I am a 17 year old girl. It's been two months and I've been involved - in fact, we were close friends with him at first. I think this is the right person for me and I'm ready, but I don't know how to tell him. Not that I doubt him, but for God's sake, what can I say to him: ddd with a hint or straight? Of course, when we were in company we took up the topic of sex, but we did not sit down to talk to him about it.
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I think the right way is to ask him if he is a virgin (there should be no room for shame, as this is a completely normal topic) and at the same time he should ask the same about you or just tell him. As I said - this is a normal topic, and if you trust him and everything is fine, what's the problem :)
When you are together, tell him I want to share something with you and you tell him and then ask him if he is too. Don't think that you are ready to sleep with him after two months of relationship, because the first one you will remember for a lifetime and it is better to spend more months to be completely sure of your decision. At least I think so, because in this way you are less likely to regret years later.
Sometimes boys don't understand hints and you have to speak in plain text if you want them to understand you correctly. As I said in another topic, virginity is not a cause for shame, especially considering your age, you have nothing to worry about. The boy is with you, he obviously likes you and cares about you, since he didn't ask for sex from the beginning, right? Then you can rest assured that he will accept you as you are and there will be no problem. It's only a matter of time before he understands anyway, so be direct. If I'm in your place, I'll use it sometimes when we're just the two of us, undisturbed, in a quiet and peaceful atmosphere and we talk and then I'll tell him. You can first ask him if he has been with a girl and then admit to him that you are a virgin. Tell him you're sharing it because you think that it is right to know also because you are not ashamed of what (in which I strongly hope). Good luck and smart :)
At 17, it's more than normal to be a virgin. If you talk about such a topic, just tell him ... It's not who knows what. I hadn't had sex until I was 19. The boy asked me if I had others before him, and I answered honestly that I wasn't. I don't know what is this "romantic shade" that most people give the first time. I remember mostly pain, no matter how carefully the boy, there is no way simple, terrible anxiety and blood. Dirty and unpleasant work, which I am glad is over. I'm sorry if it sounds vulgar ...
Don't tell him, he'll find out for himself. P.S. And if you want - tell him.
Do things the way you feel. If you feel it, tell him.
Just when things get hotter sometimes when you push and he gets too insistent just tell him - and by the way I'm a virgin or you know I'm a virgin and then you both decide if you're ready to let him go or not - or if you decide to let him go at this point, you can just tell him it will be your first time and be more careful. Otherwise, you can still tell him if you sometimes talk about sex and you can put it somewhere in the topic.
I support number 6, it was terribly painful, because the boy was quite gifted in terms of thickness, but he couldn't even penetrate with his fingers, there was little blood and the first 3 or 4 times he couldn't penetrate, to be honest, I'm glad, that passed. now everything is ok. , but it had nothing to do with what I imagined. And even though I was madly in love, there was nothing romantic ... I don't want to scare you, everyone is different, someone even said that it doesn't hurt. You have nothing to be ashamed of, when the time comes you say you have no experience and that's it
I'm 24 and I'm determined to give myself to only one man and why not wait until the wedding? I have always been very sensitive, vulnerable and fragile. When men took me down, they always looked at my appearance. There is hardly anyone who appreciates that I am romantic. I dream of the purity of the 1st surrender, to cuddle, to fall asleep on his chest and to hear his heart beating and for him to caress my hair. To walk in nature and dance under the stars. I want a lot of tenderness and patience, not to always explode and brag to me where and with whom they will break. Not everything is drinking and easy sex. I want to find a mature, settled man with morals and principles like mine. I'm so tired of posers who have nothing to do with a lady and always look at my appearance. I want to tell you men, look at the behavior and principles in a woman! I have decided to remain a virgin, in spite of this depravity. I will protect my lips and body and indulge when I feel something different in a valuable man. I will not be anyone's doormat. As for other virgins like me - do not give up and follow your principles! This is your body - let it be your temple and only the most worthy to cross its threshold! Good luck to all who seek the pure! A.
Tell him you want to do it, and when it all starts, just tell him to be more careful, because it's your first. He will be so excited that he won't even ask questions. And even if he asks questions, there is nothing shameful. Beer me will even be proud of it. Good luck and tell me how it went.
24, I'm 28 and I'm also a virgin, I have no words for what you wrote and read ... as if I wrote it, greetings from me. I also stick to my principles first and I want only one man in my life, my different one, there is no show, I support you, the best is yet to come :)