Hello, I haven't written on forums so far, but obviously there is a first time for everything. I have a problem with sharing, and especially with sharing with my closest people. The situation is a bit ridiculous, but I guess everyone, when they have a case to solve in their life, seems the most complicated. So to the problem. I had a 3-year relationship, which was my most valuable relationship, but a year ago we broke up due to a number of misunderstandings and uncertainty on my part and his. Apart from having a relationship, we were also very good friends, and we even still hear and see each other as friends. Sometimes I have the feeling that we have never separated. Until we were together, I did not introduce him to my parents, to my brother, in a word, to the family. In general, I am not in favor of meeting parents, or at least not in the beginning. I've never done it, which I realize is not very normal. I'm still 28 years old, but that's how I felt more non-committal, and without expectations from the others. Although he introduced me to almost all of his relatives. The other reason I didn't do it is because I've been hiding something about myself for as long as I can remember, something I don't talk about with almost anyone, let alone anyone. Now for the first time I will share it in a forum lol. I am a Bulgarian of Roma origin and I never knew how to talk about it. In principle, I should not take it as something important that determines my life, but obviously it is once I get here, and I do not want to. Once, while we were still together, he saw a picture of my brother on Facebook, and asked me directly if I was of Roma ethnicity. I was in shock at the time because no one had asked me until then, and I did not know what to answer him. And guess what I did - I denied ... at that moment I was ashamed of myself. I was ashamed because I denied it. It has remained so to this day. There are still feelings between us and he himself told me that he could not imagine being with another woman, but remembering how foolish I was to deny it. These are things that should not be hidden, let alone denied, I understand. But it is difficult for me to talk about it, and it is because he is one of my closest people. I'm not asking for advice, I just needed to share it for the first time, albeit in this form. I'm only interested in what you look like from the side, and what you would do in such a situation. that he could not imagine being with another woman, but remembering how foolish I had been to deny it. These are things that should not be hidden, let alone denied, I understand. But it is difficult for me to talk about it, and it is because he is one of my closest people. I'm not asking for advice, I just needed to share it for the first time, albeit in this form. I'm only interested in what you look like from the side, and what you would do in such a situation. that he could not imagine being with another woman, but remembering how foolish I had been to deny it. These are things that should not be hidden, let alone denied, I understand. But it is difficult for me to talk about it, and it is because he is one of my closest people. I'm not asking for advice, I just needed to share it for the first time, albeit in this form. I'm only interested in what you look like from the side, and what you would do in such a situation.
1 prettyboinami answered
If you wanted something really serious with this person and if he wanted it, I would definitely admit to him, firstly, that it will always weigh on me that I'm lying to him, secondly, that if you have a family one day and he later finds out he will hardly he likes it, neither do you, am I right? Do you love someone and especially he to respond with the same NEVER hides, keeps silent or lies, after all this is your partner in life !!