Hi, this is not the first time I've written here on this topic. My boyfriend and I are 25 years old. We've been together for a year and we live on family terms. The problem comes from the fact that from the beginning of our relationship he had erection problems. Tests showed low testosterone levels. Appy pills and it was fine, but it was for 2-3 months and the situation is still the same, only she no longer wants to see a doctor. Now there is almost no desire for sex. And when I try to touch it more intimately, he rejects me and says he has no desire now. I don't try anymore, because I'm afraid of being rejected, not to say that I feel humiliated to please. I understand him and him, I go with him to his check-ups for a year, I support him, but he doesn't make any effort anymore. He says he wants us to become a full family, to have a child, but if he keeps pushing me away, from all this humiliation and fear, I will stop loving him. He doesn't even get intimate with me, it doesn't make me feel wanted, and when I tell him, he's mad at him. I'm doing everything I can, and I just want to feel wanted, loved, feel the passion. I'm afraid to think that maybe and it will get worse, and soon there will be no desire for sex at all, and I will have to fight for my whole life. I love him very much, but I'm a young woman courted, and from the place where I want to get caresses, I don't get. I'm asking the moderators to publish my story so I can get some advice. Thanks!
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marinefouryou answered · June 17, 2020
Let him keep his hands on his hands, and find a man to satisfy you!
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khalisi2015 answered · June 17, 2020
Do you expect sympathy for you? You have no reason to feel bad, except for the fact that he feels bad. What self-centered, it's surreal. Leave it alone, maybe it'il be okay with someone else. I'm pretty sure.
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jessethegreat12 answered · June 17, 2020
Why don't you guys talk directly? Are you ashamed? This is your life, and you're the most important one. Tell him if things don't change, you'd better split up. How can you even have a child when he's 25? And 50? What do you need this man for when you're going to be without a man?
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gweenblack answered · June 17, 2020
Hello, first of all you need to fix testosterone. Tell him that this hormone is important not only for erection. If the levels normalize, he will become more energetic, strong, cheerful, he will be able to do a lot more things, the depressive thoughts will disappear, etc. But it is also very important to understand why testosterone is low. For such a problem, most often there is some physiological reason. Only studies are not enough, thorough examinations of the testicles and other glands that are involved in the formation of the hormone should also be carried out. It's certainly very tedological, but these problems are being solved. You'il both feel better if he's healthy.
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blacktrusts answered · June 17, 2020
Personally, I do not see or find the passionate in this disgusting sexual act. I don't know what you like so much, or love is mostly sex and passion, not soul love.... I understand you plan to start a family. Would you like it to be hypersexual, for example? If he doesn't want to, don't drive him. Show your mental feelings that you love him instead of groping him. I feel like units are now capable of loving real, strong and sincere.
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stevel_knievel answered · June 17, 2020
Dear author, it's not an easy choice, I understand that, but you're too young to spend your life in terror. I know you're having moral remorse right now. It's hard to walk away from a person because of a health problem, as it is. But in the long run, you're going to hurt him more. This relationship won't survive. It will be years of agony and eventually your relationship will change for much worse. I've lived with an impotent man for 16 years, from personal experience, I advise you. Human relationships can be different in nature. Stay close friends. Communicate as people, keep your trust and love. But don't start a family. Let everyone be free to seek their happiness. They're not going to change, believe me. In this case, ethics, tolerance for each other obliges you to separate. Look at things through your friend's eyes. Do you think he doesn't realize he's not as full as a man, and the woman next to him feels neglected? Of course he realizes it and it generates negatives in it. They pile up and at some point they'il erupt. My ex-husband harassed me in all sorts of possible ways - both physically and mentally - to make up for his own impotence. After I left him, he became seriously ill - on a purely psychosomatic basis, because he no longer had anyone to design his complex on. You have no idea what hell such an unequal relationship can turn into. For your common good, divide!
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hardshaved92 answered · June 18, 2020
Is he training anything? If he doesn't train, let's get started. So I raised the testosterone freedoms from the lower limit to the middle of the scale down and up. And I definitely have a lot more sex.
Otherwise, if he's not going to train or even if he's training, he still doesn't want to do it- it's not for you.
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queenofdeepthoat answered · June 18, 2020
To No5
Sex is a great thing and extremely contributes to the closeness between two people. Asexuality doesn't mean you've found true and sincere love. If you're like that, look for a self-like one. Just as you don't want to be "tortured" with sex, so do we, the sex people, don't want to be tortured with lack of it.
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bicurfla answered · June 19, 2020
Testosterone increases levels of the enzyme tyrosine hydroxylase. That is, it increases the synthesis of dopamine - a neurotransmitter of MOTIVATION AND LIBIDO!
Keep in mind, that after the external intake of testosterone, the body stops its own production of hormones. Target a good endocrinologist.
Write here the results of the tests, what the doctors told him and if there are any other complaints with hair, nails, blood sugar, etc.
Also examine vitamin D and buy it a quality multvitamin. Make an account in a fitness forum and they'll give you meaningful advice.