How Do I Continue With It?

The Story

Hello! My story will probably be a little strange for most of you, but I feel quite confused and there are not many people I can share it with. I am 25, a year ago I ended a 4 year relationship. I had a lot of expectations, I often think of him, but things are such that we can't get back together. I've been dating different guys ever since, and I'm pretty disappointed. Everyone is looking for mostly fast sex, I can't imagine how something more serious will happen to them. And I want that and I like things to happen slowly, patiently and without unnecessary emotions. At the beginning of the year I started dating an acquaintance. He is well known, before that we only knew his names. We liked each other from the first moment, I hadn't felt this feeling for a long time. We had a very good time, after about 2 weeks he invited me to them. I felt offended and cut him off, but not completely. I also made the mistake of sharing it with mutual friends and it came to him. He started to act a little more withdrawn, but he didn't lose interest and we kept going out. At the same time, I met others. After about a month, one night I couldn't stand the way he was looking at me, I decided to let things happen on their own, and hugs and kisses followed. I cut him off again when it came to sex, but he stayed with me. I don't know what happened to me, I was drinking. I thought of a bunch of things like, my ex-boyfriend, other options, the fear of re-engaging with a hard ending, and I told him to just forget about it and not comment on it anymore. We didn't see each other for a while, but we wrote and heard each other almost every day. He wanted to talk, but I turned away. He became more withdrawn, evident when we met later. I felt disappointed with another resignation two months later and ignored him when he looked for me. I started dating someone else and, ironically, one day we ran into each other. I was extremely embarrassed and dumb because I had lied to him about my plans the same day. Of course, from that moment on, his attitude changed completely. I had asked him to buy me some medicine for my mother from abroad, as he was walking for a few days. He just told me he would do it and that's it. This irritated me and I reacted too sharply to his words. I keep thinking about him. I feel like I lost a very valuable person with whom things could go the way I always wanted. And it all happened before it started. We tried to write to each other, but we had nothing to say. I don't want to have sex that way either. Now I feel alone and confused and I don't know how to find my way to him again. And that drives me crazy.

Last Updated
September 15, 2020
Author:
tama1992

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