then go with your son! What could be worse than being with your child?
Of course, without my child I would not leave for anything in the world, I would not leave my child, but how can I leave when I do not have the courage
We live in the 21st century and for a long time now they have not mocked children who have divorced parents !! After it doesn't work, save yourself one by one, but you and your child are a must !! Maybe it would be better for him to live among the scandals of his parents, he is already big and will quickly get used to being only with his mother, and you will not deprive him of contact with his father, for example !! Be brave and I wish you success, I fully support you, dear!
You will hurt your son much more if you continue to live like this. You don't want tomorrow when he grows up to adopt the pattern of behavior of his father and hurt his wife and children, as he himself was hurt! I went through this stupid and believe me now I'm sorry I didn't solve the problem in time - I could save myself and my children 5 years of torment! Don't waste your life with a person who doesn't respect and deserve you!
If you can, save yourself! I am in a similar situation. Run! It is very difficult for me, but you will manage. I wish you success!
Hello! When my parents divorced I was also 7 years old, now I am 15 and I feel much better when there are no scandals at home and it is calmer. I remember well the day my mother and I moved out, then I cried a lot but it helped me one-even though I was a 7 year old kid my mother came and explained everything to me like a big man, from that moment I calmed down and became the same happy and carefree child again and to this day I am grateful to my mother for talking to me like an adult. My advice is to leave this person with your child and do the same thing my mother did - to explain everything to him. I am sure that when your child becomes old, he will also be as grateful to you as I am to my mother. you helped and success!
Darling, my advice is to divorce your husband. I will allow myself to repeat part of a comment given here, but we are actually in the 21st century and the parents of every 3rd child are divorced. There is no point in continuing. These scandals affect your child, who is not small and understands. In order for a child to grow up happy, confident and self-confident, he must not witness scandals, let alone physical violence. Sit down and talk to him like a big man. If his relationship with his father is not so strong, I'm sure he will understand you and accept your decision to separate from your husband. When you don't love him, you are not happy, think about your son, about his future development as a person and get divorced. Show that you have self-confidence, that you are not afraid, that you can cope .... show the strength that every woman has ...
show that you are the strongest woman in the world, don't give in to a fool like him to trample you, upside down think about your son he should live calmly and happily, now is the time to fuck him because children are small if not you decide, then you will drag your whole life and this is a big or very big mistake, end of success
WHY ?? FIND another way out !!! why divorce should be a way out ??? Are you very proud, 4e every third child is married or with divorced parents ???? no !!! this is a shame for our Nation !!! just find another way out change your husband !!! or turn out to be weak surrender ,,, leave your child without a father, after a while he can curse you, he may bless you .... but divorce is not the way ,,, looking for another way out ,,,, there is a way out - - gt; find it .
THANK YOU FROM THE HEART FOR ALL THE COMMENTS !!!! I LIKE 9 AND I KNOW IT SHOULD BE THAT BUT ..... IF THE HEART DOESN'T LISTEN TO YOU AND WANTS TO DO ANYTHING ELSE ..... I am not the one that can change the world ...... MUST pressure rags IN THE NAME OF CHILD (because I already JUST BECAUSE IT LIVE even know that I would not admit it after a while) SOMOUNISHTOZHAVAM FOR tOMORROW truce IT IS THAT THIS WAS MY FATE AND I KNOW THAT NO ONE WILL COME HOME AND OFFER ME SOMETHING BETTER ......... I WILL BE HAPPY TO WRITE TO ME ... SOMEONE IN MY. .I WANT TO INSERT THAT HE IS 15 YEARS OLDER THAN ME AND IS CURRENTLY IN ITALY BUT I DON'T FEEL A MISSING OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT ....... MANY PEOPLE WILL JUDGE ME AND THINK THAT 21 I HAVE TO DO SO, BUT HOW CAN I JUDGE MYSELF ???? I CAN'T LIVE WELL AFTER I KNOW THAT SOMEONE AROUND ME SUFFERS ..... TO WHAT DOES YOU SPECIALIZE IN YOUR SPECIALIST?
Hi, I want to tell you I am a child of divorced parents at the moment I am 19 and they are divorced from 10. I will give you some advice if it can be called that.
First, by no means stay with this man, because it is torture for both of you.
Secondly, I will tell you that your son may be quite upset by the fact in the beginning, but believe me, only when he grows up he will IMMEDIATELY take stock and understand why you did so.
Another fact 3 I think is right even though my parents divorced 10 years ago. no one in the class made fun of me.
It is better for you and especially for your son to leave, because these obsolescences - BUT I AM FOR THE CHILD are full of nonsense, this can traumatize a child even more.
And most importantly, for the last time you have to be not strong but VERY strong, because you will have to be both mother and father. I will tell you how not to act, never hide anything from the child, just talk, the conversations in such a situation are huge meaning / from experience / won his trust again with a very strong love, which does not hide but show with all the mother's senses.
I'll tell you how I feel - well, I'm happier with separated parents than my two favorite people to raise scandals all the time and not be able to watch it, but to be together only for the CHILDREN.
I wish you good luck and success, be strong Act boldly and responsibly :))))
I read most of the advice and to tell you I fully support what others have said, divorce is the best solution. I am 18, in a family where the relationship between my parents has always been naughty. His father is abroad, and whenever he gave money, it was just not to tell anyone that he wasn't caring, and so on. and to tell you the truth, I will curse them both for not divorcing and for not providing me and my sister with a better and more normal life. Don't let your child become part of these problems and forget about possible mockery at school. Ask me, I even envied my friends who said it to each other without worrying, because he really isn't who knows what, your son will become much more breathless and closed if you continue like this! I can only wish you success and hope that things will work out in the best way for you!
There is nothing better than for a child to live among more positive emotions, to feel loved and protected ... If he does not receive it, it is time to take him and leave! This way you will be able to be emotionally complete and completely devoted to it. I DON'T KNOW IN WHICH CENTURY YOU LIVE AND HOW THIS CAN MAKE YOU EXCITED - that someone will make fun of you! This someone will not ask you how you are and do you need anything !!!
TO 9: A BETTER TERRIBLE END THAN TERROR WITHOUT ... END !!!
Darling, I am at the same crossroads at the moment. We live together, but nothing connects us. All these comments above are correct, but the decision is very difficult, even more so the implementation itself.
Dar, I agree with the comment on the 15th. Today is the day when I have to talk to my husband about whether we will divorce or make another attempt. I don't want to try, I'm tired - a change for a week and then the old song again. It's hard to say "I decided, I'll do it," especially when you have a child and you don't know what you did or didn't do, and whether it will help you lose your rights over the child in court. The only thing that stops me is the child. I can't afford to lose him, my husband knows it and that's why he's blackmailing me into sitting with him.
You have nothing to fear, and without that, as you describe things, you are alone. You don't need this person, and even more so that you have to feed him. As for your son, don't worry, we are already in the 21st century and no one is making fun of it. It is important for you and your child to be happy.
Hello!
I am a man and my wife and I do not get along. I have a good job, we are not deprived of anything. But she listens to her mother more than necessary. And we have a 4-year-old child.
What to do?
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