Hello! Although I am 22 years old, I am still tormented by the relationship with my mother, with the whole family. It's like I'm a 12-13 year old girl. We have had many quarrels with her, on all sorts of topics. She was telling my brother that I didn't love him, she was setting my grandparents against me ... She was squeezing me all the time. He kept telling me that I was lazy, heartless, selfish, he even told me that I was her biggest failure in life. She always depressed me (supposedly unconsciously) and one day my curtain just fell off, I packed my bags and went to work (if it could be called a job) in Norway. My mother went crazy, first begging me to come back, then threatening me. Years ago I had told her to behave as she wished. One day he just won't rely on me for anything. I am currently engaged to a wonderful person and a few days ago we learned that we will become parents. My mother HATES my husband (not a Negro, an Arab), and her arguments are ridiculous ... I didn't say that at all. She needed me now, and I reminded her that I was "ungrateful and selfish" and planned not to talk to her anymore. I wonder if I should completely cut off my communication, he thinks in a disgusting way and all our conversations end with "shut up, you have poisoned my life". I really don't know what to do, obviously I won't get along with her. If I return to Bulgaria there will be a disgusting situation, everyone will look at me askance, but on the other hand it is appropriate to tell them about the pregnancy, I do not know what to do. I wonder if I should completely cut off my communication, he thinks in a disgusting way and all our conversations end with "shut up, you have poisoned my life". I really don't know what to do, obviously I won't get along with her. If I return to Bulgaria there will be a disgusting situation, everyone will look at me askance, but on the other hand it is appropriate to tell them about the pregnancy, I do not know what to do. I wonder if I should completely cut off my communication, he thinks in a disgusting way and all our conversations end with "shut up, you have poisoned my life". I really don't know what to do, obviously I won't get along with her. If I return to Bulgaria there will be a disgusting situation, everyone will look at me askance, but on the other hand it is appropriate to tell them about the pregnancy, I do not know what to do.
1 imalecchambers answered
Your mother obviously raised you with ambition, but not with love :( And the lack of true love and tenderness is the reason that the damaged relationship cannot be restored - there is nothing that smooths them out. And things go from bad to worse. "Bad ... You both don't need this poison anymore. Your mother may have a real need for you, but her ego will always prevail, and certainly if she interferes in your relationship with your husband, it will hurt a lot." What is important - it will not change.