We moved to another country together in September. We were together on holidays in Bulgaria, and he stayed 10 days longer (I suggested it myself). During this time we forgot to celebrate 16 months and my name day, and then I was very depressed. I insulted him several times then because I thought he was cheating on me, which proved me wrong. In short, it was all my fault. He came back, brought me a present, and everything was as before, at least in theory. A few days later I started to see that he had become soooooo negative, he didn't have a positive radiance, he didn't have the desire for life and success ... a completely different person at all. And definitely not the person I was dating. I decided it was temporary. I don't know how many weeks have passed, there is no change. He missed life in Bulgaria. It's always my fault, he's negative and irritable, I apologize. I hinted to him that I couldn't go on like this. It doesn't last. I am the black sheep forever. Please give me some advice. What did I not try ... P.S. in a month we do a year and a half together
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This is the case with men. Unfortunately, I have been outside and such situations are not uncommon. Fortunately, I had a hobby, I found how to train and it was an idea for me, but it is a combination of a lot of things and for men it is quite difficult to overcome.
I don't think there's anything weird about the behavior. He even told you - he wants to return to Bulgaria. Apparently, the time he spent here on holidays, with relatives and friends, made him reconsider his decision to live abroad. Just not everyone can live outside the homeland. There are people who like it, but others can't adapt. Apparently your man is the second type. Otherwise, it is good that you are aware of the mistakes in your behavior. You are obviously very jealous when you accuse him of infidelity for only 10 days when you are not together. Think about whether he wanted to go abroad or whether you encouraged him to do so. If it's the latter, he may now regret it and now react passively - aggressively towards you. PS For the first time I hear a couple celebrating 16 months. That's weird, at least for me. Pancake
Well, not only are you depressed, he may be feeling bad. Don't you think that you should also take into account his condition? Instead of straining further, why not talk about yourself, your future in a foreign country, etc., and make a decision as a mature person, if you are one.