I had a relationship with a man for five and a half years. We did not live together, we are not from the same city, but we heard each other every day with very few exceptions and when he was in Bulgaria we saw each other at least twice a week. Shortly after we met, he lost his job. This lasted four and a half years. During this time he went abroad three times in three months and patched up the situation. We loved and understood each other a lot. Maybe it's because we didn't live together, avoided everyday problems and never quarreled or got angry. He has already found a job last year and I was very happy. I wanted him to live a little, to enter the people, to have self-confidence. During the first years of our relationship before a holiday, he gave me a small amount to buy something. I didn't like that. I told him that I preferred him to buy me something small. Gesture and attention are important to me, and not the thing itself, but the best gift is flowers. You can never go wrong with them. But he apologized for not realizing that he was embarrassed until he stopped paying attention. For the last two years, I have noticed that he already takes me for granted. Only I call. When we see each other, he speaks and I listen. When I want to tell something or share a problem, I notice that he doesn't listen to me, digs into his phone, even interrupts me and talks about something else. Before the holiday he is covered and does not call, does not even appear on Skype. And when the holiday was over, it was as if nothing had happened. I explained it with the fact that there was no money. I told him that this offended me and I did not keep gifts, but at least to greet me. He apologized, but after starting work he continued in the same way. Otherwise, everything went as before. He said he loved me, and I knew he did. It feels somehow. But after another holiday, I couldn't stand it and told him that I couldn't do it anymore and that I felt used. It was very hard for me. I thought he would understand me, but he was offended and never called again. It passed me by and I said to myself that maybe it's a matter of upbringing and character. What's more, I will accept it as a disadvantage. I called him several times, but he was cold and contemptuous. It's been several months and when I see that he's online on Skype, I'm tempted to play him an emoticon. Then I get even more upset and I hate that I don't have the will to delete this person from my life. I don't think I'll ever make it. I haven't seen him in four months and I'm even afraid to meet him by chance, because he may pass me or be with another woman! Please, tell me is there a way to free my mind from this person I just know I have to, but I don't know how.
1 loronosbes answered
Don't worry about detecting him when he's not in the same city? There is no such thing as you can't delete a person from your life and he has already done so, this is not a humiliation, but just time shows who was more concerned about the relationship.