Hi, I'm 24 years old, lesbian. Half a year ago, I met through a site for alternative sexuality / yes, this is usually the case with different people / with a similar one. The truth is that she impressed me a lot as a person, as a person, as a spirituality. At first, I had no intention of engaging in anything with her other than virtual acquaintance because of her age - she was almost fifty. After that, however, she won me over. With her intelligence, patience, broad outlook - I was extremely happy to talk to her, I decided that it would not be bad to have something more. We hadn't seen each other except on camera and in clothes - I knew she was full-bodied, but she still seemed like a decent babe. Yes but no. We decided to have sex, we rented a hotel room, had fun during the day, had dinner, danced, drank, went home and ... The horror came in the morning. When she got up to go to the bathroom, I saw with disgust how thick and unraveled her body was - shapeless. Stretch marks, cellulite, belly, slings, tits like dachshund ears - all in a set. Apparently in the evening - drunk and excited I had not paid attention, but a sober head just makes me cringe. All my aspirations passed, I even began to wonder if I was still a lesbian. And that's it - for three weeks now, I've been trying to pretend that nothing happened, that everything is old, but she insists we have sex again, and I can't justify myself forever with menstruation and vaginal infection. ... And I can't imagine going to bed with her and running my tongue through all these folds ... horror ... I know some people will be outraged by my story, but - that's it. I know that there are people who like and even prefer a full physique, but - sorry - I'm not one of them. The thing is, I don't want to lose her as a friend, I just don't want her to be my mistress. The reason is her body, and I can't think of a nice and easy way to tell her that. Ideas
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See, for the good of both of you, don't tell the truth about the reason you want to end your intimate relationship with her. Say that you fell in love with another girl / woman and that you would not feel good doing anything more with her. Otherwise, if she accepts that you are only good friends, if not - you can't blame her, so be prepared for that.
Well, tell me that you don't want to ruin your friendship, because of one sex, that it's important to you. And tell in the conversation that you are seeing each other and maybe it will be a relationship, but that you hold on to the friendship with her. And in the end, she "catches" with young girls, at least to support herself a little. It may bother you for a while, because it will probably be difficult to have people who want it, but he will have to accept it. There is no way you can be more tactful than that. And I can't be fat, I'm heterosexual, now that I've read you and imagined it in a male version ... blah. Success!
Be honest and candid with her, you're wasting your time otherwise!
Goddamn. What are you a lesbian for? A boy would give you a better life than this woman, who may be almost your grandmother. The only way to remove it is very easy. You block it from anywhere it can write to you. You put it in the blacklist on your phone so that it can't ring. She probably doesn't know where you live and won't find you. Your problem is solved. He will give up soon.
So what do you try with a tight man as you don't like relaxed babes :) just see you are cured of lesbianism
I don't want to disappoint you, but there's no way you're just friends anymore. As soon as you indulge in cunnilingus, the chance of "just friends" is zero. This is not with homosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals, but with absolutely everyone. Report it as your mistake, and broad-minded and intelligent people are everywhere, you will find another friend to talk to. Good luck !!!
Author - thanks for the advice. Indeed, no matter how much I think about it, it still seems to me that I'm not going to tell her that I don't want her because she's fat ... However - it's not just her fault, for that - the years also speak for themselves . Otherwise she is a golden person, very sensitive, I do not want to offend her. But I also know that she is intelligent and intuitive, and she probably already guesses the reason why a side of her and another lie will come to her more ... That's why I asked for advice, because there are too many factors to anticipate. . I don't want men - I never wanted to, since my puberty I felt that I was interested and wanted women, but this is a question on another topic, and lesbianism is not a disease to be treated. The truth is, I can't "block" her because, as I mentioned in my story, we've known each other for a long time, she knows phones, mail and address, and I hers. And I don't want to run and hide, this petty, podlar ... I consider myself a worthy person and I want to face the problems, not to get stuck. And I don't want to ignore her, just not be lovers. Complicated, really. As much as I think, I don't think I should offend her. And I don't want to be with her out of mercy, out of obligation, not out of desire.
Tell me what happened, there are still others in your situation and tell me how it went?