Unlikely to become human. Maybe he was lied to, maybe because of family order, as you noticed. In any case, over time I do not think that things will get better, on the contrary. Expect soon to be limited by how you dress, where you go, what friends you see, etc. I won't be surprised if he decides to educate you with a fight. Worst of all, he considers this behavior normal. He is also painfully complex, believing that every man is a threat. I had a boyfriend who wasn't so bad, but he was still quite jealous. Every acquaintance or colleague of mine who looked good was immediately called a "fat feather and garbage," followed by self-blame for how ugly he was, why I went with him at all, and so on. I was also jealous of my friends. It is very repulsive and disgusting not to have elementary respect for yourself. This is a problem that has been ingrained for years and is extremely difficult to treat. I know this because I also have self-esteem problems, which I control fiercely, because I know what it leads to and how it would make me look in the eyes of my partner. A closed circle in which you mostly harm yourself. Think about how much you care about him and what battles you are ready to fight to be together. I wonder how he behaves with the opposite sex - does he flirt, does he look at women, does he tell you how cool someone is, what would you do to her and so on? Is it kind of trying to crush your self-confidence through such talk, in order to lower you to its level and to instill in you that you are almost ugly and stupid, so that you can stay with him, because someone else will not like you for nothing on the world. Or he is also very exemplary - he has no girlfriends, he doesn't look at others, doesn't care about women and wants the same from you? If this is the first case, just run with 200. Such people can ruin you mentally, if you give up. In the latter case, there is a little more hope for change, because at least it is not meant to crush you. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity.
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Unlikely to become human. Maybe he was lied to, maybe because of family order, as you noticed. In any case, over time I do not think that things will get better, on the contrary. Expect soon to be limited by how you dress, where you go, what friends you see, etc. I won't be surprised if he decides to educate you with a fight. Worst of all, he considers this behavior normal. He is also painfully complex, believing that every man is a threat. I had a boyfriend who wasn't so bad, but he was still quite jealous. Every acquaintance or colleague of mine who looked good was immediately called a "fat feather and garbage," followed by self-blame for how ugly he was, why I went with him at all, and so on. I was also jealous of my friends. It is very repulsive and disgusting not to have elementary respect for yourself. This is a problem that has been ingrained for years and is extremely difficult to treat. I know this because I also have self-esteem problems, which I control fiercely, because I know what it leads to and how it would make me look in the eyes of my partner. A closed circle in which you mostly harm yourself. Think about how much you care about him and what battles you are ready to fight to be together. I wonder how he behaves with the opposite sex - does he flirt, does he look at women, does he tell you how cool someone is, what would you do to her and so on? Is it kind of trying to crush your self-confidence through such talk, in order to lower you to its level and to instill in you that you are almost ugly and stupid, so that you can stay with him, because someone else will not like you for nothing on the world. Or he is also very exemplary - he has no girlfriends, he doesn't look at others, doesn't care about women and wants the same from you? If this is the first case, just run with 200. Such people can ruin you mentally, if you give up. In the latter case, there is a little more hope for change, because at least it is not meant to crush you. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity.