Hi, I'm a 20 year old girl. I have had a new friend for 3 months, who is 27 years old. We haven't had sex with him yet, no matter that I've slept with him many times. Before him I had only 1 serious friend, who was also my first sexual partner. We were together for 2 years, but I would say that in sex I was a full tree. I've never been ashamed of him, I haven't worried, but when the time comes to have sex, I start to worry and shut down. I never took the initiative, I never told him I was having sex and I was never on top. I don't even know how he put up with me, because I was literally like a tree. I always wanted to change this thing in myself, but alas ... After we broke up I had another sexual partner who was just a "sex friend". I don't know why with him, but I was completely relaxed. I never had any reservations, maybe because I didn't care about him at all and we only saw each other for sex. He didn't predispose me, if you think about it, I just went to them and we immediately grabbed each other, and after the sex - who came from where. We stopped contact and now, as I mentioned, I have a new friend. He is good, patient, takes care of me, I see that he cares for me. I'm also pretty engrossed in it. We have been together since the beginning of November, and in the last 1 month I stay with them. I've stayed with him about 9-10 times, but nothing ever happens. The first time I went to them, he "pushed" me to say it, but I pulled away because I didn't want him to think it was easy, even though I really wanted to do it. The next time I stay in them we just lie down, cuddle, watch TV and fall asleep. He hasn't touched me once since then, maybe he's waiting for me to give him a sign, I don't know ... I already want to, the last 3 times I go with the attitude that we will do it, but when I go to him, the courage it evaporates and again nothing happens. We talked a lot about sex, he's really very understanding, he asks me what I like and what I don't. He tells me that the most important thing for him is to give pleasure to his partner, so he asks me such things. I really want him, I just go crazy when I see him, but until then ... I'm out of town on business now, but in 10 days I'm about to go home and I guess things will happen. I can't wait to go home and see him, but I'm also terribly worried that the moment will come when we will have to have sex. I'm worried about how I'll look in his eyes. I have a round ass..no, I'm not fat, just my ass is bigger, but obviously he likes it, because he's crazy about me too. After all, if he didn't like me, he wouldn't be with me. But this fact worries me. I get thoughts like, "Well, am I going to look fat in this position" or "am I doing it right" I also have nothing to do when I'm on top. I'd feel pretty embarrassed for him to look at my body completely ... I'm terrified. My ex-boyfriend and I tried to drink alcohol before we had sex, and to tell you the truth, it was much better. I drink 2 big ones and I relax a little or a lot, but I don't know if that's the solution. However, I don't think it's appropriate to drink every time before sex ... I really want to change this trait of mine, he adores me, I see him, he constantly compliments me, he adores my body, but I get it in my head that "my ass is big" and that's awful. I think it's a big complex for me ... Please give me some advice. He is much more experienced than me, he has had many partners and I do not want to disappoint him.
Dear girl, your worries are completely unfounded. If you complain so much, just indulge in each other. Stop thinking what, how and why. Haven't you thought that it was these worries of yours that led to your stiffness in bed? Men prefer fluffy asses to contact with bony parts. Be more confident and shake off these prejudices, so you can give the maximum of yourself to your partner.
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He is with you, so he likes you the way you are. No more explanations :) Tip: you can start training. I'm not saying in order to lose weight because you think "your ass is fat", but because after a workout you will be much more relaxed. For example, I have a social phobia - I'm really afraid to talk to strangers, I don't even like to walk alone on the street. However, when I manage to overcome my fear and go to the gym (because it's full of strangers there too - and still nice guys), after training I feel like the calmest and most amazing person in the world. Every tension drops, I talk to the people in the queues of the shops, to the people on the street, and I was a different person. The effect lasts about 2-3 hours, but it's worth it, even for such a short time.
If you want something, you do it. It's not like you haven't had sex at all ... why are you so worried. Yes ..your ass ... Well, look, you say that you don't like it..only that he may like it a lot. And you don't think that when you're wearing jeans he looks better. little and almost, he does not see that it is more rounded. He is with you, he loves you, he shows it to you, he wants you .. he is crazy about you ... so he likes you as you are both externally and internally. I advise you not to waste time..subscribe to him, make love..experience him at last..enjoy him. Get scared ... once you do it, you won't think about your ass anymore.
My friend also says she doesn't like it, she's plump, but it drives me crazy. I like her very much as she is and I don't care about some skinny with tight asses. So relax when he's with you, so he likes you. Braver! M20
Male man of 27 and waiting for you for sex, horror. Your problem is that you watch porn, sex is a pleasure, there is nothing shameful about it.
From the author: Hello, people. I am writing you with good news. Things happened when I returned to my city and everything went smoothly. He really adores me, I see that I worried about my body in vain. Still, thank you all for the advice. :)
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If you don't like your body and yourself, what is this friend to you for? You crush and embitter yourself. When you feel confident about how you look, then look for a boyfriend. It's simple.