Hello! I have a problem ... My brother is 20 years old, but he still hasn't had a girlfriend ... There are no friends to have fun with and share ... All this bothers me a lot and as I see it ... Fear I am for him because I love him very much. He is very good and wants a little attention but always revolves around people who repel him ... He does not want to admit that he feels bad ... And he, like everyone, needs love and fun ... I don't know how to help him ... I feel bad ... and I'm really very upset ... I see him drinking quite often ... this is one of the things that worries me the most ... He goes out and walks alone. .. What should I do What to do ... PLEASE HELP ME; (
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well pay attention to him! how old are you? go somewhere and have fun together! or try a dating site and catching a boyfriend!
Your brother may not want to have friends. It's just hard to find real friends. But it is good to have a few - 2, 3 friends, but to be real. Introduce him to one of your free friends.
Look, I have a brother too, and I understand your concern, but I still don't think it's a big deal. Let him enroll somewhere to study, find a new job and maybe find the person for him. If you don't feel happy right now, find a way to change the environment around you. Everything will be fine you will see
Go out together, introduce him to your friends :)
I am also 20 and I am in a similar situation. Instead of blaming him for not being stereotypical like others, support him and help him find his way. You don't have to be surrounded by people to be happy. Let him find something that is interesting to him and develop in him. Most importantly, don't confuse him. Let him decide how he wants his life to go, if he wants a relationship with a girl or friends, he will find a way to have them.
I had the same problem as your brother, but my younger brother helped me. Go out with him, have fun, introduce him to your friends, he will always like someone. When he wants to go for a walk, just tell him that you want to go out with him. Don't leave him alone.
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Talk to him. Ask him if he is happy with his life and if not to think about what he should do about it. I was like that myself, but after a while I realized that it can't be like that. I stopped chasing the people who were pushing me away and made real friends. If necessary, you may need to see a psychiatrist. Not that he's crazy or anything but he just might need a consultation with a professional. In my opinion, his problem is that he is too good and sits low and quiet. He needs confidence and arrogance.
I am 22 years old. We go out from time to time, but most of the time we're with my friend ... They get along pretty well, but he doesn't live in our town and he can't fit in his company ... He's looking for friends his age, but even as a former student he always invited his friends to have a cup of coffee or a beer but they mostly avoid him ... they tell him that they will go to her village somewhere with theirs and at the same time he sees them in the coffees ... The dumbest thing is that he doesn't want to harm anyone, he always tries to do them a favor, but they don't appreciate anything they've done ... And so over time he couldn't keep any friendship with anyone ... Ah for my girlfriends ... They don't like this type of men, he is shy and shy ... somehow he can't communicate with girls ... and I think that's his biggest problem ... Otherwise he works,
He seems shy and shy by nature. You can hardly help him. People make friends with people like them, ie others who are active - have interests, seek social approval and contacts, will not show interest in your brother. Friendship, more or less, is a relationship of giving and receiving (as well as all other types of contacts). With the traits described, your brother is generally a passive individual and seems "addicted." In order to have a close relationship with a company, someone else must show initiative and responsibility for it, and at first glance it is not obvious what he could get. When I say "give-and-take", I am far from being rude, but I am convinced that it is true. Your brother needs to develop and demonstrate a social framework (or more like a "frame") ) - to know what he likes and accordingly to take action to get it. Actively accept the external factors that help him and ignore those that hinder him. For this it is difficult for anyone to help him. In any case, one must be aware of one's problem, and not keep repeating to oneself, "Well, something hurts, but I don't know what." Unfortunately, he will have to go through trial and error. Maybe you really need to change your environment, university, new job. he will have to go through trial and error. Maybe you really need to change your environment, university, new job. he will have to go through trial and error. Maybe you really need to change your environment, university, new job.