How To Eradicate This Belief

   Look, this is not good, but the other extreme is not good - to achieve everything you want at any cost, crushing people and corpses ... Of course, if you do not defend your rights and ambitions, no one will come and do it. do it for you. No one will call you at the door today to give you BGN 2 (unless you are a house manager, and the money will not be for you). what can I tell you, you need an experienced psychologist for your problems. A hypnotherapist maybe. Really - it shouldn't be a problem to be ambitious and earn well. "Sufferers", if they really feel good, let them suffer ... Turn to the spiritual (of course not the official religion ...) - there you will find the best balance between ambition and righteousness. In my opinion, the criterion for success in life should be the fact of how many other people, and to what extent, have you helped and influenced their lives positively? Of course, this cannot happen, or at least it would severely limit your circle if you do not have money. If you do not have a family, it would also be a big minus, because these 1-2-3 innocent souls, for whose survival and development you will be personally responsible, will make you much more responsible, purposeful, etc. person. Head up and boldly forward! Do good every day, try to influence the lives of the people around you in a positive way, and don't worry about realizing your ambitions, making money, etc. If you are a moral and properly oriented person, everything you do and achieve in your life will be tailored for the benefit of others, and for society, family and whatever else you can think of. if you have no money. If you do not have a family, it would also be a big minus, because these 1-2-3 innocent souls, for whose survival and development you will be personally responsible, will make you much more responsible, purposeful, etc. person. Head up and boldly forward! Do good every day, try to influence the lives of the people around you in a positive way, and don't worry about realizing your ambitions, making money, etc. If you are a moral and properly oriented person, everything you do and achieve in your life will be tailored for the benefit of others, and for society, family and whatever else you can think of. if you have no money. If you do not have a family, it would also be a big minus, because these 1-2-3 innocent souls, for whose survival and development you will be personally responsible, will make you much more responsible, purposeful, etc. person. Head up and boldly forward! Do good every day, try to influence the lives of the people around you in a positive way, and don't worry about realizing your ambitions, making money, etc. If you are a moral and properly oriented person, everything you do and achieve in your life will be tailored for the benefit of others, and for society, family and whatever else you can think of. Do good every day, try to influence the lives of the people around you in a positive way, and don't worry about realizing your ambitions, making money, etc. If you are a moral and properly oriented person, everything you do and achieve in your life will be tailored for the benefit of others, and for society, family and whatever else you can think of. Do good every day, try to influence the lives of the people around you in a positive way, and don't worry about realizing your ambitions, making money, etc. If you are a moral and properly oriented person, everything you do and achieve in your life will be tailored for the benefit of others, and for society, family and whatever else you can think of.

   I'm 30 and I understand what you're talking about. And in the big cities it was not much different. Try not to think about their opinion when you decide to do something. The important thing is that you realize the truth - you have not blindly accepted their ideology for life! There are my and your sets, which, however, are and which will try in every way to 'pull' you into the 'right' through various verbal insinuations, criticisms, inferences, the insightful type: 'money is not important', 'money corrupts man' and more mn., mn. others (and, let me warn you to be vigilant about the most cult: 'am' tooo vechi smi godiniii iii vechi triya dran-drun / here vary several options / ') and any such' folk '' wisdom 'of the' modest '' hard-working and 'wise' person - avoid contact with them,

   'because these 1-2-3 innocent souls, for whose survival and development you will be personally responsible, will make you much more responsible, purposeful, etc. person.' - number 1, these are myths and legends just to tell you. If it were not so, there would be no children suffering from hunger and misery, there would be no need to pay social benefits to healthy people. In general, I am very fed up with such clichéd and unrealistic statements. How long will there be people thinking that the family is not ... giving wings - bullshit per kilogram.

   The need to survive is stronger than the whim for a new coat, for example. Since many of the Bulgarian clans are poor and have suffered a lot in the last hundred years (World War I, World War II, Communism, etc.), many clans have developed a minimalist life - they live barely enough to survive. Family patterns change slowly, sometimes generations are needed. For example, my grandparents still collect rusks in sacks because their grandparents and parents lived during the First World War and for a long time ate only the leaves of the trees (literally). And eradication is through awareness, as you have discovered. You realize that this pattern of behavior has once been beneficial - over a period of time. The model remained because it was really needed or because it was set by someone influential and strong in the family. You judge whether this model benefits you nowadays or not. Just always keep in mind while walking in the mall, for example, how your ancestors did not walk in the mall, but wandered in the fields and enjoyed a poor harvest. "No one is greater than bread," such people said, because for them bread was everything. Many families did not even own animals. Ie a whole culture was created, patterns of behavior that ensured survival. From such a poor rural family if a person decides to buy something expensive and everyone will eat it with rags - a selfish individualist who thinks only of himself. Simply because there was no money, no resources. If someone rose, others began to envy him - "why would he get money easily, and I will have to work on the levels to the point of fainting?", Which created tension. A culture of self-sustaining misery ensued, but it ensured survival. Ie it was useful, as illogical as it may seem. Even illogical models have been useful as long as they last for generations. They may just have been useful 50-100-150 years ago, not today.

   Author: I mispronounced "I've been living alone for 16 years". I wanted to say "I've been living alone since I was 16". In a sense, without my parents, otherwise I have been married for several years, I have a good and paid job, but it is not enough for me. It is as if I want to compensate for the poverty and humiliation of my childhood with spectacular success today. But with every desire I feel an internal conflict.

   These are defeatist models that you should not follow. I don't understand, because people will listen to the advice of poor and unsuccessful people ...

   6, it is not a question of listening, but of subconscious models implanted in childhood.

   I read you author and I see that there is something distorted not in the ideas of your parents, but in yours. You did not understand what they wanted to tell you or told you at an inappropriate moment in your development. Asking for undeserved things in life is greed wherever you look at it. Being modest is a good quality, which in no way means that you are a sufferer at the same time. Man is just as much a sufferer as he is lazy. WANTING money is a sin, but working and earning is commendable, and at work your goal should not be to make money, but the goal should be to get the job done quickly and with quality. One should enjoy not the money earned, but the job well done. One receives so much money and wealth according to how valuable one is to society. And of course people who are not keen on football, for example, do not understand how a kickball player deserves to receive millions in salary. And he takes it because he plays football in such a way that a large part of the society is caught paying to watch it and "bet" on Eurofootball tickets, he has managed to gain their trust that with his dedication to his work he will win most matches. What is valuable in life is not ambition, because if ambition is not supported by real possibilities, it is simplicity, or more precisely, the simpler a person is, the more ambitious he is. What is valuable in life is to be dedicated to the process of your work, to achieve results. And don't worry, if you are like that, there will be more and more people who will appreciate you and pay for the product you produce, whether it will be music, sports or vegetable production is irrelevant, if you are good and hardworking people will appreciate you. Even if yours told you correctly, one should be grateful for what one has, but gratitude does not limit oneself to continue, try and work, if one has little and not enough, it means that one has not worked hard enough. / or he has not chosen the right field of work and he just has sick ambitions, he has instilled in himself that he has talent for the given job and the talent is insufficient or missing.

   For many poor people, the rich are crooks and criminals who have made their money by fraud. Rarely, someone like that will think that the rich work hard, that he has an education, that he cuts his pipe, that he is enterprising, etc. It is up to you to make your own life, regardless of your opinion. Yes, many things will remain as clichés, but no one knows to what extent they will affect you. Follow your path, even try not to communicate much in yours, because malice increases with tearing.

   8, I understand your thesis, but you did not understand me. Not that I gave enough information. I meant, for example, I am always an excellent student, I even have successes and awards from mathematics Olympiads. But these successes of mine have always been viewed with indifference. One time I didn't hear "we're happy, we're proud, keep going". All some indifference, at times even neglect. Or let's say, for example, I shared my dreams with them - how I want to become what you are when I grow up, and in response I get an ironic smile like "how simple you are that you don't know that your dreams are impossible". Also the eternal repetition - to be rich, you have to lie, steal, cheat - which is a hint that if you are honest, then you will automatically be poor and in this sense poverty is almost a sign of honesty, kindness, and wealth automatically means that you are a demon in a human body and something super sinful. Ie they even demonized working for money. For them you have to get a job of some kind, to earn 5 BGN a day enough to eat bread and salt and juice so that you don't think about wanting more or looking for a better paid job or God forbid for business to think. I think he now understands what I mean. Otherwise, you are wrong about the value to society. It is not important how valuable you are to society, but how much people are willing to pay for your work / skills. I'll give you an example right away. How is Messi more valuable to society than a surgeon who has saved thousands of lives? Well, nothing - because without footballers we can, but without good surgeons we will fuck our mom. The same can be said for the miners. Without football each of us can, but without coal, gas, oil no one can. Is there a worker in the water supply and sewerage system, thanks to which you have water to bathe, drink, cook is thousands of times less valuable than Messi. However, Messi takes 70 million euros a year with advertising rights, and a miner takes 5,000 euros a year. Ie if value were the criterion, Messi would have to be more valuable than the 1,400 miners or 500 surgeons who saved many, many lives. The difference is that Messi is willing to pay more people. If he has 100 million fans in the world, from each to dig 1 euro per year, that's 100 million euros profit for him. But no one will pay the surgeon unless he has the pain to operate on him. You will say that Messi is unique and the best footballer and there is no one like him. What do you think the best surgeon takes 70 million euros a year? Hardly? Not to mention the best miner, although he risks his life every day so that we have heating, electricity, etc.

   No author, I will tell you that a surgeon cannot satisfy 100 million clients a year, unlike this football player there. But if the surgeon is very good with no deaths, he will have a queue in front of the private office where he will withdraw large sums for a consultation, he will be chosen as a doctor in his ward, the pharmaceutical companies will pay him a large% to prescribe their medicines and goods, will pay a solid price to stick their advertisement on his door, etc. And I believe he will not be poor and will not be paid on a par with other surgeons, but much more. You may not know, but the surgeon takes from the company selling implants 30% of the price, that is, if he manages to make you pay for an artificial joint for 5,000 euros, the company will give him 1,500 euros. Car mechanics or garage owners work on the same principle. In front of the client the part for the car is bought for  100. At the end of the week the car mechanic collects 20 to 40% of the price of all the parts he has managed to get his clients to buy, as the client receives the receipt with the amount he paid. The percentage is determined by the quantity, that is, the better the car mechanic, the more sought after he will be, from there he will sell more parts and the% stores for parts will increase. In Bulgaria at the moment a good mechanic with his own service can earn over BGN 5,000 monthly profit "salary" in a medium-sized city. I quote you "Otherwise, you are not right about the value to society. It is not important how much you are valuable to society, but how much people are willing to pay for your work / skills." And how much are the fans willing to pay for the footballer's work in 1 euro? You know, I guess you'll earn more if you catch 100 million people to pay you 1 euro. than to catch 2000 thousand people to pay you 100 euros. Being valuable to society means that many people in society want to buy your work! And not a small number to bid on a price, because no matter how good and respected you are, many of your few people at some point will prefer your, not so good colleagues, because of the lower price.

   And by the way, the miner can't catch end customers buying exactly from the coal he dug. the miner, if he is good and hard-working, will impress his employer and he will give him a bonus to keep him with him to show him that he has noticed the diligence.

   11, that's what I mean. That it is not a question of how valuable you really are to society, but how many people and how much money they are willing to pay for your work and skills. You can't convince me that Messi is more valuable to the world than a good surgeon. Yes, there may be 100 million fans, but he doesn't really contribute that much to them. Yes, it entertains them, it makes them happy, but it is not so valuable against the background of saving lives. If you ask anyone whether they choose to watch Messi or live, no one will answer that they want to watch Messi. The point is that you don't need a surgeon every day, because you don't need a life-saving operation every day, and you need to watch a match, say, once a week, at least some times. Ie here we are talking about the frequency of need, the number of people who have that need, and how much money they are willing to pay to meet that need. This has nothing to do with value. It also makes a lot of money from drugs, but do you think selling drugs is valuable to society? Not only is it not valuable and not useful, but it is even very harmful. It's not valuable, but there are still enough people with similar needs willing to pay for it. So even without contributing and being valuable to society, you can make money. You're just confusing people's needs with value, I'm trying to tell you that. And it is not value but need that is at the heart of profit. You're just confusing people's needs with value, I'm trying to tell you that. And it is not value but need that is at the heart of profit. You're just confusing people's needs with value, I'm trying to tell you that. And it is not value but need that is at the heart of profit.

   13 This Messi is valuable to a much larger number of people than any surgeon, which is not to say that life is not valuable to people. But if those people have chosen to give their 1 euro to this footballer instead of the good surgeon, and if the good surgeon cannot make 100 million people like him, then he is not so valuable, that is, he is easily replaced by other surgeons. And since Messi has managed to get so many people to give him, he is more difficult to replace with other players. You confuse things "valuable to society" is one thing "work / action appreciated by many people in society" is quite another. The need you are talking about has nothing to do with it. All people on earth have a life-saving daily need for water, but neither water is the most expensive thing nor the plumbing masters are the most expensively paid.

   Do you understand what I tell you that people who use drugs buy exactly from the dealer, because they appreciate the risk he has taken, they appreciate the discretion that he gives them, they appreciate the quality of his goods and many other things, so the dealer is valuable to them! Nobody tells you that the product is valuable, and the one who produces it distributes it! This footballer Messi is valuable to the people, not the ball and the field on which he plays, so they do not pay all footballers equally!

   "But if those people have chosen to give their 1 euro to this footballer instead of the good surgeon, and if the good surgeon can't make 100 million people like him, then he is not so valuable" So no surgeon can make 100 million to they like him for the simple reason that neither so many people need life-saving surgery, nor to like him does he have the physical ability to operate on them. From there comes the difference in pay - in the number of audiences. But to say that Messi because he kicked a ball very well is more valuable than a man who saved thousands of lives is sacrilege. By your logic, drug lords are the most valuable because drugs make the best money. Please do not equate profits and values, it is stupid and superficial. There is no power in the world to convince me that Messi is more valuable than a man, saved even one human life. Tomorrow Messi will retire and no one will lose anything. But if a firefighter working for BGN 800 saved even one child from death, he would have contributed much more to the world. I also love football, but to say that all rich footballers are one of the most valuable to society means that you simply have no idea what value is. I ask you again, how is a drug lord valuable to society, since by your logic it turns out that way? If selling the highest quality drug is valuable, then you really don't know what value is. Thanks to this man, who sells quality drugs, thousands of people die every year, and the fact that the surgeon saved 200 people this year and took 2 salaries each means that it is not a value for the society. Well, assassins are rich, and are they valuable with that? that they know how to kill best? So adjust your vocabulary. Not "value" is the word.

   Now look in your dictionary where the word value comes from and what its root is. And find where I wrote the phrase "valuable to society", in №14 I quoted this phrase said by you in order to tell you that this is not what I'm talking about. And you everywhere claim that I said "valuable to society." And unfortunately for you, the customer appreciates the seller and his product, paying for the service with money. I haven't told you about spiritual values ​​anywhere! Of course, the "service" of the drug dealer and the assassin is not moral, of course saving lives is moral, but these are spiritual values ​​that have nothing to do with assessing the quantity and quality of work of an individual.

   Well, let's leave morality and society aside. But I tell you again, need also matters. For example, if you've never been sick, you won't pay for medicine, but that doesn't mean you don't value your health, does it? You value it more than anything, but you just didn't have the NEED to seek health care. And that's why you decided to give your money to whores, for example. Are whores more valuable to you than health? You are supposed to value your services with your money. Do you value whores more than your health? However, get sick of her to see if you will spend for health or for whores. You will also sell your house if you need to save yourself, right? Have you started to value your health more? No. It's just that your need has changed. And to be the best doctor if everyone in the world is healthy you will not earn a penny. But will they appreciate you less. No, because they know that if they are in trouble, they will lean on you. But until they are late, they will not give you a lev. And not because they will appreciate you less, but because of the lack of need. Now does the difference between need and value warm up and what is the basis for profits?

   If the need mattered, then the need for surgery could be done by any surgeon, the need to watch a match could be met with each match, and so all those working in the same profession would take the same. With my money I appreciate the seller and the quality of his goods, I appreciate the person who performs the service and what quality this person offers! Even if I need medical help, I will not go to the first surgeon I meet, but to the one evaluated by the people, and he will be evaluated because he is valuable to them! Even if I start going to whores, of course I will choose the most desired and expensive one, respectively this guarantees me quality.

   Ferrari and Ford. Ford doesn't particularly value it, but they buy it en masse, simply because they can't afford a better car, and yet they need one. Everyone would definitely appreciate a Ferrari much more than a Ford Fiesta, but how many people will be able to buy a Ferrari? And in the end, when you draw the line, Ford earns more than Ferraris (although the latter are much more expensive, but sold in single units), but is it priced more? I am against putting a sign of equality between value and profit. I'm not saying that value doesn't matter, but it's just one of the factors. There are many other factors such as purchasing power, need, location, features of the profession itself, etc. I do not agree with the notion that if Messi is richer than a doctor, it automatically makes him more valuable. First, the doctor cannot physically serve 100 million people, and Messi can watch it on TV and 7 billion people. You can appreciate a doctor compared to others, but if he is very busy and does not have the physical ability to examine you, the fact that you appreciate him does not bring him money. Even if they value him to 100 million people, he will not be able to examine them all, and no matter how much money he takes from them, Messi can never get there. The location is important. If the best doctor is in the United States, you probably won't go and his value still doesn't materialize. But you will go to someone close to you, even though you don't value him as much. But for Messi you don't need to go anywhere, because you can watch it on TV. If TV hadn't been invented, Messi wouldn't have won 1% of it. Does that mean it would be less valuable? Purchasing power also matters. If there is a global economic crisis and people cannot afford to watch it, its income will double. Does this mean that he has become twice as inferior? There is a doctor in our village who is in complete grief and believe me, no one appreciates him. But because retired grandmothers could not afford to go to town or could not walk, they made him rich because they had no choice. Does anyone appreciate this one? No, absolutely no one has a good opinion of him. But is he rich? Judging by the cars and his house definitely. Isn't there more valuable in the city than him? Definitely has. But the coercion of the people and the lack of competition in the countryside bring him enormous profits. Value is just one of many factors and the rest are not to be overlooked. It is elementary to look only at the value and ignore the other factors. that it has become twice as inferior? There is a doctor in our village who is in complete grief and believe me, no one appreciates him. But because retired grandmothers could not afford to go to town or could not walk, they made him rich because they had no choice. Does anyone appreciate this one? No, absolutely no one has a good opinion of him. But is he rich? Judging by the cars and his house definitely. Isn't there more valuable in the city than him? Definitely has. But the coercion of the people and the lack of competition in the countryside bring him enormous profits. Value is just one of many factors and the rest are not to be overlooked. It is elementary to look only at the value and ignore the other factors. that it has become twice as inferior? There is a doctor in our village who is in complete grief and believe me, no one appreciates him. But because retired grandmothers could not afford to go to town or could not walk, they made him rich because they had no choice. Does anyone appreciate this one? No, absolutely no one has a good opinion of him. But is he rich? Judging by the cars and his house definitely. Isn't there more valuable in the city than him? Definitely has. But the coercion of the people and the lack of competition in the countryside bring him enormous profits. Value is just one of many factors and the rest are not to be overlooked. It is elementary to look only at the value and ignore the other factors. But because retired grandmothers could not afford to go to town or could not walk, they made him rich because they had no choice. Does anyone appreciate this one? No, absolutely no one has a good opinion of him. But is he rich? Judging by the cars and his house definitely. Isn't there more valuable in the city than him? Definitely has. But the coercion of the people and the lack of competition in the countryside bring him enormous profits. Value is just one of many factors and the rest are not to be overlooked. It is elementary to look only at the value and ignore the other factors. But because retired grandmothers could not afford to go to town or could not walk, they made him rich because they had no choice. Does anyone appreciate this one? No, absolutely no one has a good opinion of him. But is he rich? Judging by the cars and his house definitely. Isn't there more valuable in the city than him? Definitely has. But the coercion of the people and the lack of competition in the countryside bring him enormous profits. Value is just one of many factors and the rest are not to be overlooked. It is elementary to look only at the value and ignore the other factors. Value is just one of many factors and the rest are not to be overlooked. It is elementary to look only at the value and ignore the other factors. Value is just one of many factors and the rest are not to be overlooked. It is elementary to look only at the value and ignore the other factors.

   And why is "development" and ambition always measured in money? This is a question for everyone, not just the author. A hygienist abroad can receive a higher salary than a teacher in Bulgaria. And many more examples. Author, you have a lot of right reasoning. "Otherwise, you're not right about the value to society. It doesn't matter how valuable you are to society, it matters how much people are willing to pay for your work / skills." - That's right. My parents are also exactly this type of people. However, I grew up not in a village or a small town, but in a big city and I was different, my peers avoided me. I understand my parents' point of view, but I am angry only at their words of ingratitude, of not acknowledging the problem. My advice is, first of all, that you need to think about what exactly these ambitions are - are they for money, are they for personal satisfaction, are they for any useful activity. It is not bad to have your own business, for example, it will be good even, but it will be bad if you do not care about your workers, if you give them low wages to earn, if you produce poor quality products because you used poor quality raw materials. That's the bad thing. Every extreme is bad in principle. And the people of the older generation, many of them are convinced of something and no one and nothing can change their minds. It might not be for that, it could be for something else. Number 1 wrote you a very nice comment among others. Every extreme is bad in principle. And the people of the older generation, many of them are convinced of something and no one and nothing can change their minds. It might not be for that, it could be for something else. Number 1 wrote you a very nice comment among others. Every extreme is bad in principle. And the people of the older generation, many of them are convinced of something and no one and nothing can change their minds. It might not be for that, it could be for something else. Number 1 wrote you a very nice comment among others.

   21, thank you for your support, I really appreciate it. For the money, I just gave it as an example, because this is the topic to which my parents reacted the most. Otherwise, money in my mind, yes, is a sign of success, because after all it is something we all strive for, but not in the sense that some kind of end in itself should be above all. By success I mean a lot of things - money and a successful business, and helping, and having authority, and doing something you like, and creating a good family, and overcoming challenges, and feeling useful, and you feel the meaning of your life, and many things. Money in itself is nothing, but what you can buy with it is valuable. These are things like good food, a future for your children, a nice home, vacations, comfort, security, freedom, etc. There are also valuable things separately,

   What you are describing is not just your family, but a whole and quite long historical epoch. It is explained in the books on sociology / culturology / history. This historical epoch has passed west, in our country it is only now evaporating, in the east it is still fermenting. That is, we are somewhere in the middle. That's why every Bulgarian can tell a similar story (if he doesn't feel like being as honest as you). For example, I fully recognized what you were describing. But, to your question. You can hardly easily shake off models packed in childhood. My advice from personal experience is to break with the social environment that preaches what you describe and replace it with the right one. Childhood will probably not stop ringing in your head, but if there is a competitive voice, the voice of good examples of what you are striving for, they will expose and displace the former accordingly. (I guess the change of environment is the reason why emigrants succeed - they came from I don't know where, without knowing the language, without significant funds - but completely free from the toxic family insinuation of patriarchal wisdom. A second piece of advice I would give is to look things from this point of view that the biggest problem is not the model of preaching misery to the point of moral virtue.As mentioned above, this behavior may have once made sense - it was a solution, hardly the most good, but it worked and was therefore “canonized.” (When a pattern of behavior becomes a human (i.e., cultural) norm, it usually means that that pattern works for the specific time and circumstance, but usually is the most mediocre, not the best. ) The problem of the older generations, who fear their "wisdom" is that they have not noticed and have not adapted to the present time and circumstances, and not so much in their "wisdom" itself. In general, one of the most catastrophic things in life is not having a sense of vigilance about what is happening around you and not being able to adapt quickly.

   You know, it was something like that for me, but not because ambition is a bad thing, but because money is a bad thing. In time, I realized that money was neutral. But they give you the freedom to do what you want. And that if you have them, you can do not only good for yourself and good for others - you can make your loved ones happy with something good, you can feed someone who needs it, etc. I believe that in order to change a belief - you have to you find as many beliefs as possible opposite to it and in which you believe. For example - if you are a doctor you need to be ambitious / well-read and save animals. If you have a company - you actually pay people, you provide them with food at the table. Etc. Every day find 10-20 new beliefs why the ambition is good there will be a difference if you are persistent.