Cheers! I've found this site by accident. I had an affair with a married man for five years, and three of them I was in the States. All the while he was saying he'd be there to support me on the phone to deal with nostalgia and loneliness there. I never heard the word I love you, but I hoped, I made up our future life together, lived with chimeras. A year and a half ago, I came home for him because he was telling me it was time to come back. During that time, I was sending him money and gifts. He always said he and his wife hadn't got along for years and they were together just for the sake of the kids, so as not to hurt them. They waited until they grew up so they could find out. Now they're big - they're 20 years old. But we haven't been together for two weeks. After I came back I gave him money with an occasion and no reason - he was always free of money even for a coffee. In myself, I felt that something was not to be right, but I was so deluded that I could not see obvious things. A week ago, I found out that for two years he was also having an affair with another woman, whom he had never stopped seeing. I asked him to give me back some of my money (I have papers for them), and he laughed and said it didn't work. I've been wandering around for two weeks, and I don't know where I am. Ask me what to do. Everything is indifferent to me now!
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fetish_life answered · June 21, 2020
Hi. Your story is very similar to mine. Only mine is long over. A while ago, when I convinced myself that he was just using me and I didn't know what to do. It's not just about money - insult is more important. But it's all coming through, believe me. It wasn't five, it was eight years.
Now, after all, it doesn't seem impossible for me to go on with my life without him. I'm sorry I wasted so much of my life, and it's my best years. Going back won't - you better hate it and keep the hatred in you until you feel ready to be indifferent to it.
I doubt he'il ever give you your money back. Even if he does, these five years, no one can give you back. Don't fall into self-pity, but accept that you've woken up to some kind of nightmare and the world is waiting for you.
And one more thing- he'il try to get you tangled up again in time. Don't give in! Men like him only love themselves and think it's normal to use others. Remember, he doesn't love you - not because it's your fault, but because he's not capable of feeling. People like him die in loneliness because they've been fooling people around them all their lives....
Keep your head up, baby! I dare not lie to you that it will be easy for you, but make sure the worst is behind you- you saw the truth. Be strong, tell yourself that your life starts all over again, only with more wisdom. You're going to be okay!
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arya_rawls answered · June 21, 2020
I'm convinced that we're paying for everything we've even inadvertently done to someone. In your case, this wife who doesn't suspect anything, maybe. You shouldn't be dealing with a family man and building a chimera.
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sexxxiestass answered · June 21, 2020
If you really have papers, sue him. And if you want to be mean, you can tell his wife and kids. This guy deserves it. Head up, such edges do not deserve to suffer for them.
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alice_lawrennce answered · June 21, 2020
Hey, turn your back on everything and start over. You did, you did. To be alive and well, double to make. Understand that money is being lived through, and everything else is very difficult.
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charlott_melany answered · June 21, 2020
If you actually have papers, sue him.
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miguel_lxpt answered · June 21, 2020
Sue him!
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ateneavalentin answered · June 22, 2020
I don't understand how you, who are a woman, are going to give him money. That in itself shows that he's a gentleman! I don't know you, but I think you're a smart woman, and I don't think this deserves you. Be unruly and don't mess with him. Sooner or later, he'll try to come back - if you're quiet, he'll think you've softened, and then it's the moment for real humiliation.
Act forward and plan the way you're going to let him know that he's a piece of and that he needs to get out of here. Inly, you could play him a super-cool trick in a place. He's got his plate on his head and he's frowning - he's paying for the food, and i'm taking on the humiliation.
But if you want it not to hurt, just forget it and don't shine for revenge, don't rebel, but think of it as a teaching - what happened to you. You're not going to let that happen in the future?!?
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latexboy18 answered · June 22, 2020
There's one sentiment: "If you take revenge on someone, you give them the opportunity to keep hurting you." I know, and I understand that you feel terrible, but it's not worth continuing to suffer while you're taking revenge, because you're going to keep being involved in this story. You have to understand that there is no unpaid lunch in this world, he will get what he deserves, whether from you or anyone else. Life will give it back to him, don't deal with him anymore. Everyone lives with their own conscience, you live with yours, which you know is pure, and his let him live with it, if at all.
Someone might blame me for thinking humbly, but I think one should be above these things, just learn from what you've been through, because it's a big lesson in your life and it's changed your way of thinking, so accept it as such and don't worry anymore, life is good and it goes on.