How Do I Deal With His Passivity?

The Story

Hi, I'm a girl, I'm 22, he's 25. "We met" just over a year ago on a dating site. He wrote to me first, he added me to favorites. I also liked it very much, at first sight, it looks stunning from everywhere. So far so good, but it's... and I couldn't figure out what. Hamm was writing, and he was interested, and when I showed some nake of interest, he avoided them, he started answering in 1-2 words. Many times I tried to "break" it, but without success. Eventually, I gave up and stopped writing to him. Recently, however, he had made a new profile on the site (the previous one was deleted a long time ago) and liked me, I also gave him back like. Then he texted me and we chatted, and we exchanged Facebook. To my surprise, it was very much changed from sociability, in a positive direction. So far, too, but only so far... Then he went back to his old self. We live in different cities, we're both lonely, and instead of making our bond, he starts pushing me away again with his childish behavior. Instead of talking about us, about a possible date, etc., he deals with me with his cat, movies, food, etc. unnecessary details. Otherwise, he seems very modest, decent, and I appreciate that because I'm like that and I want a serious person by my side. I want to kiss him so much, cuddle in it, but I guess it won't be long if it's ever going to happen. I wish I could at least tell him, but I'm not sure if it's worth it. I don't understand what's waiting for, what's this inhuman passivity? I don't mean "from the foot door," but it takes development to make things happen... And he seems to be taking two steps forward and one back. I like him very much and I really appreciate the good thing he showed me, but I can't wait my whole life for him. Today he even told me that he is "still learning to be an adult"... That's what a 25-year-old man said... And because I guess, there's going to be comments like "You're ugly," "You're fat" and that's why he didn't offer you a date, I want to make it very nater. I take a lot of care of my appearance, of course, without overdoing it. Besides, he called me first, again. I don't understand it, please give me some advice on how to gain his trust. Thanks!

Last Updated
June 08, 2020
Author:
infinitiq45

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