Hi, I'm a girl, I'm 22, he's 25. "We met" just over a year ago on a dating site. He wrote to me first, he added me to favorites. I also liked it very much, at first sight, it looks stunning from everywhere. So far so good, but it's... and I couldn't figure out what. Hamm was writing, and he was interested, and when I showed some nake of interest, he avoided them, he started answering in 1-2 words. Many times I tried to "break" it, but without success. Eventually, I gave up and stopped writing to him. Recently, however, he had made a new profile on the site (the previous one was deleted a long time ago) and liked me, I also gave him back like. Then he texted me and we chatted, and we exchanged Facebook. To my surprise, it was very much changed from sociability, in a positive direction. So far, too, but only so far... Then he went back to his old self. We live in different cities, we're both lonely, and instead of making our bond, he starts pushing me away again with his childish behavior. Instead of talking about us, about a possible date, etc., he deals with me with his cat, movies, food, etc. unnecessary details. Otherwise, he seems very modest, decent, and I appreciate that because I'm like that and I want a serious person by my side. I want to kiss him so much, cuddle in it, but I guess it won't be long if it's ever going to happen. I wish I could at least tell him, but I'm not sure if it's worth it. I don't understand what's waiting for, what's this inhuman passivity? I don't mean "from the foot door," but it takes development to make things happen... And he seems to be taking two steps forward and one back. I like him very much and I really appreciate the good thing he showed me, but I can't wait my whole life for him. Today he even told me that he is "still learning to be an adult"... That's what a 25-year-old man said... And because I guess, there's going to be comments like "You're ugly," "You're fat" and that's why he didn't offer you a date, I want to make it very nater. I take a lot of care of my appearance, of course, without overdoing it. Besides, he called me first, again. I don't understand it, please give me some advice on how to gain his trust. Thanks!
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jasonjamz answered · June 08, 2020
Wow, when I like someone, I want to hear about their cat, movies, food... It's normal. Communicating between a man and a woman is not limited to the topic of your possible relationship, to meetings and flirtations. First you get to know the person, you talk about more normal and general things, and then everything else is sorted out. Besides, communication is a two-way process. If you want to see each other, just open this topic and make some kind of decision, make an arrangement. You don't have to wait for him to get things moving, because it's very possible that he's worried about your reaction and feeling insecure. Take the step and see what happens.
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alessandrawest1 answered · June 08, 2020
Number two, thank you for your opinion, but you've read through two or three rows.
This man and I have known him for a long time, and he is still, not taking action to develop. Furthermore, I don't think we should deal with each other with household snakes at this stage. Not for anything else, but because the time is such that we have to be as interesting as possible for things to continue, not to "kill" them before they even begin. You're wrong.
Besides, I'm also making an effort and I've mentioned it above, but you missed that too. That's why I write here. If everything was right, this story wouldn't be here.
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screamedstraight answered · June 08, 2020
You don't just want trust, you can have trust in the neighbor, partner, cousin, etc. You want a lover, then a spouse/or a family member/, and the person seems to be looking for just someone to chat, chat, without commitment. If there was any emotional and/or sexual attraction, so far it's not just a date that he's offered you, but his bed. Like a lot of women, you make up some scripts and you get into romantic movies without the other one having no intention of starring in them. You can't blame someone for not sharing your feelings. he doesn't owe you anything if you're going to be Miss World. He doesn't lie to you, he doesn't promise you anything, what expectations and hopes you have is your problem.
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aliendawg answered · June 08, 2020
Come to me, I'm 27 years old, and I love 20-year-old chicks like you. Besides, you sound like a decent girl who lifts you even further into my eyes.
And the one you're writing about is probably some kind of complex. You don't need one. Come on, I'il spoil you, I swear!
Bridget
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natasha2004 answered · June 09, 2020
I agree with number four, as harsh as the rude statement is, it's basically like that.... I also do not understand the passive behavior of some men, I have been in such a situation, I have always fueled the conversation if I die, even I have stopped writing, sometimes I have exhausted myself. But I wanted him to be interested and interested, i'm actually tired of it, as cute as it was, it's offensive just for a woman to hold on. You never offered to meet me live...
So I wish you good luck with your copy:)))
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lolita_vlai answered · June 09, 2020
There must be someone. Besides, if he's very active, you're going to pull around and play games - that's the rule! He could have been cautious now- a steam gruel of the spirit.
With patience and perseverance, everything is achieved.
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niceguy2438 answered · June 09, 2020
I don't think he has much interest in you, or maybe he's got a girlfriend. Otherwise, there's no other reason why a 25-year-old man wouldn't ask you out.