How Can I Please My Mother?

   First, stop trying to please your mother or other people, it is important for you to feel good with your friends. Second, your mother is your mother, not a friend - stop sharing personal things with her, and live your life. He who lives for his parents does not go far

   As long as you follow the mind of mom or dad, it will be like this ... Nothing against parents in Bulgaria, but some mothers and fathers act too despotic.

   I agree with the previous two comments. (is somewhat) Parents at this age do not understand anything. Neither your friends nor your interests. Your mother has no right to tell you what kind of friends to have (of course, if we are talking about inappropriate company she has every right, she is still a parent, but if it's all because your friends are not of the same class, no) There is nothing to explain to her. They just don't understand anything. It's best for her to get used to it quickly, that your friends are from another class, that if she continues to insist on her own, you will probably stop sharing with her, and you will become alienated, and then there will be an ice block between you. It's the same with mine. True, I'm much better and calmer now that she doesn't know anything about my interests and my books, but I feel bad when I meet girls who are closer to their mothers. I wish mine was a little more like me. Seeing girls my age discussing books with their mothers on the Internet, and I can't peel a title without hearing, "It's not real, as long as it's a waste of time." Well, yes, but I still love books. And I had seen something on the Internet about the fact that no matter what book you read, as long as it gives you pleasure. (This does not apply to school lessons) And I spent the first years trying to explain to my mother that spending the weekend alone at home with a book is not strange, but she did not. Of course, at first I was happy to read, but after a few months I was banned. Do you have any idea how absurd it is for your friends to complain that they are forbidden to go out with their boyfriends or to stay out late, and for you to complain that they forbade you to read books? !! I don't think you have to please your mother and live your life for yourself. She should feel like she's being stupid. (But it may not be noticeable. Ours lowered my self-esteem to zero with some stupid reverse psychology because of two fives. Sometimes I think that parents are the worst thing that can happen to you. And I'm so weird how do not see where they make obvious mistakes)