How To Live With Fathers-in-law?

   Author, I ask that your story be read by as many girls as possible who do not use contraceptives before they come to yours. It's just that your biggest mistake is that you didn't avoid getting pregnant. Anyway ... what happened, happened. "After all, he was not to blame for his mother's behavior. We decided “THIS IS NOT WRONG. Your husband has always been able to take sides and protect you. In addition, you do not have basic living conditions, which is his duty. A toilet with a bathroom you can not do with your brother. Sorry, but complete incompetents! I come from the deep countryside, where your situation has ruled. For 19 years I watched women of my mother's generation being harassed and tortured to become mothers-in-law and continue to do so. So I and all my friends left town, went to study and live in dormitories, we met quality men. Today we are in our late 20s, but most of us do not have children because we do not wait for men to look after us, but use condoms or contraceptives. My mother-in-law lives on the other side of the country. We recently bought our own home, which we will pay for in the coming years. I have a bathroom and a toilet. ... that was not the case with my mother. She lived in very bad conditions for 2 years, until her mother picked her up and brought her home. So we lived with my mother's mother, then our father moved in and in the end we had no problems, except when we visited his mother, who is over 90 today, but is a real harpy and has not given up trying to separate my parents. to be watched by my father if she fell ill. We literally went through hell as a family, thanks to the intrigues of this woman, and there are no fixes, for my father was also soft, and sought not to take sides. An only friend stayed in the country, and she, like you, was "guarded" unprotected by a man-son. Years passed, but she managed to establish herself, but with good (on my advice) mother-in-law today? licks and anoints in front of her. I strongly advise you to hurry to find a job and accommodation. In the countryside there are for 150 BGN apartments WITH BATHROOM, TOILET AND KITCHEN. Until then, move to yours, but do not separate the child from his other grandmother. Arrange with your husband to live temporarily like this, but do not stop convincing him to move to a big city, and if there is a good job - in a dormitory. His brother, if he has a mind, will also try to get off your grandfather's glove. You are not the only one who finds this way of life unhappy and stupid. If you like living the old way, you can agree to take a bath,

   Madam. The problems you describe are painfully familiar to me, and as a person who has been through all this, I tell you that there is no salvation - salvation is in a separate home, at least two kilometers from your current location. I have always wondered about these daughters-in-law, where they praise their mothers-in-law, how they achieved it ... I don't know if I'm bad or my mother-in-law and father-in-law, too good, but we never managed to work together, despite my efforts. I was young, just graduated from university, enthusiastic, happily in love, when we decided to live with him and so as not to incur unnecessary expenses, as I was just starting work, we decided to live with his parents. All said and done - their house is big, nice, modernly built and furnished, but ..., I soon realized that in this luxurious home, there is no place and no life for me. On the condition, that I spend most of the day at work, I started hearing rumors that I sleep a lot, eat a lot, hang out in front of the computer, bathe very often - even though my husband and I took half the bills and shopped for the household even more. often from them. Then, as you describe, the checks started - am I okay, am I swept away, comments that there were dirty socks left on the floor ... And I, young and stupid, thought that it was right that they would get used to me and how much more they spat on me, I tried harder to please them. Nearly two years passed, and we didn't have a child - a new song started - barren, bloody, who knows how many abortions she had and how many infections she had, so now she can't get pregnant - that was his name, but so it was necessary and I to hear - I cried, I was harassed, but I gave no reason for them to understand, so as not to offend them. My husband tried to oppose them, quarreled with them to protect me, but they kept spitting and insulting me, and when there was a more serious argument, they always told him - "be careful and do not forget whose house you live in - not to lock the door one day and see what you will do then "- and our situation was really not to be envied - we had little savings, but they would not get anywhere ... On the eighth of March my mother gave me a lot nice champagne set - beautiful crystal glasses - I enjoyed them as a child and dreamed of arranging them in my kitchen one day ... I had put them away as they were packed in a box on a shelf from the section in our room. I came home from work one night - I entered our room and I was horrified - the room looked like it was searched by the National Security Council - everything was scattered, shattered - I shuddered to see the box of cups on the floor - even before I opened it I could hear from the sound that the cups were broken - apparently broken from the section. My mother-in-law came after me and with a cheeky smile told me that during the day my mother-in-law came with her children and while they were drinking coffee, they left the children to "play" in our bedroom, and what I found was obviously the result of innocent play. of children left unattended. I didn't say anything, even though my soul was burning - when my husband came home he found me with a tight suitcase and the words - "if you want - come, if you want to stay - I can't anymore" - we spent the night at ours, in the morning I got off work, in my anger and rage until noon the same day, I had found accommodation - nothing particularly modest and miserable, but still - only ours. The mother-in-law came to see us a week later - she pursed her lips contemptuously at the sight of our modest home, but when she realized that we were satisfied she only said - "not to happen so that you can then pray to return" - neither I nor my husband and we answered. Five years have passed since then, but even after fifty, I will not regret my choice and I will never forgive myself for allowing myself to be crushed and humiliated for nothing for almost three years. It turned out that the lack of pregnancy was not a medical problem, but a consequence of stress. So - so, ma'am, after my long digression, this is the advice I can give you, having experienced the same - run ..., no matter where and under what conditions - only when you are alone with your husband you will know that there is no better thing than being a master alone. I wish you good luck. but when she realized that we were satisfied, she only said - "don't let it happen that you then pray to come back" - neither I nor my husband answered. Five years have passed since then, but even after fifty, I will not regret my choice and I will never forgive myself for allowing myself to be crushed and humiliated for nothing for almost three years. It turned out that the lack of pregnancy was not a medical problem, but a consequence of stress. So - so, ma'am, after my long digression, this is the advice I can give you, having experienced the same - run ..., no matter where and under what conditions - only when you are alone with your husband you will know that there is no better thing than being a master alone. I wish you good luck. but when she realized that we were satisfied, she only said - "so that you do not pray that you will return" - neither I nor my husband answered. Five years have passed since then, but even after fifty, I will not regret my choice and I will never forgive myself for allowing myself to be crushed and humiliated for nothing for almost three years. It turned out that the lack of pregnancy was not a medical problem, but a consequence of stress. So - so, ma'am, after my long digression, this is the advice I can give you, having experienced the same - run ..., no matter where and under what conditions - only when you are alone with your husband you will know that there is no better thing than being a master alone. I wish you good luck. Five years have passed since then, but even after fifty, I will not regret my choice and I will never forgive myself for allowing myself to be crushed and humiliated for nothing for almost three years. It turned out that the lack of pregnancy was not a medical problem, but a consequence of stress. So - so, ma'am, after my long digression, this is the advice I can give you, having experienced the same - run ..., no matter where and under what conditions - only when you are alone with your husband you will know that there is no better thing than being a master alone. I wish you good luck. Five years have passed since then, but even after fifty, I will not regret my choice and I will never forgive myself for allowing myself to be crushed and humiliated for nothing for almost three years. It turned out that the lack of pregnancy was not a medical problem, but a consequence of stress. So - so, ma'am, after my long diversion, this is the advice I can give you, having experienced the same - run ..., no matter where and under what conditions - only when you are alone with your husband you will realize that there is no better thing than being a master alone. I wish you good luck. after my long digression, this is the advice I can give you, having experienced the same thing - run ..., no matter where and under what conditions - only when you are alone with your husband will you realize that there is nothing better than that , a man to be his own master. I wish you good luck. after my long digression, this is the advice I can give you, having experienced the same thing - run ..., no matter where and under what conditions - only when you are alone with your husband will you realize that there is nothing better than that , a man to be his own master. I wish you good luck.

   Basically, I would give your husband a chance, provided you live alone and he keeps his parents away from your family. Tell him they have no remarks about your home, or the child, or anything. To look after their home. The question is complicated for the child - try to give it to them once or twice. After all, they are his grandparents and often soften at the sight of his grandson. But again make it a condition that this is your child and you set the rules of upbringing. And no - you tell them today he will not eat chocolate, and they will give it to you behind your back. If you feel that they are raising him in a way that you do not approve of, that they are setting him up against you or something that you do not find right, forbid them to see him. Ask nothing of them and expect nothing from them but respect. For your husband, if he continues to drink and still reaches out to you, it is better to get rid of him early. But for now, I think it's right to give him a second chance because of the child - he may have realized what he did and shaken off the influence of his parents. Ana

   Reading such stories, I am of the opinion that I am the luckiest. We live in a house with my friend's and his brother's parents. They accept me as their child, even they told me that. We drink our coffee, play cards, have fun all day because I'm not working right now. I'm sad for you. My only advice is to raise money and move out or possibly stay with you for a while, but I doubt he will agree. If you love him, fight for him, ignore the evil witch who is being harassed. I know it's hard, but pretend you don't care because seeing that demeanor? has influence over you, it will never stop. I sincerely wish you everything to be in the best possible way! Success! TT

   the truth is that you are wrong and if God forbid you return categorically mother-in-law and husband and do not scramble to your home / or what you live / give birth to your child and if they do not love their job it will have a mother to give him love will not be easy for you, but you will manage without many compromises so that you do not have to

   Only SEPARATELY AND AWAY from theirs - this is my opinion in general. Otherwise you will not see daylight there in someone else's house. They will always figure out how to harass you - "inspections", "theaters". At first you can move to yours, which as far as I understand are 5 minutes away from his parents. And then quickly somewhere on your own ground to keep your head calm. Give him a chance, but get out of there so there is no interference in your family. He may be decent, but apparently under the influence of his parents he is rude to you. My friend left like that, and then he looked for her himself and prayed that they would come together. And they raised money from here to there, bought an apartment and lived on their own and in peace. Now they respect her a lot and help them, but she didn't let them get on her head then and made them look for her and beg her to get together again.

   I decided to list the "mistakes" of my parents-in-law that I understood and to comment on them legally, if I miss something I ask the author to correct me. By reading them yourself, judge whether these are mistakes. First "mistake": Initially, they doubt "whether the child is from him". They have a right to do so. Even I have that right, do you care? Since your husband has no doubts, what's your problem? If in doubt, there are DNA tests. Second "mistake": They did not apologize! As far as I understand, they didn't tell you what they had to apologize for. They said bad things to their son and did not expect him to tell you. They don't even know you know. If they are guilty, it is before their son, not before you. And did you thank them in front of witnesses for the floor provided to you, for preparing food every day, for the upbringing and education of the man you like. I don't suppose so. Anyone who apologizes for non-existent guilt should be able to give thanks for existing everyday gifts. Third "mistake": They walk around their own house. In the interest of truth, the property is theirs, and if they want and when they want, they even have the right to use it, the fact that they gave it to their son to use does not deprive them of their right to use, does it? Now, if they have signed a lease, they should not enter. Fourth "mistake": The mother-in-law contacts friends and shares her thoughts and feelings with them! It's not good for you, but you can't restrict your mother-in-law from contacting her other than putting her in jail in a single cell without the right to visit. Fifth "mistake": The father-in-law drinks in the company of his son! It's bad to drink, but it's not bad to invite your son to have a drink. Is there a Bulgarian who would not invite his adult son to drink one, what to make seeds to pick, two old men at the table? The other things, either it's your guess or it's not their fault that your husband hits you, it's not their fault, it's him. If a man loves and respects you enough, not only will he not break his promise, but 30 liters of alcohol will not make him hit you. The lack of a toilet next to your bedroom is not their fault, you chose a man with such a house, if you had chosen him in the house your problems would have been different. Whether and what they said to their son after the separation you can only guess. And they have the right to say whatever they want to their son, it is his responsibility to listen to them. Seeing a grandson is not a merit, but their right. Ask yourself if you deserve and with what this beautiful child, and he carries 50% of their DNA. The child is not only yours and your husband has a 50% right to decide where the child will go. The child also has the right to know and see his relatives, whether you like it or not, he already has a blood relationship with them and it is your fault. So by not giving it, you not only deprive them of their right, but you also ignore your husband's decision and the child's right. Tips & Warnings Give your husband a second chance if you want one. But go out to the apartment so that the toilet can be close to you, to cook for yourself, so that no one comes in after you. I'm sorry but every request comes at a price. Those father-in-laws have not taken away your right so far, so you should not take away their right to see your grandson. Finally, it is "extremely ridiculous" to ask parents-in-law for a floor for their own use "in the 21st century". It is not ridiculous for them to dispose of their property as they see fit, it is ridiculous for you to dispose of their property. So if that's all you have, you have no right to be angry with your parents-in-law at all. You have the right to be angry with your husband or rather with yourself.

   Dear girl, you don't live with your mother-in-law, you fight there to survive. You will never be able to forgive them, but be a hypocrite, pretend to be your husband and them. Pretend you forgot, if you can even pretend to be crazy and apologize to your mother-in-law for the situation, but this in front of your husband to tell you how good you are. Tell him that you want your family to be as healthy as his parents and that they are an example, but that you have to learn to fight alone. Memories vaguely of the child's name, to be baptized his mother. Darling will melt hahaha. Be cunning, don't argue with him. Caress them in front of him, and in your mind, if you want, curse them. Tell him to move out so as not to burden them, that they deserve peace after having taken care of their children all their lives, now they deserve peace. Order such tales for him little by little and you will see how everything will fall into place. And one more thing the word "mom" softens the mothers-in-law at least a little, wait for the right moment and say "Thank you mother for ...." with mine so the miracle happened :)

   What you are describing is history and relationships with rural, backward people. I went through the same stories, with the only significant and very important difference that my husband always stood by my side. I got married, had a miscarriage, but it was known only by the family, I was barren for the neighbors, it was told by the mother-in-law of the outside world. A neighbor informed me "kindly." The intrigues did not subside for a day, on the phone I heard with my ears how he spoke to the eager for hours and in words and constantly everything connected with me. He came into our bedroom and made trouble for an unmade bed, and I never thought that where he slept was a place for guests and the bed could always be ready for sleeping, no, it wasn't, someone would come to see the room of the young. We separated in the cooking from the very beginning and when the lurking started, how I cook, why I don't add any spice and so on ... there was no peace there either. I was raised by good parents who always advised me to calm down and not talk directly to them, and I did, but if I had that mind, it wouldn't have happened. Like you, I thought that by indulging and enduring I would get the respect I needed, but I didn't have to. Where you are not wanted - never go. All the daughters-in-law of acquaintances and relatives were the most wonderful, the most beautiful, the most, the most, the most ..., and I didn't hear a good word about me. My advice is - away from parents and without clashes with the older generation, so you will be nice. If your husband cares about you, he will agree. I have two sons and life and health, when they get married I will advise them the same. Because when there are two housewives in one house, there are always quarrels.

   to № 8: you look at your parents-in-law unnecessarily tolerantly. it also has the right to wave one's opinion, but it has no right to offend and insult others. there is no greater insult than to doubt the origin of the child. in the place of the author, I would sweep the city with them (and with their dear mother's son, who is in their minds at that age). yes, it is true that their house is theirs, but the family belongs to the author and their son. lest, being their son, they have the right to watch and intrude all their lives. the truth is that the author describes some selfish and ill-mannered people who want to do everything possible to ruin her family. so I will support the previous comments: get away from the doors, preferably in another city, do everything possible to restrict their communication and step on his neck and ask the question: Does he want to live with his mother for the rest of his life and be confused, or do you decide for yourself? if he hesitates - you better raise your child yourself, file a complaint of mental harassment (because according to your description there really is one), condemn him for a healthy maintenance and do not deal with these people anymore!

   Number 8 provoked me to express something I had noticed a long time ago. Very few parents of grown-up children (current young people) treat them with respect - already as adults, as individuals. In principle, the Bulgarian is not very respectful, let alone to his own child, the child he has looked after. He always wants to interfere and control him ... because, "I'm your parent and I know better what's good for you". That first. And second - the right to privacy. Although they have provided part of their house, the parents, with good will, understanding and culture, could not do daily checks on the young daughter-in-law to see if she has put away her socks, cleaned the rooms and washed her pants, for example. Or to take on the role of Mara the Detailed and to intrigue about her in front of neighbors and relatives. It is unlikely that what the daughter-in-law does will have an impact on world peace, for example, ie it should not confuse them at all ... But these things require a culture and mentality different from the Oriental one. :) To the author you say that you were not accepted from the beginning. Do you have any idea why or simply because they are people on the principle that "there is no worthy girl for our treasure". Maybe they have claims to rich matchmakers and others. such, and you seem unworthy of their son, because you are from a more modest family and for that they make you angry and do not want you ... But no one has pleased anyone in someone else's house so you are not the first or the latter with such worries. Come with health! ) To the author you say that you were not accepted from the beginning. Do you have any idea why or simply because they are people on the principle that "there is no worthy girl for our treasure". Maybe they have claims to rich matchmakers and others. such, and you seem unworthy of their son, because you are from a more modest family and that's why they make you angry and don't want you ... But no one has pleased anyone in someone else's house so you are not the first or the latter with such worries. Come with health! ) To the author you say that you were not accepted from the beginning. Do you have any idea why or simply because they are people on the principle that "there is no worthy girl for our treasure". Maybe they have claims to rich matchmakers and others. such, and you seem unworthy of their son, because you are from a more modest family and that's why they make you angry and don't want you ... But no one has pleased anyone in someone else's house so you are not the first or the latter with such worries. Come with health! But no one has pleased anyone in someone else's house, so you are not the first or last with such worries. Come with health! But no one has pleased anyone in someone else's house, so you are not the first or last with such worries. Come with health!

   Up to 11 out of 8 The parents-in-law did not insult our author in the face, if they said such a thing to their son at all, why does he tell his wife to make her angry? And while she is pregnant !? If parents-in-law say such a thing in my face, I will sweep with them, but only if they talk behind my back, it means that they are afraid of me. If they have said anything to their son, and he has complained to his wife, then he is immature and needs their advice, he goes to report his family problems, he cannot make decisions about his own life. Just follow: his pregnant wife will go out at night, I read alone in the cold to the toilet in the yard, in the 21st century, when you can have a shower cabin in the middle of the living room in place of the coffee table, as long as you want. Can not build, meter by meter drywall in the hallway and drop two pipes. The bride can get pregnant, and he can't make a bathroom. It doesn't even have to be a builder, there are people for this job and it's not that expensive and it will take about a week. Is this a man, people say? By 11 and 12 Daily inspections would be useless and would not be carried out if their son was not interested in the information gathered, if he had cut them once or twice in the report, they would not make sense to check. He asked for their approval for his choice, so the parents-in-law were looking for flaws in the girl, otherwise they would not. Notice that in front of every bad mother-in-law sits an insecure son. If he "like a man" slaps his fist on the table and says "this will be" "she will make decisions with me in a life together" mothers-in-law will queue and fall silent so that at least their grandchildren can see. On the other hand, the author digs too deep who said what to whom. As I wrote above, "Do you care that I have the right to doubt?" She should care as much about their opinion as I do. But just like her husband, she seeks their approval because she is addicted to housing. And who put her in this dependence, she herself. A small studio apartment is actually not that expensive, and the treatment of a disturbed psyche for both her and her child (during pregnancy) is quite expensive. Each of her tears during pregnancy pours into the blood of the pregnant woman enzymes that act on the child. Dear author, I still hope that your husband will have a chance to grow up, but it depends on the educator, ie on you. She should care as much about their opinion as I do about mine. But just like her husband, she seeks their approval because she is addicted to housing. And who put her in this dependence, she herself. A small studio apartment is actually not that expensive, and the treatment of a disturbed psyche for both her and her child (during pregnancy) is quite expensive. Each of her tears during pregnancy pours into the blood of the pregnant woman enzymes that act on the child. Dear author, I still hope that your husband will have a chance to grow up, but it depends on the educator, ie on you. She should care as much about their opinion as I do about mine. But just like her husband, she seeks their approval because she is addicted to housing. And who put her in this dependence, she herself. A small studio apartment is actually not that expensive, and the treatment of a disturbed psyche for both her and her child (during pregnancy) is quite expensive. Each of her tears during pregnancy pours into the blood of the pregnant woman enzymes that act on the child. Dear author, I still hope that your husband will have a chance to grow up, but it depends on the educator, ie on you. and the treatment of a disturbed psyche for both her and her child (during pregnancy) is quite expensive. Each of her tears during pregnancy pours into the blood of the pregnant woman enzymes that act on the child. Dear author, I still hope that your husband will have a chance to grow up, but it depends on the educator, ie on you. and the treatment of a disturbed psyche for both her and her child (during pregnancy) is quite expensive. Each of her tears during pregnancy pours into the blood of the pregnant woman enzymes that act on the child. Dear author, I still hope that your husband will have a chance to grow up, but it depends on the educator, ie on you.

   You made a mistake by moving in with your friend's parents. Your second mistake is that you let him convince you that they are in shock and what not, just to keep you (you're not an object! And you don't have to put up with bad treatment). You should have taken your things back then and said goodbye to both him and them. As nasty as it may sound, perhaps the best option was to have an abortion or a way to keep the child, but for your husband to stand as a man, to separate somewhere and not allow his parents to get confused. It always happens when others get confused ... and your friend to me is a mother's son. Better first make sure he becomes a real man than him, and then give him a second chance. Whoever he meets, his parents always want her, so if he still wants you to be together,

   True, no one said anything to my face, but even when they told him so, he warned them that he would tell me and in time he would tell the child and he would hate them. The answer was, "Let him tell you. "I really shouldn't be interested in their opinion, but he was too interested in what they thought. When I told him that they were wrong to turn up their noses at our relationship, he was defending them again, that they just wanted to protect him, worried that he would become a man under a slipper. My mother was also worried about how I lived there. The first month I went to live there I lost 4 kg. (and I was 4 months pregnant). He told me that if I was not well there, I could come back whenever I wanted and that he fully supported me. However, he accused her of being wrong, because in this way she gave me a lot of courage and I would, when I got tired, ruin my family, take my child and leave. What have I not done to prove to him that I want to keep my family no matter how difficult it is. I was reassured that we would not always live in misery and that one day we would build our own bathroom and kitchen. I told him that if he defended me as a man in front of them and told them directly that even if our room looked like a mess, he would still agree, but no. He would come and make a remark to me. I didn't want to go live there at all, but they thought I was probably planning it. They even said that I had removed the child and now I am lying that I am pregnant in order to be with them. When my mother came to pick me up from that house, he cursed her in front of his mother. He even started reaching for her, but she stopped him. My mother, who helped us so much in everything, he could not respect her, and I did not say a bad word to his mother, although I heard her speak against me with my ears. I have been living in our country again for 2 months now. The bathroom and the kitchen are 2 steps away and I plan to look after him at home when the baby is born. From the strong stress after the separation I got contractions and now I am on restraint pills and the pain still doesn't stop, but I'm much calmer at home. Now he prays and says it will never happen again. Although I did not forgive him, I told him that if we were far from theirs, I would give him a chance. We have been on good terms for only 1 week and he started the old song again in a new voice. They were not guilty, they had not told me anything, if I had forgiven them and forgotten what I had kept so much of my dignity, if I had returned, they should have seen the child, he would have taken him to them, we couldn't pass each other on the way, I was guilty, because when I was with them I didn't respect them (because I didn't go downstairs to warn them when I go out and when I go home, it was disrespectful). And it became more and more insistent that they would have access to the child regardless of my opinion. Thank you very much for your comments. From all this, I knew I had made a few mistakes. First, that I very naively let him protect me. Second, that when I got pregnant, I didn't have the strength to have an abortion. And third, I went to a family where it was very clear to me that I was not wanted. There was simply no chance of getting it. Someone upstairs had asked me why their bad opinion of me was due. At least according to my observations and according to their son, it is due to human tales. It was said badly that I was a very lowly interest, that I behaved very badly with my ex-boyfriend (I had a 5-year relationship before I met him) and various such rural intrigues, most of which are complete fabrications. It also hurt me a lot that for all this nonsense I am not given the chance to defend myself, to explain that this is not true. But I'm surprised they've lived like this all their lives, it's always been more important what people say. All their lives they have been wary of human tales and have lived for human opinion. From the Author All their lives they have been wary of human tales and have lived for human opinion. From the Author All their lives they have been wary of human tales and have lived for human opinion. From the Author

   If your friend from now on talks to you about mom and dad and how they were right, and you do not mean that he has not learned a lesson, he is still deluded and there is no point in going back to him at all. To irritate you, to ruin your family, and to raise your child in the image and likeness of your mother's son. When he tells you something about his mother, confront him directly about his behavior toward his mother. We do not live in Muslim families, where the woman should not go out alone, obey her husband, enslave him and his parents - after all, it is said that we are ahead and have equal families. And it would be to listen to the word of your husband, and you listen to this not your mother-in-law. Don't make the mistake of coming back at all - the cracks will always be visible on the potted vase and raise your child calmly. Ana

   Now I will tell you a truth about life from experience. A child does not hate his grandmother, because she once doubted his biological origin, if you want to instill it in him every day, then your grandmother will not hate her as much as you hate her. He will only ask, "Could Mom have been like that?" He will be aware that people who raise doubts are probably wrong. And he will dig up other opinions about you, and ask strangers. Is that what you want for yourself? Whether you will reunite with him and continue to pull is your choice. But a man also attacked your mother, because of his mother he is not a mature man and you will have to bring him up in private. It will cost you a lot of effort. he really loves you, but he hasn't grown up.

   To the author, BRAVO. Now try to take care to give birth to a healthy child, you are young, you will manage. Take a look at your baby and run to a big city, where the village intrigues can't catch you. In no case do not let him recognize the child, he will have parental rights, and as a single mother they will give you help so that you can strengthen the situation. Don't trust men anymore, think with your head. Let your child become the most important person in your life, but do not forget yourself and your needs. Learn to cope on your own, not to be a burden to your parents. You are young, one day you will ask for a man next to you, but think the next time. You are looking for a mature man who will appreciate you and accept you as a single mother, he has achieved something in his life, he has his own home. She is looking for an educated man, a citizen, but most of all she is looking for herself. NO MAN should have such power in your life anymore. How could you just have unsafe sex with him, to keep you safe. Wake up and grow up. I support you otherwise that you chose to give birth and did not have an abortion. You will manage somehow, you will harden and you will grow. You will have a child of your own who will love you very much, but get him out of the village as soon as possible and go to the city. Do not keep in touch not only with his grandparents, but also with the man who is supposed to be his father. Be a mother and father to your child, no one needs such a father. Not such a man! Do not keep in touch not only with his grandparents, but also with the man who is supposed to be his father. Be a mother and father to your child, no one needs such a father. Not such a man! Do not keep in touch not only with his grandparents, but also with the man who is supposed to be his father. Be a mother and father to your child, no one needs such a father. Not such a man!

   I support with both hands comment 18. What a "second chance", what five levs. Your husband is a geek. To hit you, to curse your mother and to start hitting her too ... what else needs to happen to see what a geek it is? !! And all of the above who said "give him a chance" is a big mistake. Run away from him and his parents, if you have at least a little responsibility to your child, not to write one day here like the other teenagers what rubbish his "father" is and how he suffers because of the "family" relationship. Father and husband? You obviously can't see what you see from the side - what a pathetic mold your husband is, no different from his parents.

   As I read this, I shudder! Typical rural history! If you don't get out of them, you will become like them! You will never please them, if you come back, it will get worse in a few days! Now they are dissatisfied with how you swept, and when the child is jealous, a job opens up for you - diapers, vomit, what you let go, what you throw ... Where will you bathe and deliver it - you don't have a toilet and a bathroom on the floor ... these and where did they go to show off, if you don't have basic amenities ... Stay with yours and you don't need the settlements ... give birth to your child, become more human, and run away, now you can be a single mother, the world doesn't is as before, many young people do not marry. Those who are not sure whose child it is, you do not need to recognize it. Go to a bigger city, think for yourself - don't you write if you have any education, profession, what did you support yourself with before you got married and what do you do all day, except that you are pregnant ... Set a goal in life. Pregnancy is a great period, if you don't go to work, you can at least study a language or get a driver's license, if you haven't yet ... Or qualification courses, or what not ... There are also universities with distance learning , while you are raising the child, you have just seen and finished ... Think with your head that until now you have thought of another place ... I would not get into such a situation, but never ... And my mother-in-law still does things to me I didn't want her until she died, but I didn't let her say, we only stayed with them for 2 weeks until we moved, in the beginning and then I never set foot in her house again .. I let the children go, however, she is still their grandmother . And she gave my 2 children the old clothes from the children of her eldest daughter ... only as they are unwashed. Pantyhose, cotton, with holes in the knees and soles hardened by dirt ... Will it tilt my hat? He was just exposing himself. However, my husband was in place when they sent the "gifts" - from the door, straight out to the buckets and so on ... The important thing is which one, because I had a profession, education, and went to work and went, and the children I educated and educate, and trust and peace reign at home. The mothers-in-law are on time, the family stays one day only and if they haven't built, what will they achieve ... Come on, good health ... and I went and went to work, and I educated and educated the children, and at home there is trust and peace. The mothers-in-law are on time, the family stays one day only and if they haven't built, what will they achieve ... Come on, good health ... and I went and went to work, and I educated and educated the children, and trust and peace reigned at home. The mothers-in-law are on time, the family stays one day only and if they haven't built, what will they achieve ... Come on, good health ...

   To the author! Dear girl, away from parents and mothers-in-law! What you write I experienced many years ago, not in a village but in a big city. When I got married I went to live with my mother-in-law. Then, on the 2nd day, the problems started. I worked in a restaurant and came back at 12 o'clock. in the evening. Going to work in the morning at 9 o'clock and returning at 24 o'clock will you have time to serve your husband and mother-in-law? Then the problems began. My mother-in-law expected that if she had a bride at home, she would do nothing. But it did not happen. Then I started sleeping only for 2-3 hours to have time to at least cook something. When I returned from work, she stated that they did not eat such food (only that her son ate everything I had prepared). One night we heard a noise and peeked out of our room and what to see - she was swallowing as if she had not seen straight from the pot - the food she refused at dinner was not to her taste. There was a lot of laughter with my husband, but we didn't tell her anything. One day I had changed the bed linen so I could wash immediately / then there was no bus. lane. / and I went to work. She put it in a bag and took it to my mother to see what a lazy daughter she had raised — who kept dirty laundry. Then I raised a scandal and told her that if I wanted to catch worms, it was not her job. The glass overflowed when I gave birth: Gemini at 8 months. One of my children died and when my husband told her - come on, you already have a grandmother, you have a grandson - the answer was: It is not known if I am still a grandmother - the other may die. Then I packed my bags and went to my mother. I told my husband to choose where he wanted to be. He chose to come to me. We are already 37 years old. marriage and children aged 36 and 34. and everything is ok.

   Author, I am a man and not yet married, but I can tell you that EVERYTHING you describe in your story and subsequent comments has happened in my family. And my mother threw it, and she was called barren and comments about whether my brother is not from another man (we are like him and the grandmothers in the neighborhood do not distinguish us, and by nature is the same bastard as grandfather, but this is another topic) respect for her has never been and still is not. Grandma (God forgive her) and Grandpa are involved, and I've always had the feeling that they were just looking to hurt my mother and father rather than help them with anything. I am also familiar with the outdoor toilet and the bathroom on the floor and the daily morning checks that Grandma did by opening every possible cupboard and refrigerator while she thought my brother and I were sleeping. As a young father, he was a complete mollusk, which was a terrible tool in the hands of his parents, who did not feel sorry for him and did it on a mat. How much physical and mental harassment he threw at me, my brother and mother do not tell me. He was also inspired against my mother's parents, who were extremely honest and fair people. In contrast, my father's parents are imbued with malice and greed and contempt for other people. They only tried to have some benefit from my family and, as I said, they constantly made my father be an IDIOT in his attitude towards us. I don't know how our family didn't fall apart. Maybe the reason for this is my mother, who in every way understands and swallows not just bad attitude, but sometimes outright GAVRI on the part of my late grandmother and my still living grandfather. Whatever you do, never go back to these people. If you do, you will doom your child to tolerate their stupidity. If your husband reaches out to you now, if you come back he will do it again. And I'll tell you something else. These lowly people will teach your child to be mean to your parents. My brother and I were taught this about my mother's parents, and we trusted them. Now, as a big person, I fully understand everything and I am very sorry that I did not spend more time with them, but then every visit was a burdensome duty for me, and as I said, they were good and honest people and did not deserve our neglect. The old villains never pleased themselves with anything. My mother has always thought about the well-being and development of the family and the improvement of the conditions at home and she reached him with INCREDIBLE efforts to convince my father to make a bathroom and toilet on the floor, to make central heating, to install windows, to change the wallpaper and such normal things for which money was not really a problem. It's just that old people like them want to live their whole lives in one way and have no development around them. If you return to them, only suffering awaits you! I sincerely wish you success in life and that you never have to deal with your husband's parents. Just stay away from them. You decide for your husband, but keep one thing in mind. I am personally skeptical of him. but keep one thing in mind. I am personally skeptical of him. but keep one thing in mind. I am personally skeptical of him.

   Rural simplicity

   I sympathize with you, I am also alone in a similar situation, because we are on another floor, we have all the amenities and we are supposed to be independent until she calls or comes, but we are also monitored and monitored regularly for everything, even how much we sleep when we go to bed what we buy, they keep an account of the money in a delicate way they always do good and literally harass their own son. From observation it is clear to me that everyone is like that, except for their children, the others are not nice and good, my daughters-in-law should do everything to work and clean and tidy, but alas, we will still not be good and worthy of the shadowy families, as if they were not daughters-in-law at the time, etc. No matter how much you look at your work and whatever you do, you are still this. Well, at least they are similar sites for me to share.

   I have always said it and I will say it now: It depends on what family you will find. If they've never liked you, I don't know, try to make a good impression on them. I didn't read everything to the end because I got bored, but to some extent your husband is guilty in my opinion as he said №1 (I only read her comment) he is always there; the opportunity to take a side. Judge for yourself and if the situation gets worse, talk to him to move out, if you have this opportunity, of course, I can tell you this in general from what I read. Anna- Louise

   Collect some finances and move out SEPARATELY to the accommodation! This is the only chance. In my opinion, if they want to come sometimes to visit to see your child, to come. But you don't make the mistake of living in their home again, because everything will be the same. Again, this MAN of yours, let him show a little maturity and independence! A person who already has a family and will have a child should not be so subordinate to his parents. He must respect them, but not allow them to interfere in his personal life and disturb his peace. And why didn't he, as a MAN, protect you and offer you to move out so far !? But it is very easy for their husbands - no one will ever kill his mother, hurt him and damage his dignity, they will always love and support him, and the daughter-in-law? Nobody asks her how she feels among strangers, who are constantly stalking her and testing whether she cleans well, whether she tidies up, whether everything is in place, whether she behaves well with the neighbors. In most Bulgarian families (including mother-in-law and father-in-law), being a daughter-in-law is a pure burden.

   I do not have such problems because I do not talk to my mother-in-law and my father-in-law. As with my parents. When my father-in-law and mother-in-law found out that I was pregnant, they asked me directly - When will you have an abortion. My mother and father told us openly - Aren't there condoms for you? So my husband and I were extremely angry, because we are not small children, I am 25 years old and my husband is 26. The first month we slept in the car and it was generally hell, but we did not go back. Now we live in a dormitory, his salary is 2 thousand euros, because we live in Italy, for the child we receive 300 euros every month. Therefore, I tell you, do not give up and you can and with the help of God you will live a normal life. And my child is already 10 months old, but so far none of our dear relatives have called or come to see their grandson. E, not only in the series there are these shoots, there are in reality. Good luck.

   Author, what happened, did this individual lose his life for good?