Healthy Learning Or Social Life?

   Will you be completely happy in 10 years? Humans are social beings and no matter how much we don't want / believe, we seek contact with others. Complete abandonment of social life will play a very bad joke on you and may eventually lead to depression at a later stage. Think about what the first places achieved at such a price will actually bring you. Not to mention that a break from learning is not in itself a guarantee of success, and you may have sacrificed everything and still failed. Think seriously about the future and what will bring you lasting happiness and satisfaction. Transient successes are unlikely to give you just that.

   In-depth conversations? Talking about chalga, Preslava, Galena, make-up, tight bodies and malls is an in-depth conversation, right?

   You answered the question yourself "Can I not think about boyfriends, kisses, sex, parties and gossip? Can I give up my few hours left for a lot of fun or in-depth conversations with my amazing girlfriends and parents? Probably I can but I don't know if I will be happy then I don't know if it will be worth it ... "I would advise you to find the golden mean, I guess you know that extremes are not a good thing, and you are currently in extremes - learning. I'm not telling you to drop everything and give it a go with parties and boyfriends, but definitely if your learning is a priority and you don't relax from time to time, after a certain period you will be surrounded by prizes, photos with stairs in 1st place, medals , diplomas .. and that's it. You won't have cool memories from that crazy disco with your girlfriends, or from the kiss with the boy you like ... you will be alone with your medals and achievements. I have always wondered about such children who are studious, breakthrough and striving for the top ... what is this whole thing for? Because of parental ambitions, in order to prove to someone that it is important for you to have succeeded as number 1 in a certain field? Why? Because your relatives will not love you if you do not bring them "H" number 6 or medals? I will be happy if you answer me what is your personal reason :) People have said it "A person learns while he is alive and even in old age, you will still not be able to learn everything in a subject or area" If you decide to dedicate yourself to learning, you risk losing some of your youthful experiences, and this time of your life will never come back! At some point you will be drained of all these books, tasks, algorithms and information, that you will want to throw everything away and give up and go to the other extreme - the parties. Think about what you are capable of risking and should something be at all costs? F, 25 years old

   Instead of choosing between learning and social life, you should choose between learning and learning. You cannot reach the level you are striving for for 5 different subjects. Choose the area that interests you the most and concentrate on it. In this way you will be able to have both academic success and social life. You just have to accept that science is too advanced these days to be able to deal with several areas at once on an in-depth level.

   But wait a minute! Studying a lot and not leaving home does not mean that you are a jerk! It's just you, that's your nature, that's how you live, that's how you think about your future. For so long in life everything is there, but education is one. If you dream of realizing yourself abroad, I just don't know what you're wondering.

   I'm sorry, but yours is a little too competitive and I'd say stupid. Why do you do 1000 things and go to extracurricular activities and competitions? He prepares mainly on the teaching material for SCHOOL, and not for this imaginary nonsense. And indulge in your favorite subjects and what you plan to follow or what you want to do seriously. And yes, keep up with all the subjects, but don't get obsessed. Find nice and intelligent people like you and go out! These are the crazy young years, live. What competitions, what nonsense ... At least they were in an important field for you, I understand. You want to be great in everything, but you can't. Live, girl!

   In Bulgaria it is absolutely pointless to devote a significant part of your time to studying. You will just regret it one day. He and I used to want to study (it is true that I wanted to achieve something in an area that is among the 3 most interesting to me), I even managed to win a NASA competition, but is it useful? The answer is a resounding NO. At the moment I am a student with excellent results, left in the damned country of Bulgaria, forced to support myself as a porter, simply because I have no connections and money, and the alternatives are not more profitable here. If I could go back in time, I would develop my skills and have fun all the time, doing the activity I like the most, instead of thinking about school and chasing first places and wasting my time. with this. The choice is yours. It's good to win, but if you don't get out of here soon, you will lose your motivation, because no one will say goodbye to you (for money / scholarships, you better not even think), if you want to become a Nobel laureate. Accumulating a large amount of knowledge, especially in many areas, is a great burden and will drag you into the spiral in which you will feel unhappy. And it is very difficult to get out of there.

   See, if you have a sure path in front of you, a goal that you will achieve after a certain period of time, then YES, then it is worth it. If it's simple - I'll study and pass exams and get a good diploma, but before that I'll post a topic here entitled "Law, Archeology or Shipbuilding", then you definitely need to change your way of thinking. Personally, I shut myself in, 30 months of hard study, and then, I started working, a high-paying job that paid me huge sums compared to the rest of my peers. Then, I calmly devoted myself to my social life. But I had a plan. I knew exactly what to study, how to study it, why to study it and I knew where and how I would be able to start realizing the acquired knowledge and the built skills. And yet, I still think I shouldn't be so strict with myself. Of course,

   Study to have a good start in life. Education is the most important thing. If not, one day you will be very sorry. Then you will have as much time as you want for social life.

   I read the comments and wonder how so many people, in every way, directly or as whores in a roundabout way, are trying to get you into the swamp. Don't listen to anyone. You have a mind in your head and use it, develop it! This will not happen in cafes with crazy talk about fashion, stars, music and gossip, which will only dull you. Now is the time to fill your head with knowledge and do not miss this opportunity, because your whole life will depend on it. The more interests you have, the broader your worldview and knowledge will be, which is a huge plus. The time will come and you will appreciate it. To improve your concentration, start practicing YOGA, which will also give you good health, both mentally and for your whole body. I'm sure you will be able to spend 20-30 minutes a day on this.

   I wonder at number 10 why he thinks that socialization is limited to coffee and muffins. There are all kinds of people and such generalizations are absolutely illogical. Just as there are people who prefer cafes, there are also those who like walks, good literature and meaningful conversations. And of all the knowledge gained, it is not known how much will come into real use later in life. Or should the teaching be an end in itself, without looking in perspective? Let the author consider what she wants to do in the future and focus on those sciences that would help her, but not at the expense of social life. After all, there is no profession of "winner of scientific Olympiads" in the real world. And isolation will make it more difficult to make contacts at a later stage, which in itself creates problems.

   Assess your priorities. I am your age until last year and I participated in almost all the Olympics, school festivals, etc. Now I am in a new school and there is too busy for me to prepare for the Olympics. But even if you win first place in the most prestigious competition, so what? True, there is fleeting satisfaction, but it disappears quickly, and from all these competitions you create a lot of nerves and worries. Now is the time to go out with friends, to make new contacts, to get excited about typical teenage things. There is a lot of time for achievements.

   №1, you are very right. I am worried that I may sacrifice everything for the sake of learning and in the end I will not be able to achieve what I want, to lose everything valuable for me, but only the one who risks will win, if I don't try I may regret all my life and I will wonder if I could have succeeded if I had not so naively chosen my momentary happiness. To think that I will be happy in 10 years if I have graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in the world and have many awards from international competitions, even if I am completely alone and if I was sure that this will happen if I give up everything the rest, which makes me happy at the moment, I would not hesitate at all, but the problem is that I can not be, because it takes not only a lot of work, but also a lot of talent. №2, you obviously think that's what today's teenage girls are talking about. This is far from the case, do not underestimate them. And what you have described are the funny conversations that are not in-depth :) №3, well, I will only tell you my personal reasons, otherwise I have an observation of a lot of people, but even without that it becomes quite a long comment. First, my parents have nothing in common. They never impose their opinion on important decisions and support me in my decisions no matter what they are. I do it because I'm good at it, it's amazing when you understand things that most people can't, and if you decide extra, you'll be shocked, and that feeling is wonderful, they respect you. It's amazing when your friends are proud of you and they praise you left and right, it's amazing how everyone listens to you and expects you to say something smart, it's amazing that everyone asks you how you do and tells you you're a genius, it's amazing when you work hard repays. And when I doubt my abilities and say, for example, how much I want to qualify for the race, but I have no chance, my friends support me and just say that they believe in me and that they know that I will succeed, and then they say did I tell you. I am even happier when I confuse people who underestimate me with my skills. And to love making my relatives, friends and teachers proud, because thanks to them I achieve my success, I want them to know that I am grateful to their victims for the sake of my success and to be happy, but the most important thing is that I am proud with yourself. №6, what I do in depth is naturally important to me and it is very interesting to me and it is not 1000 areas, but 4, which have a lot in common. moreover, my knowledge is really at a very high level in only one of them. I'm living my life right now, but I think that I have to spend even more time learning if I want really amazing results. №7, on the contrary, with the first places in international competitions I can get a scholarship for a very prestigious university. №8, well, to have a plan, but it can be too unrealistic, unattainable, and my dad taught me that things in life do not go according to plan and I'm afraid he's right. №10, thank you very much, this is exactly what I needed to hear and I will try yoga :) №11, as I have already explained, competitions are my perspective, they lead to a good education, and even if I fail to reach this level, I will still develop your thinking extremely much. №12, and there is time for friends too :) What you say is true for most teenagers, but I don't want to be like everyone else. Thank you very much and I will be glad to hear more opinions. Postscript: Sorry,

   Author, after your last comment, I see that you actually have a contradiction in your logic. You will be fine all alone, and you want your friends to appreciate your success. If you have to lose them to achieve your goal, will you be pleased if there is no one to praise you. Because people who don't know you closely won't be particularly impressed, and things like bragging are fleeting. Naked rewards do not earn respect in the eyes of others if they are not lined with character. How do you think people will look at you when they realize that they are less important to you than material rewards. By the way, it is not normal for your self-esteem to depend on such achievements and their recognition by third parties. What you say about education is not quite so, because you will hardly continue to study only the subjects you have chosen. For university scholarships, I guess you mean abroad, because in Bulgaria things don't work that way. Keep in mind that in the best cases they fully cover only tuition fees, as the money needed for daily living and possibly accommodation you will have to provide yourself. In social terms, once you begin to isolate yourself, to some extent you will become accustomed to how to communicate naturally and casually with people. Even if it doesn't happen, you have no idea how the lack of social contact will affect you, because faith is one thing, practice is quite another. Do a simple experiment - start avoiding any contact with your friends as much as possible for a period of 1-2 weeks and see how you tolerate. Always be 'busy' with them during this period. Then try to resume your previous relationship with them. This will give you an idea of ​​both the feeling of isolation and the difficulty of reintegrating after such a period. Finally multiply this by 1000.

   I recently came across this article and I believe you will have reason to think :) Why people with lower grades succeed in life There is a belief that you have to graduate with honors to find a good job someday. Unfortunately, the reality is different. No one will look at the grades in the diploma when they hire you. Then why do people who are just finishing the semester succeed in life? Here are the reasons for this: 1. Understand what they want sooner than others They do not waste time with unnecessary courses. For example, if you want to be a technician, you don't need to write thousands of essays on how you spent your summer vacation. World-renowned innovator and entrepreneur Steve Jobs had not graduated from university, but rose to the top of the IT industry. In a speech to Stanford University graduates, he had said, "The only way to do a great job is to love that, what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep searching! Don't resign yourself! 2. Gaining first-hand experience Most of the "bad" students start working earlier than their peers. This lowers their grades. At the same time, they gain invaluable experience, which the "excellents" miss. We all know that you are unlikely to be hired without any experience. 3. Make acquaintances Excellent students learn unnecessary subjects, and those with low grades read a lot of useful literature and communicate with many people every day. In real life, it is important to know influential people and be able to communicate. 4. Enjoy life Students with lower grades go to parties and sometimes come with a hangover to lectures, but enjoy life. They do the same in their work. It's simple: happy people are more successful. The boss will choose a fun and active person, which cheers others up, not very intelligent, but stressful and negative. 5. Find the simplest solutions Bill Gates is also among the people who can not boast of excellent grades. However, it rose by building Microsoft. He is a very open person and never looks at the diploma or grades. Non-standard thinking is important to him. As he says: “I always choose a lazy person to do the hard work, because he will find an easy way to do it! 6. Follow your dreams Much of success is doing something you love. You don't have to go with what you started at the beginning of your student years or what your parents want. Take, for example, the youngest billionaire, Elizabeth Holmes, who revolutionized medicine. She left one of the most prestigious universities, Stanford, to pursue her dreams. Another example is Sir Richard Branson, who dropped out of school at the age of 15 and now runs the huge Virgin Airlines. 7. They know what it's like to fight Success requires emotional intelligence, perseverance and passion. The most important thing is to learn to overcome failures. Not only in business, but also in life, you will have good and bad situations. People with low grades know what it's like to struggle with an exam or raise money for your business. Grades are just numbers. The real success is to become someone in life. People with low grades know what it's like to struggle with an exam or raise money for your business. Grades are just numbers. The real success is to become someone in life. People with low grades know what it's like to struggle with an exam or raise money for your business. Grades are just numbers. The real success is to become someone in life.

   A good education will give you a good job and life, so give priority to learning. Social life will not escape you. These sociable ones, you see them spend their lives in cafes (if they have a penny for lemonade) or hang out all day on park benches.