How To Let Go Of The Past And Get Rid Of Unpleasant Memories

What we spend our energy on, both positive and negative, accumulates over time. If you become fixated on pain, regret and guilt, they will continue to haunt you. If you focus on happiness and joy, you will notice that there are more of them in your life.

You must have had situations in life when you tried to get rid of stress, but as a result you started to get even more nervous. Or they wanted to calm down, but they found even more reasons to worry.

The same thing happens when we try to let go of the past. Until we completely turn our attention to something else, we will suffer from painful memories.

There is no need to deny and repel painful memories. You can't focus on a problem and find a solution to it. Because the solution is always not where the problem is.

Try to switch. To do this, first accept reality. Don't argue with your thoughts and feelings. Don't fight back. Don't push them away. Instead, let them exist.

For example, to come to terms with your guilt, say to yourself, "Yes, I'm to blame." If you can't forgive the hurt you have caused, say, "Yes, I cannot forgive this man."

That doesn't mean it's all true. It's just a way to control negative thoughts and emotions so they don't control you. Agreeing with them, you stop fighting. And if there is nothing else to argue about, then negative thoughts and memories lose their power. 1-0 in your favor.

Change always causes fear, especially when we have no idea what lies ahead. That's one of the reasons we're so clinging to painful memories. After all, they symbolize the familiar and familiar, which we are afraid to refuse.

To prevent this from happening, try to imagine as carefully as possible what will happen in the future. Instead of repelling unwanted emotions, let positive ones into your life.

Mentally scrolling through our mistakes, obsessing over the past, we just get upset. This not only clouds the future, but also makes the present bleak.

Stop repelling painful memories and accept reality. Say yes to anxiety, guilt and other negative thoughts. This way you can free yourself from their influence.

Then imagine what you would like to see your life. Focus on your desires, not the past.