You may be fed up with teenage girls in love, but I need advice. The boy I like is named Daniel. It all started at the beginning of high school. I found many friends. Only with most of the boys I didn't become friends, but it was still me. Just because I had a lot of friends in class doesn't mean I wasn't a loser. It's just that my class is different. They accepted me. Well sometimes they laugh behind my back and it hurts but I swallow it. I have something like social anxiety, but it will take me a while to relax around the girls, while for the boys I will not relax at all and I will be afraid, I will sweat and I will tremble. I have no choice and I have to go out with my friends' groups. Most of them are my classmate Daniel. I may feel awkward in front of the other boys, but I'm dying of shame in front of him. Whenever I'm in my friends' groups and talking, I'll be confused by fear and Daniel will correct me and tell me I'm stupid. This has been going on for 3 years now. I started to have feelings for him from the first week. He is very kind, good, but at the same time he is a rude k * rvar. He is serious in relationships because his exes are girlfriends. One of them is a virgin and she told me how he had no problem with that and complied with it. Sometimes I have the feeling that he is rude only to me because if I make a mistake in my expressions everyone will ignore him, but he will correct me and make hints to me that I am stupid. Well yes I am different from all my friends. They are somehow more open, and I am not. Once I was with the group at their place because he had to look after his sister (he was 7 then). I don't remember why he wanted us all to come, but it didn't matter. Daniel was so caring. Suddenly I started thinking if we have children too. I feel like I know Daniel better than everyone else because I don't pay as much attention to them even though I want to. I generally hate chat groups and want to leave them, but I only stay because of it. I hardly write there because I will only confuse something and he will make hints to me. I know a girl who has my character. She got into trouble because she was sending nude photos. She is no longer like that, but her photos are on the Internet. As she shared this, Daniel began to tell her "you deserve to suffer now and to be called blood" and others. He was so offended that he left the band and everyone wrote bad things about her. Well, she did something stupid, but she learned her lesson and changed. I used to hate her too, but then she changed drastically. We've been friends for a long time and at least she doesn't laugh behind my back like everyone else. Literally only I am a friend. He suffers insults from everyone every day and I can't do anything because I can't even defend myself. She has a boyfriend now. She is the girl that everyone in the group hates, but only he loves her and shouts that she is kind and good. One time he even said "she's like her (me) but smarter" and I was dumbfounded by comparing me to her. We have a story with her. She briefly betrayed me and because of her I was mocked for 3 years in the old school. Now she's acting like we don't know each other, but lately I've been postponing our appointments because I don't want to see her. And when I see them together, I feel sick. How to become more confident around him and stop being stupid. I want him to fall in love with me.
1 bigdane112 answered
Hello, author :) The way you express yourself, it is obvious that you are still tiny. You have no experience, this is the problem, and that is why you are more shy, more shy, more insecure. Of course, there are girls who are more confident and brave and seem to get everything they wanted, but you should not compare yourself to them. You work on yourself. Why do you like a person who tells you that you are stupid and constantly corrects you? Do you really deserve this, is it really as perfect as you present it to us ?! :) Do you know the boy well, or do you just like his physique and the image he has built for himself in society? To say that you like him, you need to know him, I think he attracts you and like everyone you want him to like you, but that's it. Get to know him in situations and go out with him alone, talk, hear how he thinks, how he behaves with everyone .. My advice is for a moment, however, to divert your attention from the boy. And paying attention to yourself to see how beautiful, smart, slim and that you have potential, you just haven't focused on yourself so far. You can defend yourself from attacks, but for this to happen, you need to have a real idea of yourself, know each other and approve of yourself as you are! As he explained to me, I don't think you have real friends, if everyone makes fun of you, don't go out with them, because that only humiliates you. Find your group, even if you are temporarily alone, never try to fit into a company that you are not wanted. If they respect you, then be friends with them. Don't be afraid to express your opinion, this is the first step to being brave and confident. Even if someone criticizes you, think about whether he is right, everyone has the right to an opinion on an issue, do not immediately accept the wrong! As for the boy, I don't have an answer to the question of how to be more confident around him, because you still have some interest in him, some feelings. But if you work on these qualities of yours, you will be more confident in general and this will definitely impress everyone who sees you. In order to like someone, you must first like yourself, remember him!