Hello, I want to share my story and see other points of view besides mine, in order to orient myself where ... It's about the fact that I lost myself. From the beginning of the year until now I am constantly looking for myself, I have the feeling that I have different personalities. Whenever I talk to different people, it's as if I'm getting under their skin and I can't be completely myself. I've had childhood and puberty injuries, but somehow they've accumulated so much, I've accumulated, that I've just started to get cold. To some extent, our people are also to blame, because they constantly think about the opinion of others, compare me with them and shout at me: "Look at others, what will they say; What will they think if you dress like that ..." and other things like that. Later I realized that one life is lived and I have to live for myself and not for others. The problem is there, that I have wasted too much time living according to other demands, beliefs and values. I think I lost a lot of opportunities, but now is the time to get back what belongs to me. I want to build my principles and beliefs, but I don't know how and where to start. I am currently reading a book about finding my true identity in order to orient myself ... The road to myself was difficult - only now I understood this, it is true! Thanks to my close friends I was able to build some self-confidence and principles, but I still feel that they are influenced by their thinking and this thought does not give me peace .. I am mega confused what to do, what to follow in life. I always think about the path that may be mine, but then I wonder if it will be right, as if I'm afraid to make a mistake. I feel like I've made so many mistakes so far that I don't want to make mistakes anymore. But to tell you the truth - despite everything, I am optimistic, I believe that very soon everything will turn out in my favor. Life took a lot and the time came to get it back. Give some advice and opinions (if you are going to give criticism, let it be constructive!). Thanks!
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Hello! Don't worry! In my opinion, you have nothing to count on, because all your life, fear and anxiety, what others will say, you are used to being guided by their mind and thinking. As far as I noticed, you mentioned that you have gained some self-confidence, which is a good start to finding yourself. It is good that you have realized and decided on such a thing. Personally, I think that with a little more self-confidence, but not too much, within the norm, and more frequent expression of personal opinion, you will cope and find your true self. Your friends will also notice the change in you, and may even listen to you for something and follow your example. Good luck finding your self! 14-year-old girl