You can see for yourself that people's love is conditional: - "because people like me and if they find out I'm from such a small town they will stop" Then why should you live for people's opinion? !! What's the point of liking you, given that if you don't do something the way they think it should be done, they'll just stop liking you. Separately, people themselves have different views on how things should be done, and so it turns out that whatever you do, for some it will be good, and for others it will not be as it should be. Hopefully one day you will understand that human opinions are absolutely and always based on incorrect judgment, and the more objective a person becomes in his judgment, the more he refuses to judge, knowing that he cannot put all the pieces together in part of the puzzle. Unfortunately, in the whole world we know, people are not ashamed to judge, considering his opinion ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I can guarantee you that you will never be happy like that if you follow what people want from you. However, let's bring out a hypothetical situation in which you will be perfect: Hellishly beautiful and with a mind that is proven, recognized by all; with outstanding achievements in science as an inventor. Fluent in languages and wrote books. Moral, found the love of her life and living with only one man. - This is a hypothetical situation that is rare, but here you can play 2 roles: One is to be proud. People are annoyed by such a pattern of behavior and always try to belittle, but in this hypothetical situation they will not be able to do it - they cannot tell you that you are stupid, nor can they tell you that you are ugly because they do not have your achievements and beauty. However, they would be happy to enjoy information that would discredit you in some way to humiliate you. They will never love you, nor will you have their approval, but you will be able to crush them - if someone is proud, be it a journalist, an actor or a politician - you can prove to them how much they are below you with facts. The other is to humble yourself, to be modest - everyone knows about your mind and beauty, but because you do not place yourself higher than them, they will not want to humiliate you. They will say that you are a very good person, they will praise you, you will be in their mouths with good, but if you say something that does not correspond to their truth, they will not agree (even when said from the mind, like you) - then you you will suffer again because you will not have their approval. They will love you, but you will not be happy about it and the desire to be constantly liked will lead you to say only things, with which people would agree. These are the two main models that people (not only in Bulgaria, but also in our entire familiar "civilized world") follow. This was a hypothetical example, but let me give you real life. You have playmates that people don't like very much and usually enjoy watching them expose themselves. They ask them about capitals, knowing that it is very likely that the playmates do not know, and when the assumption turns out to be a fact - people judge harshly, insult with the blackest words. However, the capitals are a memory, and if tomorrow the girl who was laughing until yesterday learned all the capitals, then what? Will she be recognized as smart? No. The other model is to be modest, not to show pride, then vice versa - they glorify, give you positive qualities. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people is worthless, but an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. that people will not always agree with his views. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. that people will not always agree with his views. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. That is why human fame and the fact that people appreciate you costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion.
1 bihighguy answered
You can see for yourself that people's love is conditional: - "because people like me and if they find out I'm from such a small town they will stop" Then why should you live for people's opinion? !! What's the point of liking you, given that if you don't do something the way they think it should be done, they'll just stop liking you. Separately, people themselves have different views on how things should be done, and so it turns out that whatever you do, for some it will be good, and for others it will not be as it should be. Hopefully one day you will understand that human opinions are absolutely and always based on incorrect judgment, and the more objective a person becomes in his judgment, the more he refuses to judge, knowing that he cannot put all the pieces together in part of the puzzle. Unfortunately, in the whole world we know, people are not ashamed to judge, considering his opinion ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I can guarantee you that you will never be happy like that if you follow what people want from you. However, let's bring out a hypothetical situation in which you will be perfect: Hellishly beautiful and with a mind that is proven, recognized by all; with outstanding achievements in science as an inventor. Fluent in languages and wrote books. Moral, found the love of her life and living with only one man. - This is a hypothetical situation that is rare, but here you can play 2 roles: One is to be proud. People are annoyed by such a pattern of behavior and always try to belittle, but in this hypothetical situation they will not be able to do it - they cannot tell you that you are stupid, nor can they tell you that you are ugly because they do not have your achievements and beauty. However, they would be happy to enjoy information that would discredit you in some way to humiliate you. They will never love you, nor will you have their approval, but you will be able to crush them - if someone is proud, be it a journalist, an actor or a politician - you can prove to them how much they are below you with facts. The other is to humble yourself, to be modest - everyone knows about your mind and beauty, but because you do not place yourself higher than them, they will not want to humiliate you. They will say that you are a very good person, they will praise you, you will be in their mouths with good, but if you say something that does not correspond to their truth, they will not agree (even when said from the mind, like you) - then you you will suffer again because you will not have their approval. They will love you, but you will not be happy about it and the desire to be constantly liked will lead you to say only things, with which people would agree. These are the two main models that people (not only in Bulgaria, but also in our entire familiar "civilized world") follow. This was a hypothetical example, but let me give you real life. You have playmates that people don't like very much and usually enjoy watching them expose themselves. They ask them about capitals, knowing that it is very likely that the playmates do not know, and when the assumption turns out to be a fact - people judge harshly, insult with the blackest words. However, the capitals are a memory, and if tomorrow the girl who was laughing until yesterday learned all the capitals, then what? Will she be recognized as smart? No. The other model is to be modest, not to show pride, then vice versa - they glorify, give you positive qualities. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people is worthless, but an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. They say you're smart, you're a good person, they like you. And man gets drunk, not knowing that people will not always agree with his opinions. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. that people will not always agree with his views. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. that people will not always agree with his views. And then he suffers again. When you put yourself under them, you don't threaten them, you don't show them that you are smarter, better, stronger. If you insinuate it to them - they try to humiliate you. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. That is why human fame and the fact that people appreciate you costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion. That is why human fame and being appreciated by people costs nothing, but is an illusion that we all run after. Let's say you're smart - you're just a smart kid. However, if you are told that you are stupid, you will suffer, precisely because our mind values it in the society in which we live. Our beauty is also appreciated by him. And when they do not appreciate what you have achieved - the person suffers. You cannot and will not be happy if you rely on human opinion.