Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl. In general, I have no problem with communication, I am open and sociable. But I have noticed that when I get into an argument with someone and they start to hold a higher tone or start talking to me rudely, I am very easily embarrassed, confused and even unconsciously water my eyes. And I don't want that to be the case at all. I recently had an incident with a, to put it mildly, rude woman in a mall, who treated me quite rudely and looked at me horribly, which affected me very badly and I couldn't even answer her. I'm not used to screaming, insults and angry looks and when something like that happens to me I just don't know how to react. Any tips on how to overcome this? Maybe your first reaction will be "Don't care" and I say to myself, but at such a moment it's as if "don't care" evaporates and freezes. Do you think I can change it in any way? Thanks in advance for the advice.
1 mr_bea answered
Ah, girl, I'm just like you ... I understand you perfectly. It's hard to change like that ... it's like a defensive reaction, it's all mental. I used to be like that too, to keep quiet, people say, the smarter one keeps quiet, yes, but you shouldn't let them get on your head and crush you. You should not allow this to have an unpleasant effect on you .. most of the time it affects others .. it accumulates and kills and most often against people who do not deserve it. My advice is to try to say everything at the moment, no matter how difficult it is for you. You grit your teeth and say it .. gradually you will see how things fall into place .. Relationships with people are difficult, especially today - malice, rudeness .. arrogance. People are extremely nervous and always try to make fun of others. Good luck girl, head up!