Hi, I would ask only for serious answers, because I am very worried and already do not know what to do. I'm 14, and a few months ago, I met a girl my own age who I'm going to call Annie. She goes to another school, so we don't see each other very often, but we write every day. The first time I saw her, I noticed she was pretty weak, but I didn't say anything. We gradually became very close, and she admitted to me that she was diagnosed by Doctor anorexia. That didn't make me wonder, because like I said, she's really very weak, but of course, I was worried. Annie told me that once a week she went to a psychologist's therapy, but it was easy to understand that there was no result. She very often writes to me how she is fat, how she will never be enough for anyone and that everyone hates her because she is ugly. As much as obeždavam her that none of these things are true, she cannot accept it. For her appearance is of great importance and constantly suggests that someone thinks her ugly and thick (both are completely wrong). She spent days without touching food, and if I convinced her to eat something, almost every time, she admits that she puked it up afterwards (on purpose). Her parents make her eat dinner every day, and the food she eats, vomits immediately after what they don't know. Her mother, on the other hand, is harassing her mentally, telling her it's garbage, mistake, dumb and all sorts of names, and sometimes even beats her. Her father knows about this, but he doesn't do anything, and Annie has a brother and sister to whom they refer normally. I do my best to convince her that she is beautiful, talented, very weak, smart and all she really is, but only gives a result for the day-the next is like I have not said anything and she repeats all the usual things. All this very exhausting me and at times I feel completely powerless and guilty that I do not do enough, although I give my best. Annie has a completely shattered psyche and has no normal idea of almost anything. She's always finding a way to spin my words, so that she can go out like I said she was fat, stupid, etc., which is completely different from reality. Sometimes I try to gently tell her that her problems are very serious and that she needs better professional help from what she gets, and she takes it out, that I thought she was insane and a sick monster that only poisons the lives of people (I give word for word what you wrote). Then he got mad at me and told me that I was selfish, who didn't care about her, and that he was going to commit suicide (all this happened about a week ago). It hurts, but I started convincing her she was beautiful, and I apologized for insulting her. Then she started saying that there was no point in her existence and that she would never be good enough. All of what I've described has happened at least five more times, and every time I have to spell out paragraphs about how great it really is. She accepts it, and the next day is the same story. I sound like a broken record player with my words and never enough. When we don't fight this way, it's really nice to talk to her, she's very funny and interesting, there's always something to say. But as you must have noticed, her judgment has been completely destroyed and there is no common sense as far as herself is concerned. She often tells me that I help her a lot, and if it wasn't for me, she would be dead by now. These words both delight me and worry me endlessly. But yesterday we had a great fight and she said that her eating disorders are getting worse and that I am the reason for making her feel fat and that I don't care about her at all. All this affected me very much and made me feel terrible guilty. Later he told me that it was not true and that he was sorry, but since then I have not stopped thinking this. I'm so worried, I can't even sleep because of worries about her. I know she needs a lot better help than she gets, but I'm just unable to make it available. I'm not a trained professional, I can't deal with anorexia and bulimia. I need to somehow get her into serious therapy, but how? She's going to deny any attempts to take her anywhere, even if I don't know how this is going to happen, we're still only 14. In addition, her parents must agree to a serious treatment that is unlikely to happen. Please give me some advice on what to do because I feel completely lost. Thank you all for reading to the end. < 3