than them" because they have nothing else to show, and you have so there's no point in worrying. I personally would not look at such "muffins" at all, because if I try to have a normal conversation with them, I understand how much they are below my level. I apologize for saying this, but they are only for one thing. 6. Don't envy - this is part of the above advice, but really when you stop envying people you will start to feel much better, to be much happier with yourself and to enjoy more the happiness of other people and to seek your happiness. And don't tell me you're not jealous. :) I've been trying not to envy for years and at times I still feel like I'm doing it, but I'm trying to stop. Years ago I suffered a lot - trying to compete with a person with much more experience than me, just out of pure envy and I made some mistakes. Then I met quite successful and successful people and saw how many sacrifices they made to get where they are. I realized that a number of qualities - even innate beauty - mean nothing without diligence and perseverance (you have seen a number of models who became "Miss World", and you think that it was not their job to participate in the competition). I realized that having something more than me sometimes deprives me of something I have and that everything requires sacrifices. There are rich and very unhappy people. There are also poor but happy people. 7. Learn more about the world - it's almost like my first piece of advice, to have fun, but rather to broaden your perspective. For example, in my free time, I often watch documentaries about everything - the Cold War, the Italian mafia in the United States, animals, the universe, missions to Mars, the Middle Ages, China, India, etc., and I can tell you this. I realized that I should be grateful for every day of God on this planet (even if it was nasty). One is that humans are generally "social animals" and have built up an environment in which we can achieve a good life with relatively less stress (compared to other animals). Secondly, that in Bulgaria we live significantly better than most of the people on this planet, even though we are a post-communist Mutren state and we live among people with questionable morals. There are people in China who live all their lives on boats without education and are still happy. There are people living in or surviving civil wars and still fighting (I had a fellow Bosnian, and if you read about the Serb-Bosnian war it was a horror). We live in a relatively calm country, trying to Europeanize, although still controlled by the mutts, which still gives some chance to young people (albeit small), but still many people are negative (not just you, so that do not worry). So you have to be thankful that you graduated from an elite university and that you work. And this is not a small thing and is not to be underestimated. There are many people in Bulgaria who cannot achieve this. Surely even now, if you compare yourself with all your peers, you will see that there are some of whom you are better off today, simply because you have been leaning over learning. I am a person with 20 certificates, awards from competitions and a lot of people have appreciated me, including millionaires, and I still would not underestimate what you have achieved because I remember how much effort is required. I even recently pushed for a master's degree, so I'm fresh. Do not compare yourself with the "elite" and do not envy. This will help you find a real assessment of yourself. And when you find that rating, you won't care about the comments of others, because you'll "know how much it costs." Personally, I don't care when they try to insult me, because I know how much they cost and "I will politely put them in place" ... I won't even explain to them where I am, me and where they are. Some people I don't respect have told me I'm "bloated," but I just have high self-esteem because I know what I've been through and that I deserve it. Friends have told me that I am the exact opposite of "bloated" and that I am a well-meaning person and have always helped. I personally don't care, because does anyone know who to trust nowadays - and yet I will bet I trust my friends. So learn more about the world. This will help you realize that you are a beautiful, young and educated girl who just does not like to be criticized. Yes - you can work on your social skills, but you haven't done anything wrong or anything other girls your age don't do either. And learn to "feed and insult politely" - this is a very good and fun skill and only it will put you one level above the "average Bulgarian". 8. Learn sarcasm - Sarcasm, as part of satire, is the highest form of humor, and along with my first piece of advice for most fun, you might learn it. It seems that this advice alone is enough for you, but I think that my previous advice will be useful to you. The sarcasm helped me not to take my high school and university years too far and made me a tough person because I can always mess with myself. Even now many friends who know me as successful make jokes with me (as part of the "general talk" I wrote about participating in the conversation) and I sarcasm it often, of course if they overdo it (3-4 times fuck) with me for a short time and for no reason) I "make a joke" with them using sarcasm (some start to get annoyed by this, but I continue to be both sarcastic to me and from time to time to them) and they after time find their place. You can't get along with everyone and it is even advisable not to do it, but to defend your opinion and values. But surely sarcasm and politeness will make you a desirable part of the company. 9. In general, do not care about the opinion of others - if others give you useful advice - accept it, if they give you useful criticism - accept it, but in general do not care about the opinion of others and do not spoil your mood or you shut yourself in because of them. No man is anything more than someone else - I always approach people with this thought and with this respect and point out achievements only when I want to set an example or there is a lack of respect on the other side. Successful people try to help others, and unsuccessful people try to criticize them and make them feel miserable. Be polite, learn to joke with yourself sometimes, expand your worldview and have more fun and people will appreciate you. I've worked for bosses for years who didn't appreciate me, but now I work for people, who appreciate me and unfortunately behave too "officially" with them - I will try to be more friendly. And my bosses who didn't appreciate me - I realized that they were incompetent and a lot of people in the IT industry knew them as such, while I was appreciated by the "right people". I recently read a wisdom that I really liked - "cheap people can't appreciate expensive things". Or another thought, "You shouldn't care what most people think of you, but what the right people think of you." That is, what successful people think of you, your loved ones who think well of you and your closest friends ... the rest does not matter. So, as a "successful person", I think you are a young, beautiful, educated and hard-working girl. You don't have to care that you have a negative self-esteem, because as I told you - you still don't know how much you cost as a person, but you will understand it. :) ---------------------- I apologize if I hurt you with something in the text above. I also apologize for the length of the text and for the fact that I dealt with a lot of examples from my life (but I can only give examples from it, and without examples - my words are just words). I really hope that I helped you with my advice because I also went through a lot of the situations you described and I know what it is. You just have to work a little on yourself and in a year, two at most you will have better relationships with colleagues and friends and you will appreciate what you have achieved despite the difficulties. Greetings and happy holidays! :) I also apologize for the length of the text and for the fact that I dealt with a lot of examples from my life (but I can only give examples from it, and without examples - my words are just words). I really hope that I helped you with my advice because I also went through a lot of the situations you described and I know what it is. You just have to work a little on yourself and in a year, two at most you will have better relationships with colleagues and friends and you will appreciate what you have achieved despite the difficulties. Greetings and happy holidays! :) I also apologize for the length of the text and for the fact that I dealt with a lot of examples from my life (but I can only give examples from it, and without examples - my words are just words). I really hope that I helped you with my advice because I also went through a lot of the situations you described and I know what it is. You just have to work a little on yourself and in a year, two at most you will have better relationships with colleagues and friends and you will appreciate what you have achieved despite the difficulties. Greetings and happy holidays! :) two at most you will have better relationships with colleagues and friends and you will appreciate what you have achieved despite the difficulties. Greetings and happy holidays! :) two at most you will have better relationships with colleagues and friends and you will appreciate what you have achieved despite the difficulties. Greetings and happy holidays! :)

   A typical model of a defense mechanism that becomes a major midfield of behavior. You built it as a child, because of your low self-esteem, because you were oppressed and underestimated by your parents and classmates, teachers ... even though it happens, not in very obvious and aggressive projections, so it is somehow overlooked, but your subconscious is not passed. You have built a protective mechanism, which over the years and you have formed a character, has become a behavior, namely - stay away because you are bad and you will hurt me, or I expect them to make fun of me, so I will distance myself from them, or I will show that I am more than them, or you will be "mysterious - boring", which is not revealed to be interesting and untouchable, but in fact is impersonal. The problems are in you, you remembered correctly, even though it took you years ... it always starts with yourself, to improve something, you can't change others, but yourself, to have a better life - yes, you can. I will not tell you what to do, it is your personal business, you have your head on your shoulders - he thinks.

   Author Number 17, thank you for your time. I will use some of your advice, the ones that apply to me. Anyway, I will soon start retraining, so I will find a place to meet new people, the point is not to repeat the same scenario. I have no old friends. Until high school, I misbehaved with everyone, and of course everyone hated me. In high school they did not accept me and avoided me, saying that I was a gypsy. At university, I may have isolated myself because I was even more different there. It is not a problem for me that I come from a poor family. The problem is the way people perceive it, their attitude - the typical Bulgarian killing of complexes. Otherwise, the difficulties did not bring me anything positive - on the contrary - they ruined my nervous system, I did not have the opportunity to have a hobby and develop into something, which I may fail to do, but give me pleasure. And the fact that there are talented, successful and famous people who come from poor families or have had difficulties in their lives did not make them successful, but their talent. A talented child (with exceptional talents in a given field) can be born in both a rich and a poor family, there may be difficulties, there may not be, like everyone else. And as I said - I am not ashamed of being from a poor family, nor that I have achieved almost nothing so far, but the attitude of the people. The only thing I can do is try to "close my eyes" to hints, neglect, etc., as if they don't exist, as if the opposite is true - something that I don't like at all, but I will try . I wish you a successful and happy New Year! that there are talented, successful and famous people who come from poor families or have had difficulties in their lives, it is not this that has made them successful, but their talent. A talented child (with exceptional talents in a given field) can be born in both a rich and a poor family, there may be difficulties, there may not be, like everyone else. And as I said - I am not ashamed of being from a poor family, nor that I have achieved almost nothing so far, but the attitude of the people. The only thing I can do is try to "close my eyes" to hints, neglect, etc., as if they don't exist, as if the opposite is true - something that I don't like at all, but I will try . I wish you a successful and happy New Year! that there are talented, successful and famous people who come from poor families or have had difficulties in their lives, it is not this that has made them successful, but their talent. A talented child (with exceptional talents in a given field) can be born in both a rich and a poor family, there may be difficulties, there may not be, like everyone else. And as I said - I am not ashamed of being from a poor family, nor that I have achieved almost nothing so far, but the attitude of the people. The only thing I can do is try to "close my eyes" to hints, neglect, etc., as if they don't exist, as if the opposite is true - something that I don't like at all, but I will try . I wish you a successful and happy New Year! A talented child (with exceptional talents in a given field) can be born in both a rich and a poor family, there may be difficulties, there may not be, like everyone else. And as I said - I am not ashamed of being from a poor family, nor that I have achieved almost nothing so far, but the attitude of the people. The only thing I can do is try to "close my eyes" to hints, neglect, etc., as if they don't exist, as if the opposite is true - something that I don't like at all, but I will try . I wish you a successful and happy New Year! A talented child (with exceptional talents in a given field) can be born in both a rich and a poor family, there may be difficulties, there may not be, like everyone else. And as I said - I am not ashamed of being from a poor family, nor that I have achieved almost nothing so far, but the attitude of the people. The only thing I can do is try to "close my eyes" to hints, neglect, etc., as if they don't exist, as if the opposite is true - something that I don't like at all, but I will try . I wish you a successful and happy New Year! and the attitude of the people. The only thing I can do is try to "close my eyes" to hints, neglect, etc., as if they don't exist, as if the opposite is true - something that I don't like at all, but I will try . I wish you a successful and happy New Year! and the attitude of the people. The only thing I can do is try to "close my eyes" to hints, neglect, etc., as if they don't exist, as if the opposite is true - something that I don't like at all, but I will try . I wish you a successful and happy New Year!

   Being cold is one thing, being rude and suspicious is quite another. I'm a pretty cold person in general, I don't like to gossip, talk about my personal life, etc. If they ask me I just smile and don't answer. I don't care about the lives of my colleagues, but that doesn't mean I have to be rude and sullen. If you are talking nonsense, it means that you are too interested in human opinion. Think about why this is important to you. There is a basic etiquette that we must follow if we want to live happily. Smile, say hello, it costs you nothing.