Hello! I have been engaged for 3 years. My friend is a really good person, he loves me and imagines his life going on with me to the end. He had to move to another city for about a year. We don't live together, but we had the attitude to join him after another necessary year. He comes on the weekends, after all, here I am, here is his family. Since we haven't been able to see each other every day, our relationship has become more complicated. Initially, we heard each other often on the phone and chatted a lot, we missed each other. Noo, when he got used to life there, started looking for me much less often. Whenever he is with someone, he hangs up the phone, and after an hour (for example an hour) he tells me what he did and who he was with. Then he apologizes for bothering me because he didn't do anything. In short, when he is there, I feel like his burden. He has been more active on Facebook for some time, but not for me. He liked pages of naked women, he liked pictures of other girls, and he told me he did it "because of the likes." We had an argument about it and apparently no longer does. The problem is that if I look for it for a long time without getting an answer (which is very common), I start to worry about it and get angry at the same time. I caught him lying to me next to his friends in the 'new city'. It wasn't very serious, but then why is he hiding / lying !! After a misunderstanding, instead of solving the problem, he is silent to me, as if everything is because of me. Our problems affect me really badly mentally. I don't know how much I love him anymore or only attachment remains. :( I've been dating an aver for a while, purely friendly (supposedly ..). I still have a very good boy friend and I dare say that friendship between a man and a woman is possible. Alas, it didn't just turn out to be from those friendships. We have a great time together: we laugh, we talk ... but that's how we started to become attached to each other. He hadn't touched me with his finger until he tried to kiss me. The worst part was that I returned the kiss. He always knew I had a boyfriend. I know it, but it just happened. I'm not one of those people who falls in love with casual people. What's happening to me? !! I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend because, despite the neglect, I know he loves me. Would you say I leave my boyfriend if I don't love him? !! Would you say that what happened with the kiss is something momentary and I do not appreciate what I have? !! The last attempt to break up with my friend (no matter the reason) 'almost killed him', if you understand me .. The truth is that I want him to be happy too. I'm exhausted and I'm very sad. Please advice, if not, skip it. I do not want evaluations for myself.
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Hello! You've probably heard the phrase, "If there's a desire, there's a way. If there's no desire, there are excuses." This is about your friend. From what you describe, I think he has cooled more or less to you. He tells you that he loves you, but does he prove it? You, on the other hand, feel that something is wrong with his attitude towards you, you are disappointed that he no longer pays enough attention to you, you want thrills, shared time (!) And emotions that you found in the little boy. Answer the question: If you were happy with your boyfriend and you were all right, would you respond to that kiss or would you slap a slap and say to the Romeo in question, "What the hell are you doing?" to take a short break and see how your relationship will develop later. Tell him, that you are tired of being ignored by a real man, he will put the woman next to him in the first place and will not allow him to hurt her in any way (whether physically or emotionally). I'm telling you from experience, because my friend is like that. I don't know what he's doing in this other city, but if he wants to be with you, he'll find a way to be with you or live with you. If he is a student, ok, wait for him (through the vacation you will give yourself) and tell him that you want to live together. After all, you've been together for 3 years and still don't live together? I lived with my friend after 4 months of getting to know each other and we are still together (for 2 years and 2 months now). a friend who tells me, "I don't want other women, you're enough for me, the way you are." I do not say, that he should never look at another again, but not make it so obvious! My thought is that if you're the Woman for him, your friend with teeth and claws will fight for you ... and yours doesn't seem to. Why do you put up with less than you deserve? And the fact that with a possible separation "you can kill him" is too much in my opinion. He manipulates you and plays the role of a victim, just so you don't leave him and he treats you like a second violin. Be happy girl! You can talk at length with the little boy about whether you would like to be together and whether it is worth risking your friendship if you break up later. You want your boyfriend to be happy, and he wants you to be happy? If you hold on to his happiness, tell him that you want him to treat you properly, to show you and prove that he loves you, to respect and appreciate you, to be happy when you are happy, etc. and that if you do not correct your behavior after you take a break, it is better to part forever and everyone to seek happiness with someone else. And in the meantime you can tell him that another person (avercheto) has appeared and you have started to sink in, precisely because of the cold attitude of your man. This, in my opinion, will make him light up that he is losing you and hopefully take action. It got a little messy, but I hope you get the most out of it. Good luck and write after a while what happened :) F, 25 years old. that another person (avercheto) has appeared and you have started to sink in, precisely because of the cold attitude of your person. This, in my opinion, will make him light a light that he is losing you and hopefully take action. It got a little messy, but I hope you get the most out of it. Good luck and write after a while what happened :) F, 25 years old. that another person (avercheto) has appeared and you have started to sink, namely from the cold attitude of your man. This, in my opinion, will make him light up that he is losing you and hopefully take action. It got a little messy, but I hope you get the most out of it. Good luck and write after a while what happened :) F, 25 years old.