Hello! I have had a boyfriend for several months and although we have only been together for a few months, I feel that it will be something serious. I didn't feel the same way with another. He treats me like a princess, listens to me, understands me, has proven to me many times that he cares and that he cares about me. So far so good, but there is a problem. I feel that things will get more serious with him and that he already has quite strong feelings for me. That's not the problem, I'm also quite attached to him and even seem to have fallen in love. I've loved it before, but this time it's different, it's somehow stronger than before. The problem is that at first I wasn't completely honest with him. As soon as we met, he asked me if I had a brother or sister. I told him I only had a younger sister, but the truth is different. In fact, I am the second of three children. I have an older brother, who was born in the seventh month and as a result is born blind and cannot speak - 80% are disabled. He can walk and understand, but only that. My grandmother used to take care of him, but after he died my parents looked after him. My sister is 8, she was also born in the seventh month and as a result she has autism. It's not as scary as it sounds, but it's different from other things. Like I said, my friend doesn't know about them. I didn't tell him just because these are pretty personal things for me that I don't share with everyone, and I didn't expect things to go so well. Although I know it's too early to think about family, etc., I still think I'm fooling him and I don't want him to want to leave me after a while, when I dare to admit it, but he can't or doesn't feel bad if you do. That's why I'm wondering if I should wait any longer and see how things develop, or even now until it's too serious to leave him so that no one is hurt in time. I write here because none of my friends, colleagues and the company around me know about my family. I study and live in another city and this helps me lead my dual life. Please advise me what to do. My heart won't let me leave him, but I don't want to ruin my life for mine. I forgot to say, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 28. But even though he's older, he doesn't talk to me about weddings or things like that, I just think things will get more serious. my colleagues and the company around me in general do not know about my family. I study and live in another city and this helps me lead my dual life. Please advise me what to do. My heart won't let me leave him, but I don't want to ruin my life for mine. I forgot to say, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 28. But even though he's older, he doesn't talk to me about weddings or things like that, I just think things will get more serious. my colleagues and the company around me in general do not know about my family. I study and live in another city and this helps me lead my dual life. Please advise me what to do. My heart won't let me leave him, but I don't want to ruin my life for mine. I forgot to say, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 28. But even though he's older, he doesn't talk to me about weddings or things like that, I just think things will get more serious.
1 sammy_se answered
In my opinion, tell him the things you said in this topic, but tell them in reverse order ... That is, tell him that you want to reveal to him a very big secret of yours, about which none of your colleagues and your environment do not he knows. A secret that if he decides to leave you, you will understand. But you beg him no matter what, to promise not to tell anyone. And only after he promises, then tell him. If he's as great as you describe, he'll keep your secret at worst. And more likely, he will stay with you anyway, because you are not your brother or sister, but you are.