Hello! I'm a boy of 17 in 11th grade.
On Monday night, my mother and I had a serious argument. The reason we quarrel is that I owe money for invoices to one of the famous MLM companies for some time. The quarrel started as soon as the conversation with my sponsor, who sang her the song, ended. She insulted me with words that hurt me a lot, like her child and her son. Words like "you're not good for anything", "shit", "you're complete rubbish", "what did they do to you ...". These were some of her harshest words she said to me. We made him leave his phone, which I did.
In the morning, when I asked her to give me money for school, she was very strange, because she told me if there were any small ones to take, so I did. After school, my father came to us and wanted to talk. Let me clarify that she shared with him what she learned from my sponsor. I even owed money to an acquaintance of mine from Easy Pay. I had asked her two weeks ago to wait for me until the same week, but I was never able to give them to her. She wrote to me on Facebook, but I never answered her because I didn't know what to write to her. She contacted my mother in some way and she gave them to her. Well, my father asked me what I spent them on, how and when, and I told him that I spent them on myself, and little by little, not all at once. He didn't even touch me with his finger, and he didn't even raise his voice, which was strange to me, and that's not very typical of him. I'm very grateful to him that he reacted so well, because if he was someone else, he could beat me to the core. He also said that we would find a way to fix this money.
I also talked to a psychologist that day, who is a very close teacher of mine, a young lady whom I love and respect very much. I was relieved a lot after the conversation. When we were talking to my father in the room, my mother came in and said nothing, and started calling her why we were so lazy, etc., and she didn't take any action, because it could have happened worse, but as it turned out he says "it's better to shut up than to get worse," and he did. And he told him that he was stopping my lessons for my application, which raised my heart rate to 200, but I knew it was temporary and I had to restrain myself with all my might. When we were alone with my mother, she asked me what these chats were with one of the men I corresponded with on Facebook, should I show them to your father. I was very angry with her why she did it, because she penetrated my personal life and personal space. I asked her if I had the right to privacy, and she said no while you were lying. He asked me who he was, where he was from, what he did, and such general questions. I answered her naturally. In the evening, she wanted me to delete her Facebook profiles in front of her, otherwise, if she didn't, she would tell my father, and if he found out I was dating men, we had no idea what she would do to me and my mother. She even broke my Viber and whatsap. I deleted Facebook, WhatsApp, Viber, and Messenger from my phone while she said. In a word, she deprived me of any online communication.
The next day, it was very calm, so was the atmosphere at home. He even hugged and kissed me. Like the day before, I promised her I wouldn't do such nonsense again.
The next morning, when I left for school, I hurried to look for the young psychologist I went to the day before. I told her about the atmosphere at home, about the chats with these men. I was very relieved after I told her everything. She told me that it was temporary and that I should be as close as possible to her now, and that she could not deprive me of contact with men, to specify here that I was careful with whom I communicated. She also told me that she punished me where it would hurt me the most.
Today, I go to school much calmer and smiling, again I hurried to tell her how I am and how she is at home. Mom came home from work, asked me how he was and I told her how it went. But she surprised me when she asked me if I had the 8th grade collection of biology assignments, and I told her I had it. She also told me that the biology lady had told me to practice them, to which I replied well. But she asked me again if I had been late with the invoices on another occasion, and if I had asked them to wait for me to pay the rest of the money, to which I replied that I had been late with the money, but not to pay extra, I told her so, but it wasn't, and she knew somewhere that I had wanted such a scare before. And I told her after she found out that I wanted to be waited for another time, and she told me how to trust you, and I wondered if I had really lost her at all. But he had to travel to the countryside with my father and brother, and I had to stay and clean up the weekend. I went downstairs to give me money my father to have on the weekends and during the week. We were left alone in the car, he asked me how I was and I told him I was fine, and he told me that we had to fix the "borchos" and he asked me how long we had to fix them, and I told him I had to see when. . He asked me if you were without a phone, and I told him, as you can see ... And most unexpectedly he said, tell your mother to give it. I opened the door and told Mom that Dad wanted to tell you something, and then Dad told her to give me the phone. My mother told me where she was and warned me that this was a lesson for me. Whereupon not a stone fell from my heart, but a plane flew out of my heart. I contacted my psychologist, told her, and she told me it was temporary, not to challenge her, and to listen to what she told me. The bad thing is that it deprived me of all options for online communication, but I will experience it.
For information, I am a future student of medicine and pharmacy at University!
Please! Help me as much as you can, because I want my mother to trust me again and to be together. I know that I have to put in a lot and that it will not be easy, but I will not give up!
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