On 25.07.2010 my 47-year-old sister died suddenly. Nearly 2 years ago we quarreled fiercely about our father's house, we said very harsh words to each other in a moment of anger, I insulted her a lot, we buried her, at the funeral I expected that the children would even evict me. I cried a lot, kissed her and begged her to forgive me! I've been crying inconsolably for 4 days now, I'm very sick that we broke up quarreling. My pain is great, I am not reassured by the words of my relatives that she is also guilty. I have no right to speak ill of the dead, it hurts me a lot, I have the feeling that he will take me to her. I beg you to forgive me all the time, as I have forgiven. my conscience eats me. For a nothing and no house to quarrel, as if we would take it to the other world! Here, she left her, I don't want to hear about her, but she also left three orphaned children. They will suffer and rightly blame me. How can I live with this sin and guilt, what can I do to be forgiven I got sick, I suffer, but nothing can bring my sister back.
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Your sister forgave you. Calm down and don't blame yourself for things that can't go back and change. Don't be alone! This is pointless! Your sister wouldn't want that.
Undivided property in life always creates anger and tension between the heirs and the fault in such cases lies with the parents. Pray to God and your sister to forgive you, hopefully in time you will calm down. Winnie the Pooh
Hey, I don't understand how intelligent people can allow themselves to quarrel over such a thing, even though they have the same DNA and are supposed to rely on each other. My sister and I were orphans with several properties, we are both married and living with our husbands, we have never raised the issue of division, because our shares are equal, neither she will take mine, nor I will take hers. All the neighbors thought that we would fight for cars and houses, but we did not quarrel over a single needle. And I do not agree that the fault lies with the parents, but with the material people themselves - to have a place to live, but to want more, it is not the house that makes the home, but the people in it. My father, his little finger, said that he would not share anything, so as not to accuse us of harm, as we cannot understand each other as civilized people, there is a law for this work. Will they be happier if they remain the only heirs in such circumstances as they did with the author ?! I'm very sorry, dear lady, but there is reason to bite you from the inside, but you will pass in time.
I do not know if you are an Orthodox Christian, but I would advise you to turn to a priest. You must confess this sin. You should not despair. The sacred sacrament of confession erases every sin for which one sincerely repents. Pray fervently for the repose of your sister's soul, write the name in the church for liturgies - Pentecost for repose. May God help and strengthen you. Your repentance will reach your sister and bring her peace. God is love and is strong to restore broken love between people.
Do not harass and blame! The quarrel is always between at least two people - you did not fight alone, especially if the other party was silent or withdrew - there would be no scandal. Repentance - be sure that your sister has already forgiven you! Live only with the good memories you have left of her! Live today, he will not return yesterday, he may not come tomorrow! Calm your soul and conscience and if you have opportunities help her children - even from the afterlife she will see you and thank you silently!