Headaches From My Ex-lover

   You had to think about your authority in the small town before making a lover. by the way, I've always wondered how the secret is kept, but it's public. Your lover is a mild psychopath, which you had no way of knowing in advance, I suppose. Although in a small town, probably everything is known to everyone. The intrigue with your many friends was deliberately arranged by you, perhaps out of jealousy, it may embarrass you, probably for both of you. Stay away from this person, because he is very likely to move on to bigger atrocities. By the way, your husband with many lovers may one day fall in love with someone and dump you. Think about this option, because you are very vulnerable with such a man.

   If you love your ex and he's not married and he loves you, what's the problem?

   So you're worried about your husband not finding out about even one outing, and he doesn't care to spin them one after the other for years :-) Hey, I don't understand that!

   If you decide to cheat, you must be prepared for any complications. Infidelity rarely goes unnoticed. You know your life, but I think you're saying that your husband has lovers just to justify his own infidelity. Something is wrong with me, I don't believe you. How come you will love him unconditionally, even if he has lovers? For better or worse, a person always itches what he has crushed himself ...

   Thanks a lot N - 2. Yes, I was very worried about this whole story. I will stay away from him, hopefully he will forget me and find another one. He is a gossip-type man, one who is overly emotional, emotionally unstable, but sensitive, he is a musician, a singer, he sings at weddings and restaurants, mostly folk music. Thank you for the opinion! The only pzt to cheat and fall in love so much and that's what this man met me. I hope everything has a happy ending. She had seen him walk past me, but she had not dared to speak to me or come near me since I had quarreled and threatened to file a complaint against him for undermining authority. He has been sitting away from me ever since. But he sees that there is hope and still hopes to get married :)))))) Since all this happened, I clung to my husband as a child to my mother's skirt. I was afraid of men. By the way, I later found out that he sometimes worked as a gigolo, he told me himself. Thanks again for your opinion on my problem.

   Your husband had lovers, and you're afraid he won't realize that after so many years, you're guilty too? And you think what you look like in people's eyes? Come to her senses! The problem is in you and that is why they allow themselves to be treated in a similar way. G30

   You are very confused. You are angry with your lover, and you should be angry with your husband because he is cheating on you. You hate the lover who treats you honestly with you, offering you to marry, and you should hate your husband. He cheats on you systematically, the people in your city know him and you are in their mouths why you tolerate him. Or they may make fun of you. So the lover has done nothing different than your husband - they both expose you in public. As your husband started first. My advice is to wait for the child to grow up and divorce your husband. Your real problem is him. And no wonder he left you for a young mistress years later. Solve your problems at home. Your lover has done you a favor by falling in love with you and giving you confidence and love. He's angry now, so he's acting like that. But, again, the problem is your husband.

   I just didn't understand ... you, how did you find out that he looked at your Facebook profile ... tell us that we also know who is looking at ours ...

   Will you sue him for undermining authority? And what will you say in court? Until yesterday, whatever, from today I am still the moral wife, and I want to know? And what authority do you think there is for a woman whose husband is constantly cheating, and she pretends to be a dead fox! Rather, they will say to themselves - the pot has rolled over, it has found a lid. These things don't go unnoticed in the small town, you know. And other-profiles, Facebook! Mature woman, and what fantasies and movies do you get into! My advice to you is to organize your family life. it is not normal to put up with the situation of a cheating wife.

   "On the one hand, I'm worried that my husband won't hear something, because they know me in the town, and him too, on the other hand, I'm worried about what people think of me, my ex's surroundings know me, I see that they look at me like me. meet by chance in the city. "- to these questions you had to find the answer before you act! Now you are wondering how to calm your guilty conscience, but your guilty conscience is running away, it will always seem to you that everyone knows about your exploits. Sooner or later your husband will learn, it is better to tell him what you have crushed, it is better to learn it from you than from strangers. So you will be trusted, if you try to show off, you better look for another, men do not like lies. The truth, although it hurts, is preferable! It can happen to anyone to stumble, it is important not to become a liar, and whatever happens,

   From the author - My current situation as a wife is not a fabrication to justify my infidelity, as someone mentioned above. It's just that my husband is a hardworking person, he loves the child and takes care of him. How to separate the child from his father and go to live with another man, we mothers always love children more than ourselves. My husband has such an upbringing simply, he is not taught fidelity and family values, I gave him 16 years to teach him what a family is. The other reason I didn't go to my lover was my parents, old, sick people, who said they wouldn't look at me if I got divorced. My mother turned to me with such malice, if I had separated from my husband I would have no more brother or mother. And here is my lover, he loved me very much, here are the intrigues he weaves behind my back, I don't know why he does these things and what his goal is. When I scolded him and asked him why he was doing it, he replied, it would be nothing bad, he would never have done anything bad to me, he said, and only God knows how true it is! Everywhere with my loved ones my life is unhappy, I don't know why, maybe I'm doing something wrong, give advice please! Otherwise, I haven't closed my eyes to my husband's infidelities, we have been divided many times and for months, the results are the same, and I have gone to psychologists and family therapists and led him, only things have improved a bit. Anyway. For me, tenderness, warmth, love will obviously remain a mirage. Please for positive advice, people with experience, I no longer know what to do! maybe i'm doing something wrong, give advice please! Otherwise, I haven't closed my eyes to my husband's infidelities, we have been divided many times and for months, the results are the same, and I have gone to psychologists and family therapists and led him, only things have improved a bit. Anyway. For me, tenderness, warmth, love will clearly remain a mirage. Please for positive advice, people with experience, I no longer know what to do! maybe i'm doing something wrong, give advice please! Otherwise, I haven't closed my eyes to my husband's infidelities, we have been divided many times and for months, the results are the same, and I have gone to psychologists and family therapists and led him, only things have improved a bit. Anyway. For me, tenderness, warmth, love will clearly remain a mirage. Please for positive advice, people with experience, I no longer know what to do!

   "I don't know" is written separately !!!

   A true gentleman is always discreet, no matter what his relationship with his mistress is. It is simply inadmissible for a self-respecting man to undermine the name of a lady in the mud. If he goes down this line, then he is not a gentleman and a normal woman should not deal with him. In this respect, your ex-lover has failed and nothing justifies it. But what do you really want? It offends you that a man with whom you had a fleeting relationship brags in front of strangers about your relationship, and you are not offended by the fact that your husband treats you like a rag. What if you have a child? Is this a reason to suffer humiliation? It hurts me a lot to say it: but you act like a light woman yourself. Not because you had a relationship outside of a marriage that was obviously over, but because you approached it superficially. After you were in love, after things were over between you and your husband, maybe you should have taken the feelings of the new person in your life more seriously. The message you sent him is this: my husband makes me a monkey, but he feeds me, and I have fun with you, but I won't risk my comfort, so if you love, stay. Well, this man also has dreams, feelings and plans, author. People are not disposable wipes.

   Like others who have spoken before me, I think that the tales of your husband's infidelity are just your fantasies. Quite normally and naturally, over the years he has lost interest in you - he caused pain, but he does not have to turn mistresses. This about the mistress / they is only in your head, you are bitten by some doubts, but you have no evidence. It is also normal that in the absence of attention from your husband you will look for one outside. It is quite natural and normal to get attention from a bachelor, this is their job, that's why they are bachelors. You stepped on your lame foot (figuratively speaking) and only then did you realize that you could be caught and all the benefits of security in your marriage could go away. Now your main problem is how your "unfaithful" husband does not understand that you are making arrangements for "discreet" relationships with bachelors. I'm sorry, but it's funny to threaten someone who has decided to live their bachelor life in court. Your rumors that after (barely) a year of dating a bachelor has decided that he wants a child, and the one you rejected, are also untenable. If the bachelor wanted a child, he would just do it and not raise the issue of marriage at all - it is convenient for bachelors to have children and another to look after them, if they wanted a marriage they would have settled down long ago. I will continue a little more with my divinations - I guess at about 40, a special age at which almost all women scroll, feel that youth is gone, rush to accumulate good memories of antiquities, do all sorts of nonsense to prove to others and most -Already to themselves that they are not yet to be discarded. It's stupid, but it's a fact, I don't know if the cause is hormones, upbringing, education or idleness, but it's a fact, that most women around the age of 40 catch a lover, generally younger and almost necessarily a bachelor. I have no explanation, but I have observations that this is happening and obviously you are no exception. Some in your situation are lucky, they somehow manage to find a discreet lover, but many others just step into the rare, fall in love, divorce, have children or lick wounds. In short - you are dirty and do not blame others, if you had not opened your legs there would be no one to show you to your friends on Facebook! You think and talk like a schoolgirl, and you seem to have a long-term marriage and a child - you have crushed potpourri, all you have to do is itch yourself! It's not scary, if your husband is actually a player and spins lovers will not be particularly impressed by your antics, if you "kick"

   From the author N-16 You just understood me perfectly, thank you very much for taking the time to share your opinion on my problem. I had never cheated before, and my husband was the first man in my life. I have no experience with men, my lover had promised me discretion and I believed him. You are very right, I wanted to keep my marriage for the sake of the child, and from the lover I wanted what I do not have at home - tenderness, love, love, romance. You are right about dreams, and he told me exactly that, You broke my dreams, but I did not promise him anything, we were just in love very much and with each other and on the basis of passion, strong physical attraction - this kind of attraction passes for 3 years maximum and then? And my husband, no matter who looks after his family, does not insult me, does not touch me, so I chose the safe as you said. No matter how much he was hurt by my choice, nothing justifies him showing my photos from the face of a whole team of men to brag. Is it normal for most men to brag about their beautiful mistress or girlfriend to their friends? I ask out of ignorance on the subject, I have no experience with lovers just? I was terribly offended, I know that my parents raised me very strictly on the subject of honor, but I felt sick, I felt betrayed and humiliated, I don't know, I'm probably too romantic and sensitive to the real world.

   An interesting comment. Thank you for sharing your opinion on my issue. Everything I have shared is true, my husband's infidelities and everything else. I really liked the information about women at 40. I'm 37 and I really feel exactly as you describe, a kind of fear that youth flies away and something draws you to younger men. But end, I don't think I'm trying anymore. ,, The bachelor, as you put it, wanted a child from me because he liked me very much, he is not younger than me, he is only a year younger - a frivolous man, a playboy type, a family with such a person does not work, I have at home one like that, the difference is that the one outside had lost his passion for me and called it love. I hope you follow the topic. I want to ask, in my case, what can I do so that my husband doesn't understand, my lover, when I look, doesn't spit at all and brags that he was with me. And as unpredictable as it is in nature, I'm afraid that revenge (out of jealousy and selfishness, because I stayed with my husband, not with him) will give me a nasty trick. Thank you in advance!

   If the author's question is to me (number 17), just read my comment one more time and especially what was said at the end. If your husband is really cheating on you, and not with a woman, he's probably played you to such an extent that he won't be particularly impressed by your outing. Fucking a bachelor doesn't matter if you've really blocked all his friends - I guess they know him and don't trust him very much. It remains to gather your brain and erase all traces of your communication with young people, phone numbers, Facebook, e-mails, vibers, Skypes, etc. There is another very important point - stop with any explanations, clarification meetings, contacts etc. with the bachelor, there is nothing better than complete ignorance. Even if it annoys you, haunts you, to try to warm the relationship you have to force yourself not to retaliate in any way - this is a stranger to you, a passer-by stared at your skirt and began to fantasize that there was or could be something between you. In general, this is how I would do it, you build the image of an inaccessible bitch and leave time to do your job - hardly anyone at the moment believes that he is you, and in a year they will not believe him at all. Anyone can accidentally come across a jerk on Facebook, and then the jerk starts fantasizing - this should be your version for the questioners. Now you put on a big earring from the sucker and burn your mind hard with the next ones, because I am convinced that there will be some. For better or worse, we are the people (both men and women), few are left with one partner for life - I would blame you if you were the first to start with infidelity, but in this situation you have every right to seek caresses and attention outside of marriage. Of course, I am far from tolerating such behavior, in any case it is far fairer to end your rotten marriage and give yourself a chance to start anew, along with the garbage there are many decent men, but definitely not bachelors your age. A man who has brought you to your age without marriage and children has some defects, usually the defects are on the upper floor - you have already experienced this. Younger people are not recommended either, not because there are no decent people among them, but because you have no right to steal from their youth - young people deserve to be like themselves, they deserve to experience what you have experienced. Try not to be selfish, there is nothing wrong with lying that we are all getting older, some are getting wiser, others are naive children - focus your attention on people like you and your age or a little more. Lastly - learn to wait and watch, don't throw your bag at anyone who pays you a gram of attention, many players have learned to simulate attention, but that's only until they get free sex, then wipe their hands in you and head for another conquest. You don't want to be a rag in your own eyes - an acquaintance used to say "in your life you meet a lot of people, but you live with yourself all your life". Lastly - learn to wait and watch, don't throw your bag at anyone who has paid a gram of attention to you, many players have learned to simulate attention, but that's only until they get free sex, then wipe their hands in you and head for another conquest. You don't want to be a rag in your own eyes - an acquaintance used to say "in your life you meet a lot of people, but you live with yourself all your life". Lastly - learn to wait and watch, don't throw your bag at anyone who has paid a gram of attention to you, many players have learned to simulate attention, but that's only until they get free sex, then wipe their hands in you and head for another conquest. You don't want to be a rag in your own eyes - an acquaintance used to say "in your life you meet a lot of people, but you live with yourself all your life".

   To number 17 Thank you very much for answering my question. Yes, my question was next to you. Thank you very much for your serious attitude to my problem and the wise answer. I read it several times. I will strictly adhere to your advice. I did not communicate with any of his comrades, I am a serious person, I was just in love with him, but as you said at this age without children and family, it is clear that he has something and it really was, but I found out later. I just wanted to cheat for revenge with someone I really like because my husband was cheating all the time. My husband is a big complex, full of almost everything, he has various human complexes, incurable, and then he started liking different women and went completely crazy. Otherwise, he wants his people not to touch him, the other's was common, he says. He has warned me many times, that if he only caught me having coffee with someone ..... and listed a bunch of threats. Thanks for your time and helpful comment. The ex is trying in various ways to provoke me to write to him, I have blocked him for half a year and he will stay there until the end. It's good that you warned me not to clarify the situation in any way, because in moments of anger I wanted to write him a bunch of things about how much it costs as a person, but in the end I told myself that it didn't even deserve my attention. From now on, as you said, I will completely ignore him, even in a chance meeting I will pretend not to see him. Otherwise, his defect is strange - a gambling addict! Total horror. On top of that, he hid from me so that I would not know and not withdraw from him, and later I realized that he sometimes works as a gigolo. I had found a wonderful lover. On the outside quite nice with a nice sports body, and upper luggage for repair. I'm so upset that I don't think I'll try another time. What a romance it was, what songs he sang for me and finally nothing but worries and fears. I'm not happy with my experience, but nothing. Such intelligent and wise people as you meet, where my husband has a university degree, but he does not know how to reach smart and wise conclusions. I keep fixing his mess so that my family doesn't break up, because our people raised me on family values ​​and it's very important for me not to get divorced. But who knows, sometimes something happens exactly what he least wants. I hope everything with the ex will be forgotten, a little over a year has passed, he hasn't bothered me until now. He hovers around me sometimes, pretending to meet me, but I pretend not to see him and he doesn't dare talk to me. I hope he forgets me, but I see that he hid his hopes and waited, there was a lot of passion, a lot of miracles between us. And I'm still struggling with the memories, I want to erase them, because otherwise I don't stop thinking about them :) He told me that he had never been in love so much. I know that after our separation he was quite depressed. I hope he is not obsessed with falling in love with me and leaves everything in the past. If in the future he is stubborn to be with me again and creates a problem for me, if I write here and ask you for advice, will you see my commander if it's been a long time, say? You helped me a lot, thank you very much! I hope he is not obsessed with falling in love with me and leaves everything in the past. If in the future he is stubborn to be with me again and creates a problem for me, if I write here and ask for advice, will you see my commander if it's been a long time, say? You helped me a lot, thank you very much! I hope he is not obsessed with falling in love with me and leaves everything in the past. If in the future he is stubborn to be with me again and creates a problem for me, if I write here and ask you for advice, will you see my commander if it's been a long time, say? You helped me a lot, thank you very much!

   I explained to him that I had a child. Your problem is not the child, it is your excuse. Your problem is that without your husband you will not be able to cope with life, it is clear that you use it for money, but this is normal for the world in which we live. Body and soul for money;) Weak people easily sell their lives.

   Everyone can manage on their own in life. Money is not everything if he does not like to be divided

   Up to 23. You are wrong. Waiting if the child is a teenager. If it is smaller or larger it is easier to take.

   Author, for you I am only one number, be it 17 or 20 all this, but I do not think either very smart or very wise. Wisdom comes with experience, and I miss it (one marriage and 2 relationships after that) - you lack experience, and hence the mistakes you make. I definitely don't understand why you're staring so hard at your unfaithful husband, and I don't understand your dependence on conservative relatives - life is yours and no one else can live it for you. You choose whether to be humiliated and oppressed for the rest of your life or to win the right to be a normal and dignified person. What does it mean "Many times he warned me that if he only caught me having coffee with someone ... and made a bunch of threats." - I will immodestly offer to catch you with me for coffee, what will happen, will he beat you or will threaten me. There is nothing to be afraid of such a complex, just learn your rights and instead of leaving him without a word, shout and moan sadden his life. It sucks to advise you such things, but you may not listen to me - gather enough evidence of his adventures, find witnesses who will not turn around in court and smear his skis on such a man. Leave him naked like a rifle, show the others that he is rubbish and then arrange your life with a person who will respect and honor you, and not with a swindler who goes around the bingo halls until the age of 36. "I just wanted to cheat on revenge with someone I really like, because my husband was constantly cheating." - what does it mean, who are you cheating on, what are you proving - you cheated on yourself, you added another humiliation to his already unpleasant life. Think for yourself and not for the others, there is work, there are men - believe in yourself and be a man, not a rag in the hands of the leftists, who cannot appreciate a woman as anything more than a piece of meat or a patchwork for wiping the secrets! Forget about my previous advice, you don't have to be with a stupid husband or an even smaller foolish lover. If you want, believe me, but your best years are coming, you have at least 10-15 years to understand, and if you support yourself, 20 years will be seen for you to enjoy a dignified life. Everything is in front of you, but also in you, if you continue to wander between an unfaithful husband and bachelor lovers, you will get not only mental but also physiological problems - no one deserves it. who can't appreciate a woman as more than a piece of meat or a scumbag to wipe away secretions! Forget about my previous advice, you don't have to be with a stupid husband or an even smaller foolish lover. If you want, believe me, but your best years are coming, you have at least 10-15 years to understand, and if you support yourself, 20 years will be seen for you to enjoy a dignified life. Everything is in front of you, but also in you, if you continue to wander between an unfaithful husband and bachelor lovers, you will get not only mental but also physiological problems - no one deserves it. who can't appreciate a woman as more than a piece of meat or a patchwork for wiping secretions! Forget about my previous advice, you don't have to be with a stupid husband or an even smaller foolish lover. If you want, believe me, but your best years are coming, you have at least 10-15 years to understand, and if you support yourself, 20 years will be seen for you to enjoy a dignified life. Everything is in front of you, but also in you, if you continue to wander between an unfaithful husband and bachelor lovers, you will get not only mental but also physiological problems - no one deserves it. and if you support yourself for 20 years, you will see a little to enjoy a dignified life. Everything is in front of you, but also in you, if you continue to wander between an unfaithful husband and bachelor lovers, you will get not only mental but also physiological problems - no one deserves it. and if you support yourself for 20 years, you will see a little to enjoy a dignified life. Everything is in front of you, but also in you, if you continue to wander between an unfaithful husband and bachelor lovers, you will get not only mental but also physiological problems - no one deserves it.

   Until 26. The child is a teenager. A boy of 15. First I think about the child. How long should I wait in front of you so as not to harm the child with my divorce? The child is an exemplary student, he has friends, I do not want to upset his children's world. I grit my teeth and endure like many others having.

   Until 17. Thanks a lot for the time section and comment. You are right about every sentence. It is clear that I am not clear about my rights, and I probably lack self-esteem and I don't know what else. I don't know how to make this tyrant man's life next to me, nor do I know how to recognize decent men, and if I get divorced I don't even know if I will be able to find a man who will respect and appreciate me. I have only my beauty, my kindness, pleasant character and higher education - nothing else. I am neither impudent nor very correct. I am an anxious, shy person. That's probably why my despotic husband plays me like that. And I don't know where anymore. At least I got rid of the cheeky lover. If you feel like writing, write about the topic. I will be happy to read your comment.

   Author, I think I've already said enough about the topic, I offered you options - it's up to you how you proceed, whether you try a ready-made version or come up with something of your own. Like you, I postponed the divorce because of the children, I wanted them to finish at least their secondary education, but they overtook me with a proposal that I could not resist and I immediately accepted. It was only later that I realized that I had to divorce when the children were small, and not witness our endless quarrels. I guess your husband is not a despot and has not cheated on you since yesterday - you should have taken your child and let him despot and prostitute, and your relatives would understand you. There is no guarantee that after the divorce you will not come across such an object, but you will have given yourself a chance for a dignified life, and now what happened, infidelity did not bring you satisfaction, your marriage is practically non-existent, ie. things are worse than before. I already told you, you have swallowed your pride anyway, you still don't have the strength and courage to start fresh, you still don't know what you want from life - find yourself like yourself, a person with the same family status, a person around your age, a person with a child who is not thinking about a new marriage, for other children. At least your discretion will be guaranteed, and you get used to your guilty conscience, and there's nothing wrong with that (you have an excuse). You need a man, it's normal, physiology dictates it, but if you keep trying with bachelors you risk becoming a mother for the second time, but at this age, with all the consequences. I give different minds, but I have never maintained and would not maintain a parallel relationship, it is somehow below my dignity, but your case is different. Give yourself more time, wait for the storm in you to subside completely and take action in the right direction - you need a man (I say it again), you don't have to fall in love, we don't talk about love, we talk about physical health, of course not a man at any cost, and on a certain. To add a little personal experience - I am far from thinking that after the divorce I suddenly felt better, on the contrary there was a period of depression, then there was a period of rise, then failure, then some rise. You should be aware that it will never be the same as in time with the preparation of the wedding, the expectation of the child, the care of the baby, but each age has its own beauty and you must be ready for the good that will happen to you when the boy becomes male and flew out of the family nest. You're about 4-5 years old, in which you have to preserve your physical beauty and mental health, and this happens with a man in your hall. However, I admit that you are like an acquaintance of mine who divorced precisely because her husband was a despot, deprived her of sex, did not pay attention to her, and now (2 years after the divorce) she continues to follow him on social networks, to talk only about him. , to regret the past years, to look for all sorts of occasions to see each other, to be together with the children, etc. I don't understand that, I don't know why you are so attached to your bullies, why you cause it, why you reconcile, why you keep silent . I wish you success, when you meet the right person you will understand what you were deprived of, but in order to meet him you have to get out of your shell, to show yourself to the world and he will find you himself! who divorced precisely because her husband was a despot, deprived her of sex, did not pay attention to her, and now (2 years after the divorce) continues to follow him on social networks, to talk only about him, to regret the past years, looking for any occasions to see each other, to be together with the children, etc. I don't understand that, I don't know why you are so attached to your bullies, why you cause it to yourself, why you reconcile, why you keep silent. I wish you success, when you meet the right person you will understand what you were deprived of, but in order to meet him you have to get out of your shell, to show yourself to the world and he will find you himself! who divorced precisely because her husband was a despot, deprived her of sex, did not pay attention to her, and now (2 years after the divorce) continues to follow him on social networks, to talk only about him, to regret the past years, looking for any occasions to see each other, to be together with the children, etc. I don't understand that, I don't know why you are so attached to your bullies, why you cause it to yourself, why you reconcile, why you keep silent. I wish you success, when you meet the right person you will understand what you were deprived of, but in order to meet him you have to get out of your shell, to show yourself to the world and he will find you himself! looking for all sorts of occasions to see each other, to be together with the children, etc. I don't understand that, I don't know why you are so attached to your bullies, why you cause it, why you reconcile, why you keep silent. I wish you success, when you meet the right person you will understand what you were deprived of, but in order to meet him you have to get out of your shell, to show yourself to the world and he will find you himself! looking for all sorts of occasions to see each other, to be together with the children, etc. I don't understand that, I don't know why you are so attached to your bullies, why you cause it, why you reconcile, why you keep silent. I wish you success, when you meet the right person you will understand what you were deprived of, but in order to meet him you have to get out of your shell, to show yourself to the world and he will find you himself!

   Until № 17. Thanks for the nice comment! I hate depressions the most, I don't allow myself to fall into such a state, sports help, endorphins are released in the brain thanks to it. What upsets me the most is that after 3 years I turn 40. You say that after 40 life is good for a woman, why do you think so? I am a very well-maintained woman, I play sports, dance, sing, I look attractive, I look thirty. With a man just k ... r how else. But even if I look twenty there, 40 is so much, it will become more, but not less. This seems to be the most unpleasant thing that happens to me - youth flies away and will not return, I know it is a natural process and can not be stopped, but somehow I'm sad. Men obviously don't care about age, but for us women - when youth flies away, it's as if spring is gone and will never come back, that's how I feel. They say that every man cheats, I don't know how true. Even when a woman is very beautiful, she is not who knows what, everyone has a desire for you, you have no peace, I do not wear naked clothes and it is irrelevant, they look around, throw words, ask for acquaintance, your women are jealous, angry, girlfriends you have a little, neither so nor so, all bad in this life :) Anyway, I will still recover somehow, as soon as I reach 37 and further I will succeed without the intervention of a psychiatrist and antidepressants. My fear - after 40 the woman becomes more vulnerable and weak or more resilient, I do not know the answer? I ask girlfriends, they answer differently. Thank you very much for everything written on my problem. Greetings and sincere thanks! I don't wear naked clothes and it doesn't matter, they look around, throw words, ask for acquaintance, your wives are jealous, angry, you have few girlfriends, neither so nor so, all bad in this life :) Anyway, it will always be I manage somehow, as soon as I reach 37 and further I will succeed without the intervention of a psychiatrist and antidepressants. My fear - after 40 the woman becomes more vulnerable and weak or more resilient, I do not know the answer? I ask girlfriends, they answer differently. Thank you very much for everything written on my problem. Greetings and sincere thanks! I don't wear naked clothes and it doesn't matter, they look around, throw words, ask for acquaintance, your wives are jealous, angry, you have few girlfriends, neither so nor so, still bad in this life :) I manage somehow, as soon as I reach 37 and further I will succeed without the intervention of a psychiatrist and antidepressants. My fear - after 40 the woman becomes more vulnerable and weak or more resilient, I do not know the answer? I ask girlfriends, they answer differently. Thank you very much for everything written on my problem. Greetings and sincere thanks! My fear - after 40 the woman becomes more vulnerable and weak or more resilient, I do not know the answer? I ask girlfriends, they answer differently. Thank you very much for everything written on my problem. Greetings and sincere thanks! My fear - after 40 the woman becomes more vulnerable and weak or more resilient, I do not know the answer? I ask girlfriends, they answer differently. Thank you very much for everything written on my problem. Greetings and sincere thanks!

   № 17,, However, I admit that you are like an acquaintance of mine who divorced precisely because her husband was a despot, deprived her of sex, did not pay attention to her, and now (2 years after the divorce) continues to follow him on social networks, yes talk only about him, regret the past years, look for all sorts of occasions to see each other, to be together with the children, etc. I do not understand this, I do not know why you are so attached to your bullies ...,, You are right and here. I feel this stupid emotion towards my ex-lover, but I will never give in to her, I will forget everything and it will be over. This emotion in me comes from the fact that you failed to subdue and conquer the person, if he had started crying and praying to me I would have lost interest, and he after each of my refusals insulted, cursed, took revenge just has adrenaline. It's stupid, but that's the explanation.

   Author, the fact that you exercise and support yourself is very good - I respect women who take care of their appearance, but not only by going to beauticians, hairdressers and massagers. I am not a woman and of course I cannot refer to personal experience, but I have read, talked, observed many women your age and older. The main change is in the head, almost all, not to mention all women around your age get some thoughts about their flying youth, film on the topic of impending menopause and do not realize that everything is strictly individual and there is no universal recipe. I know women who have been in menopause since the age of 35, I know one at 48 who is like a watch, I know one who at 53-4 told me that she feels a surge of energy and that now she feels better than at 33, I also know those who are 40-43 years old like helicopters, they buzz, pick up a smoke and do their best to be noticed. For the latter, it is my word to notice them, but for what - most men feel such k ... ki and take advantage of their condition. I can't believe you want to be a helicopter, every 5-6 months with a new pilot. Yes, you can happen to a good pilot, but most likely you will be the first to be sniffed by people like the bachelor you are looking for a way to get rid of, that's why I told you where to go, you need sex, but not with anyone, and with a man who will appreciate and protect you. If you find the right person, all the black thoughts will come out of your head - I read that some are able to maintain parallel relationships for 10 or much more years. Men also suffer from menopause, in those who have meaningful activities, responsible work, hobbies (but not watching football), menopause goes unnoticed, for the uninvolved the situation is terrible, the same flies are spinning in their heads as in women's heads, the feeling of their passing youth becomes a fixed idea to prove to themselves that they can still do it and are not to be discarded - do you remember that I can I give you dozens of examples, and you see them yourself, dressed up, dressed up, perfumed, riding powerful motorcycles or cars, getting on young chicks riding furiously, killing complexes. I have no idea how it will be with me, but I probably won't be a big exception - you know what are the three stages in a man's development - a goose, a whore, a vine grower (or a fisherman, or a gardener, or a shepherd, or ...). I'm already leaning towards the third age, but I haven't stopped reading, studying, being interested, I try not to do things by force, but by reason, I don't have any specific goal in relation to women (even less to accumulate numbers) , my goal is quality,

   By № 17 I hope you follow the topic because you are an interesting interlocutor. ,, .... I also know those who are 40-43 years old, like helicopters, buzzing, smoking and doing everything possible to be noticed. For the latter, it is my word to notice them, but for what - most men feel such k ... ki and take advantage of their condition. My most unpleasant type of women are the ones you described - buzzing like helicopters - buzzing. Pure complexes, thirsty for a little attention, ready to attract him at least for a while - they speak loudly, laugh out loud, talk to men on stupid occasions just to give them a little attention. For me, such behavior is a living exposure for a cultured woman - a lady is unthinkable to behave in this vulgar way. But not everyone thinks like you and me. Unfortunately I know men, who fall for such women with cheap numbers and dump their valuable wives for them. It sucks terribly, but it's true, unfortunately. I personally attract attention with my good physique, it is a natural gift for me. I have elegant behavior and feminine manners, gentle appearance, I am a cultured woman, I hate cheap numbers to attract attention, but I like all types of men. The paradox for me is that once I cheated and fell terribly in love with a man whose brain is the size of a chicken. You say quality is important. Which quality - physics, skills in bed, intellect, character or all together, because everything at once is terribly rare. For me personally, the most attractive in a man I thought was the intellect and I still think so, but I fell terribly in love with physics and sex, I thought it was unthinkable, but it happened to me. You think one thing in life, but in practice it turns out quite differently. I was so enchanted by my bed skills that for three years I walked like a hypnotized person and saw only him and no other man saying that love is blind - the same. Logically speaking - complete nonsense, but in practice I am still struggling with this ridiculous love and passion in me for this ridiculous person. Unfortunately, theory and practice do not always coincide.

   Author, I do not know how interesting I am - not everyone thinks so when confronted with my directness. I don't think I'm a good advisor either - don't take everything I say for granted, I'm just sharing some things I've encountered or observed in others. You are big enough to break everything through your own prism - a separate issue is that no one is the master of his heart, and it does not always speak the same language with the mind. And I have fallen in love with the clear awareness that this is not the man - I have no idea why it happens that your mind screams NO, and your heart says I want it. I admit that there are people without such torments, but I guess it's because of a lack of heart, just such people are not able to love anyone but themselves. There is such a "helicopter" in my environment, just as you describe it, loud, arrogant, smug, etc. To leave the talk about others, but how not a word about the child came out of the mouth of this motorboat and, not mentioning it for better or for worse, you will say that it does not exist - imagine for yourself what the attitude towards others is. So you're right "Which quality - physics, bed skills, intellect, character or all together, because everything at once is terribly rare." - It is difficult, but not impossible, sometimes quite confusing, but it's all a matter of experience, and you obviously lack one, unfortunately I have no experience with men either. I have realized for myself that everything is a matter of priorities and their correct arrangement. For example, if a person does not attract me physically, it would be difficult to make contact with him, let alone have a meaningful conversation. Let's say that there is already a physical attraction or at least approval, the contact has been received, a conversation has been established - in the conversation you find that either the intellect is not according to your requirements, or the character is different from your expectations - what's next, will you continue with the experiment , will you check the skills of the object in bed? I would not go on and that's because of what you share here - even if you haven't fallen in love yet, after sex there is a high probability of falling in love (I exclude from the account those without hearts - the latest generation computers). Obviously you are not operated on by feelings, you should already know each other, you could have foreseen the development of such a relationship and not caused it. I notice in you a hyperbolization of the bachelor's abilities, I'm sure that everything happens in a person's head and by this logic any normal man can make you feel happy, the question is to really want you, to respect you, to comply with your peculiarities. The bachelor has found your thin string and even now he continues to play on it, he knows that you think it, he knows that it is a matter of time to give in again, throws empty for empty, tries options, looks for a door and even if you just open it he will fly in, he will devastate everything else from you and in you, and then he will leave as a winner because for him the important thing is not you, but the conquest itself. I will support the tales with a real story, a first-hand story, but don't ask me how I know it. A bachelor, a woman (in your position), dating on the Internet and following a familiar plot. The bachelor does not push, offers nothing and promises nothing, he leaves the woman to start suggesting to herself that a rabbit can come out of this forest (we all know what it's like when you start winding yourself). The denouement is overnight sex and loss of interest for several months, then sex again and then again lack of interest. Just to add that in your case it is much better - the interest has continued. I said the outcome, but this is only part - the interest continues to appear periodically, invitations for friendship (nonsense on wheels), invitations to visit, congratulations on the holidays, in general, keeping the fire, I'm here, I have not forgotten you, I am not forget you too. So, it turns out that the desire to be liked, sought after, desired, courted is not unique to women - and there is nothing wrong with a man who does not want to be wanted and wanted, respected and respected, the question is the means we all use to achieve this goal. Some rely on appearance, others on intellect, still others on a strong voice, still others on vulgar tricks and numbers, etc., etc. Don't touch yourself, but you mainly talk about your appearance, you mentioned that you were looking for that. and in the potential lover - you found him, you liked him, go on and don't comment "and in a man whose brain is the size of a chicken." - now go back up and read again what I wrote about the priorities, "the chicken "You should have seen it before you had sex, not feel threatened now. I keep thinking that it's never too late to meet the right person, but it would be nice to have that happen before you have endless bitter experience with "beautiful" bachelors. Nothing fatal so far, but if you continue to give yourself as a gift you will remain "naked as a rifle". With respect to your problem!

   By № 17 A huge THANK YOU, I will find strength and fight this passion for this brainless mollusk. I have no experience with men, so I fell into this trap, I have not seen stormy and passionate sex. I'm ashamed to admit, but I've only been with my husband, who doesn't bother in bed at all. I often come across intellects, but if a man doesn't grab me physically and emotionally, I can't. And the one with the chicken brain is always in the nightclubs, an experienced c ... r, he sees that I swallowed because of sex, I told him that my husband is not very good and he knows my trick. I didn't know a man could fall in love so much after sex. Don't laugh, this is the first time I've fallen in love so much. I will probably never fall in love again, but I am so romantic. Anyway. And without love I will live with a little sex. Just to get rid of it and clear my brain of that moldy man. You seem to be infecting me with your straightforwardness. I am directly to the point of pain and I do not like others sometimes, but I compensate with politeness and kindness. Thanks a lot. Write again if you are not bored. And you're right again. We are playing with victory and revenge with this one. I don't know how you understood it, YOU ARE GREAT !!! Last time I won. I made an appointment with him and I didn't go. He was waiting for me all afternoon :))) And once again I gave him hope, he ran, and I again sent him for green caviar :)) It's his turn. God protect me from him! But all this was two months ago. Now I'm just going to play an inaccessible bitch and I won't know him anymore, as you taught me. A sincere friendly hug from me for you! We are playing with victory and revenge with this one. I don't know how you understood it, YOU ARE GREAT !!! Last time I won. I made an appointment with him and I didn't go. He was waiting for me all afternoon :))) And once again I gave him hope, he ran, and I again sent him for green caviar :)) It's his turn. God protect me from him! But all this was two months ago. Now I'm just going to play an inaccessible bitch and I won't know him anymore, as you taught me. A sincere friendly hug from me for you! We are playing with victory and revenge with this one. I don't know how you understood it, YOU ARE GREAT !!! Last time I won. I made an appointment with him and I didn't go. He was waiting for me all afternoon :))) And once again I gave him hope, he ran, and I again sent him for green caviar :)) It's his turn. God protect me from him! But it was all two months ago. Now I'm just going to play an inaccessible bitch and I won't know him anymore, as you taught me. A sincere friendly hug from me for you! as you taught me. A sincere friendly hug from me for you! as you taught me. A sincere friendly hug from me for you!

   Author, I have not done anything special to thank me, I just share an experience that, as I have already noted, is not only personal, but we humans are not like dogs, we also learn from other people's mistakes, it is clear that watching a butcher is not it works, but at least you learn which way to hold the knife. Your story is more and more similar to the story I told you in my previous post - hopefully the outcome is not the same, it hurts! The lady in question, just like you, has decided to spin the numbers and play with the man who seduced and dumped her. Offended by the neglect with which he had behaved after he had already achieved his goal, she decided to continue to seduce him, to promise meetings he did not attend, to send him messages that should provoke his interest, but of course she only tilted his cap - he has a shiny environment and a woman in more or less does not affect his self-esteem if something goes well, but the important thing is to have new achievements and be great in his own eyes with the numbers, not the quality of your relationships. So far there is nothing wrong, everyone wants to rub the nose of the one who mocked him to one degree or another, to somehow punish him for the neglect with which he treated his feelings and emotions. The bad comes if you can't stop in time, and the lady in question got carried away and continued to tease even after she had already found her man. Still, there would be nothing if the teasing hadn't become known to the other person. It got there "by turning the cart, roads a lot", the bachelor doesn't want her for anything more than variety in sex, the other person doesn't believe that these were just jokes, but you know how to restore lost trust - "once they say that your sister is K .. va, go prove that you don't have a sister". I don't know the end of the story, but I know that once a broken relationship can't be repaired, sooner or later the thread breaks, especially when we talk about older people, not teens who fight today and kiss tomorrow. By the way, the lady is a very decent person, hard-working, studious, down-to-earth, I would not say beautiful, but charming - in short, everything is in place, only her luck was like that. Based on what I shared and not only that (this is just a real story, but such a pain) I told you that the best option is to delete everything related to this person. It is clear that you will never erase it from your consciousness, he will continue to appear to you even in his sleep, but the Internet traces must be carefully swept away, all contacts must end, you must let go of the curtain and no one, but really no one should know about what happened. Life is in front of you, you will meet the right person, you will see that passionate sex can be done not only by ... you cook and wander around the nightclubs! I already mentioned to you, your child "tomorrow" will fly away from the family hearth, you will need someone like yourself, someone to grow old with (although it is too early for you), someone with whom you can keep quiet together, someone who to make you feel human, not a rag overnight. As for falling in love, don't worry, there's hardly a man who has never fallen in love and thought it was forever - I'm always in love for the last time, I've even fallen in love with a woman,

   There is something to thank you for, you are sincere, honest, pleasant-reasonable-analytical, you are cool, you think cool, I like the way you communicate and think, I do not have such a good interlocutor in real life. Thanks for calling again, albeit virtually and only with a post. If you pass by and you are not lazy, write something that is written to you, you always share seriously and sincerely, you appreciate the interlocutor! And yes, I will erase that amoeba from my memory, I even went to a bioenergetician to clear it of my mind. Don't laugh at me now, I said try to see what happens. On the third day, I'm better, I don't log in to his profile all the time, and from someone else's profile because I've blocked him for seven months, he will stay there forever. The interesting thing is that I said to myself, I repeated to myself many times that for me it no longer exists and is dead in my thoughts and heart, I have not shared these thoughts with anyone, I just buried it in my mind in my thoughts forever and the one I passed I watched made my Facebook profile black, I put a mourning curtain on the fourth day it's like that :), how he felt that for me it's nothing I don't know, telepathy I guess, or if he comes to see me and watches me he sees that I am cheerful perhaps. I don't know him, I just know that he is super bad, he should still be given :))))) I started learning a foreign language - German and playing sports more so that my thoughts are occupied with useful things, not to remember for him. It's not just sex that makes me sensitive to him, he was very gentle and considerate with me in bed. My husband is like an animal, he doesn't comply with me during sex, he only tries to make him feel good, sometimes he even scolds me for not pleasing him, just imagine what kind of person he is, and that one he was careful to touch me, he kept me like a crystal vase,

   I don't think you need to erase your good memories, but you should also remember that parting didn't happen for no reason. Most people are set up to forget the bad, not one or two cases where the separated reunite and then separate again because of the old problems. I'm not saying you're angry, but don't forget what you started the topic about. "He became jealous of my husband and said he wanted me to divorce and get married. I told him I couldn't because I had a child. Then he got mad. he accused me of not knowing what love was, said that I did not love him, that I preferred my husband, and began to be cold and rude to me. We quarreled and parted. "- this is just a short quote. If you take a step back today, you'll take two - what does it mean to be jealous of your husband, lest he know that you are married and have a child? He knew and accepted it, and later just like your husband, but on another level he ignored you, his ego came to the fore, he didn't care about your child or how you would feel - if you want evidence read your topic in the section on how he insulted you in front of his friends. It is not uncommon not to say that it is a must, but most people peek into the profiles of their exes, some are just curious, others are angry, others are trying to resume relationships, others (like me) are looking for a way to blur your guilty conscience. Guzna, guzna, as bad as my conscience was ten years ago, when I broke up with a man who was obviously looking for me only for sex, when she was having fun, when she was ovulating. I have repeatedly warned that refusing to meet on the grounds that my stomach hurts, I have a headache, I have an engagement with a girlfriend, it is neglect for me. When I hold on to someone and want to see them, I'm ready to throw everything away, I won't even think that the beans will burn in the pot or the washing machine hasn't been spinned yet. That was the reason for our separation, at first glance nothing, but for me it was terribly insulting that the lady did not want to attend the presentation of my daughter's diploma - certainly could, but simply did not want. I finished that day, but it turned out that I wasn't completely finished, the good came to mind, the bad settled somewhere at the bottom, after a week or a month (I don't remember exactly) I called the stupid question "how are you" the answer, they recommended me to delete all phones, profiles, etc. In my anger I did just that, but after a month, two called me, supposedly to return a book to me - the other had already forgotten about the insult, but later, I was already engaged. Later I started looking at the lady's Facebook profile, I didn't want the old one to come back, but I wanted to know that she didn't "commit suicide", that she found someone else, that she was happier than with me, my ass was gnawing at me. conscience whether I have not overexposed things, whether I have not hurt for no reason. 10 years later I have no answer to my questions, I refuse to forget the good moments, but I try not to forget the insult because I am convinced that everything will happen again, just the man is so arranged, his tomatoes are the biggest, his cucumbers are the most delicious, his achievements are the most significant. I don't have bad feelings, but I don't feel the need to resume contact, I don't care, but I don't look at Facebook anymore, I don't even know if there is - I deleted mine. So, the more you suppress your feelings, emotions and memories, the more they will try to occupy your entire consciousness and one day you will explode. Relax and let time do its job - you will soon receive clear signals that fate knows its job, then you will understand that there was a reason to meet you with this person and then separate you. If you can, be careful of the right one, and when you meet him you will find out who he is.

   By № 17 Thank you for the meaningful comment. I protect myself, for myself, I do not believe that there are right people, especially nowadays, selfishness reigns everywhere. Here's how you share about the woman you liked - she didn't come to the daughters' party. These are the people, for pleasant emotions there are always them, but for something more serious if there is no benefit and benefit no one is winding up for anything. I'm a rare good, don't laugh now, I just do good sometimes because I like it, I don't expect anything in return. As a last resort, I watched for a week the child of an acquaintance who had a job abroad. For my ex-lover - his profile is still black. I hope to ask why he has to wait. I know what kind of person he is, I'm sure he wants revenge. Who knows what a vile plot he has against me. As soon as, after anger, a lady tries to discredit her in front of her friends, everything is expected from such a person. Thank you for reminding me why I shouldn't go back. I have not forgotten, but reminded that it is even more effective. How can I deceive myself not to think about it - I read poetry, I cook, I go shopping, I go to coffee with friends, I listen to music, etc. I will forget it, I started to see him as an ordinary person. My brain was lying to me about the hormones from having sex with him, they had created the illusion that he was the best. From passionate and tumultuous sex with a brainless creature that my brain had created an illusion, I walked for three years as if hypnotized, I saw nothing but him! I thought he was the coolest and sexiest man in the world. He was in a forum where I was secretly following him, and he didn't know, he was secretly sharing, that he was madly in love with a married woman and that he had to break up with her because he could not live, that she would not belong to him alone. As we quarreled and parted, he whined in the forum that he couldn't stand listening to love songs because everyone seemed to be singing about him and his love. Complete nonsense on wheels, if it were true he would give up gambling, etc ... For me it was just a very strong attraction to the bodies. Ole zor, I woke up at night and I missed his body, just to hug him to smell him, just to see him. I had the feeling that I would die without him. I asked Uncle Google if he was dying of love, our bodies and hormones so entangled. After our separation, he became depressed and I know he was taking antidepressants. His selfishness is simple, not that something love. I just guess his ego was badly affected because he wanted to prefer him to my husband. The world lost its meaning for him, not that something I think is irreplaceable, but because he had to win and have to, not me to do as I know how. And yes, he comes back many times for a rematch or as you said to beat and crush me! He will always try, in my opinion, simply because he failed to achieve what he wanted. He does not miss sex and women, he is on stage, regularly hangs out at nightclubs, an experienced k .. r, around him a lot of whims. Have you ever fallen in love terribly hard as I describe, have you ever encountered such absurdity, it was my first time. I guess a little bigger than me or am I wrong? I don't know why, I don't believe in love, it's just hormones and passion, when the turbulent feelings pass and a person sobers up, motherfucker! When I saw what kind of man I had married in possession, I was horrified! Outside a cultured person, and at home a real pig! When I complained to my parents then, they scolded me severely - I had to be patient and not complain because women did so otherwise there would be no families. Greetings from me. If you don't mind writing something, you know I like the way you think,

   There are very few people who like the way I think, and I answer that to you, because most of my interlocutors nod their heads, but I understand from their eyes that what I said came in one ear and came out the other ear - maybe the topic you have only become ours, which does not bother me at all, but I am convinced that those who look at life superficially have nothing to add, most of all to spit on me, and those who know what they are for on this earth simply do not visit the site. I still don't want to say what our difference is, but it's not very big - I'm very far from retirement, and it doesn't matter how old you are, but what you went through and most importantly what imprint your past has left on spirit, physics, self-confidence, self-esteem, etc., etc. And yes, I have already written to you, I have fallen in love not with the wrong, but with the impossible person, I have fallen in love with the clear consciousness, that whatever is done we have no future, nooo who is the one who can command his heart. On top of that, I was in love before we even saw each other live, not to mention sex, caresses, kisses, touches - yours is more complicated, but not insurmountable. Ah these musicians, why fate always meets me with such stories - today one of my colleagues complains exactly about a musician, supposedly an ex, and for months she only talks to me about him, what he said, what he did, what he did NOT do, what he should have done and what should not. Hers is a different story, but when I asked her why they were always beaten and insulted, the same thing with bachelors, as a magnet for most women, the more they wait in line, the more they are pressed. Everyone has the right to make their choice, some want to like them as a physicist and are constantly in the gym, others want to like them because of the mind and are constantly above the books, others want to be successful in business, etc. - everyone has found their balance and the question is where do you fit into their intentions and expectations. If the man in question insisted on you, he would end up with the slots, the night drunkenness, the whore, he would not set conditions for you to divorce and marry, he would not be jealous of your husband, but he would do everything possible to give you show that he is better in every way, not just in sex. If the person in question were a man of dignity, he would swallow the loss and keep the curtains down black or pembian, but he would never, NEVER carry you in front of his friends, seek revenge, look for a way to discredit you, because he would be aware. that by discrediting you he is in fact discrediting himself. This, that you didn't respond to any of his friends is your biggest victory, now his talk and boasting are hanging in the air - everyone says that there may have been something, but there may not have been, that everything can is the brainchild of a sick brain, and they certainly know it. So to say about my colleague while I'm fresh - tomorrow I will forget about the torments of a small and selling soul. I tell the story, not to edify someone, but to get an idea of ​​how I think - it's easy for me to say that everyone has the right to do with their lives whatever they want, and it's not a question of blaming someone, it's a question of how I would not enrolled, and whoever thinks differently is simply not from my team. Well, the thing I hear once again is how the musician invited her to Norway, paid for plane tickets and accommodation, she blew her money in the shops and when it was her turn to go "dirty" and bought only a ticket, no extra charge for luggage. Can you imagine a monster loading her on a plane, but without the suitcases. According to her, once you sleep with someone you have to pay all their bills. When I told her that she was just for sale to me, she insulted me and asked me if he was for sale - I was still looking for an answer to her question. But he had a lot of money, he played in Norway and in a month he took more than mine. 6 months salary - well, so be it, but what obliges him to spend it on one holder (because what is the other definition of such a woman). I partner, I can't stand it, I run like the devil from incense from women who only look at the thickness of my wallet - as the saying goes "I played this dance" during my marriage. It got a little carried away, but my thought was to look for a partner - with the one you describe and as you describe it you have nothing to partner with, obviously you do not partner with your husband, but with two men the world does not end, just open your eyes so as not to it turns out that the next ones are the same - they won't be the same if you're not the same. I didn't mean to say that, but if you stay at your current level, the same tricksters will revolve around you as you do now, and I don't think you deserve it!

   By № 17 You say I need to change something so I don't attract junk men. How to attract smart, good, human men I don't know what to change in myself - I read a lot, I'm a serious person with a nice appearance. Honestly, I'm already despairing of love, is there any love nowadays? Maybe I don't have enough self-esteem and I'm too tolerant sometimes, when I feel that someone is bad, I have to lose it, not give it a chance after a chance and expect it to change. Mr. musician, it fell in my eyes, because I refused to marry him to spread me among his friends, it hurts terribly. How can he show so many men and tell them that he was with me and they wrote to me, even invitations for friendship, I get upset when I remember. What a perverted mind. When I scolded him and told him that I would file a complaint against him only then everything calmed down and he did not dare to approach me, only a coincidence revolved around me. What annoys me the most is that this immoral man took something from me, learned something from me. In various forums in which I know that I participated, I watched, shared, went to the gym, went to some school to study and watched with the intention of opening a restaurant. It is clear that he felt humiliated by my refusal and the complexes seem to push him to develop. Since he caused me a lot of moral damage, I wish him to go down even lower. :) And what did I learn from him? I learned what good sex and love is, what a great pain and terrible fear it is, that many people know that he was my lover and what other fears I experienced with him. No more infidelity. I was horrified. I will grow old romantic, thirsty for love with sorrow for love, I will die beautiful and unloved. He satisfies my husband neither emotionally nor sexually, the good thing is that he arranges the dishes and sometimes cooks :) At least as you told me, there will come a time when I will be free, when the child grows up and goes his own way. Have you met a love that will make you happy for a long time, not only for a month or two? I'm just in love, I can't do without love. I find it in love movies, in poetry, in music, in spring, in flowers, but not in real life. The bad thing is that I'm already afraid to try. This musician shattered my idea of ​​love, I experienced hellish torments. I know that not all men are like that, but I am already afraid to trust a lover. For the girlfriends she told me about in Norway with the musician - the woman is right and I am of the opinion that she pays my bills when I sleep with him, the woman is the weaker sex, it is somehow beautiful for a man to take over things, and for the woman to love and please him, to pamper him, to be faithful to him, to be only his, to support him and to love him sincerely. Men earn more than women, the world is generally run by men, otherwise would women both go to work and watch children when they get home and do housework, and the man helps only a little at home and his wife is so grateful. if he does it :))) There are people who wait for the right person all their lives and grow old without finding him. In most cases, nothing ever fits properly, as it does in movies and books. The reality is roughly simple. She had a very strong intellectual friendship with a very nice gentleman, we were in love, platonic love. I loved him because I admired his personality, and he loved me because of my youth and my beauty and my way of thinking. He was a lot bigger than me, I was his daughter's age. He was not my lover, just a strong intellectual friendship. He got sick and died, I miss talking to him and our coffees terribly. Coffee with him was just a holiday for me. I love pure friendships. Best regards from me!

   I can only answer some of your questions, or more precisely I can express my opinion, because giving an answer sounds like an instruction, and you don't need instructions, you need experience, be it virtual, you need more points of view, and you will find the answers yourself. For example, if you go back to the beginning of the topic you will see that only a month has passed since we talked. In just a month, without seeing each other, without hearing each other, and without writing who knows what, you already have an idea who is standing in front of you. Although a vague idea, but you already feel our differences, you already know that even if you meet me or someone like me by chance, this will not be your man, out of politeness you can drink a coffee, but you will not leave with the idea I want to see this man again. I'm bringing you back to reality now (at least, as you presented it to me) - if you had talked to the musician for at least a month without seeing each other, abstracting from appearance, manner, clothing, you would probably have felt even then what you are complaining about now. There is no way for a woman not to feel the instability of a man, and from there there is no way to fall in love with sex with him because she would never allow it. I have told it many times to my acquaintances and friends, no matter how much we men think of roosters, no matter how big strippers we are, in the end the woman chooses, not the man or in other words "in you is the knife and the bread "- you have already made your choice, but on the hard way, on a trial-and-error basis, the trial was good, but the mistake now embitters your pleasure. I don't think it's appropriate to analyze what happened anymore, but you exposed not only yourself but your husband, (I don't want to say it), but also my child. If you want to listen to me, but stop "following" the loser on all social networks, be patient and in just a few months you will see that all his talk about fitness, school, opening a restaurant is an empty bubble - moreover, I allow these stories to are his next move to get your attention, he knows you're "following" him, if not you personally, others will tell you. In general, if all this had happened 10 years ago, there was a chance for you and for him, he could really change, you could be his support, and he could be your benefactor, start a family, raise children, have a home ( not just a house). In short, I always prefer to talk to the person opposite before we even see each other, the rumors that in live contact the communication went faster do not excite me at all, the rumors, that life is too short also do not excite me, precisely because life is short I prefer not to waste it with the wrong people - good sex does not exhaust a relationship and a human relationship. Regarding "Have you met love that will make you happy for a long time" I will answer ambiguously - there is no complete happiness, I have even met somewhere that love hurts and when I think of love it hurt me more than I was happy - I dare not say it, but it seems simple to me, we humans are so structured that we understand the qualities of one thing only after we lose it. Take a look around the site, read other topics, show me one in which someone can talk about love and happiness in their relationship, many topics are about the already lost love, about the thing we had but did not appreciate, and now we suffer on him. I rarely use the words friendship and love for fear of getting dirty with my petty desires and elementary understandings - NO, I have not met such love that will burn me for years, I have fallen in love many times, but it has not come to burning love . Even now I can't say that there is love in my relationship - there is everything else, tolerance, understanding, mutual help, search, a lot of intimacy, common memories, a common present, a desire for a common future, but there are also things I am forced to do. to reconcile, and love is irreconcilable, it is greedy, it is selfish, it wants everything only for itself. I say all this so that you don't imagine that your prince is always out there, that on a white horse - we men, without admitting it, are also waiting for the princesses - I haven't come across a princess so far, but I'm kind of relieved when i found out that it can't happen to me, at least not in this life. So, if you want, get angry with me and never write again, but my advice is to find something that will make your life meaningful from now on, until now you have taken care of the child, maintained the household, sang in a choir, read books, you went to the gym and you had an insane amount of time that you had to shoot somehow - if I'm wrong, correct me! When the child flies away you will have even more free time, which you will wonder where and how to place, in addition you will have everything else we have already talked about - do not allow yourself to be left alone, one can be alone and surrounded by a dozen fools! Compose, write books, draw, try to be useful not only to yourself, but the good will only happen to you! if you want to get angry with me and never write again, but my advice is to find something to make your life meaningful from now on, until now you have taken care of the child, maintained the household, sang in a choir, read books, went you're at the gym and you've had an insane amount of time that you had to shoot somehow - if I'm wrong, correct me! When the child flies away you will have even more free time, which you will wonder where and how to place, in addition you will have everything else we have already talked about - do not allow yourself to be left alone, one can be alone and surrounded by a dozen fools! Compose, write books, draw, try to be useful not only to yourself, but the good will only happen to you! if you want to get angry with me and never write again, but my advice is to find something to make your life meaningful from now on, until now you have taken care of the child, maintained the household, sang in a choir, read books, went you're at the gym and you've had an insane amount of time that you had to shoot somehow - if I'm wrong, correct me! When the child flies away you will have even more free time, which you will wonder where and how to place, in addition you will have everything else we have already talked about - do not allow yourself to be left alone, one can be alone and surrounded by a dozen fools! Compose, write books, draw, try to be useful not only to yourself, but the good will only happen to you! you sang in a choir, you read books, you went to the gym and you had an insane amount of time that you had to shoot somehow - if I'm wrong, correct me! When the child flies away you will have even more free time, which you will wonder where and how to place, in addition you will have everything else we have already talked about - do not allow yourself to be left alone, one can be alone and surrounded by a dozen fools! Compose, write books, draw, try to be useful not only to yourself, but the good will only happen to you! you sang in a choir, you read books, you went to the gym and you had an insane amount of time that you had to shoot somehow - if I'm wrong, correct me! When the child flies away you will have even more free time, which you will wonder where and how to place, in addition you will have everything else we have already talked about - do not allow yourself to be left alone, one can be alone and surrounded by a dozen fools! Compose, write books, draw, try to be useful not only to yourself, but the good will only happen to you! one can be alone and surrounded by a dozen fools! Compose, write books, draw, try to be useful not only to yourself, but the good will only happen to you! one can be alone and surrounded by a dozen fools! Compose, write books, draw, try to be useful not only to yourself, but the good will only happen to you!

   Love is irreconcilable, it is true. What you write in your relationship I have met, I have had friendships with such people, they fell in love with me and invited me to live together, but I can't, once you taste the burning love everything else it will seem pale and tasteless, you will look for it everywhere. I have met good, serious people who wanted to live together, whom I know can be relied on, I have not allowed myself to make love even with them, I keep my body only for pure love. I know it's old-fashioned to be so chaste, but I like it that way. Here, you think like a typical man, even though you are very understanding, I don't think it's appropriate to analyze what happened anymore, but you exposed not only yourself but also your husband, (I don't want to say that) , but also your child.,, I told you that men have set the rules in life. And tell me now and what to do I as my husband has many girlfriends, does not pay attention to me either emotionally or sexually? Should I go for a divorce and ruin the child's emotional world? Should I act selfishly and marry someone else and take the child to someone else's house so that strangers will harass me? No, it was invented by the people before me, that's how a woman finds a lover, as happened to me. It's just that he fell madly in love with me and when he couldn't take me as his bride, he decided to embarrass me so that not only would he be naughty, but he would hurt me too. And doesn't my husband deserve to be abused? Here I have kidney pain yesterday and today, I ask him for attention, he watches TV and is silent, he doesn't even ask me how I am. But such things are built in childhood, in such a family he grew up, such an attitude his father had towards his mother, so now do it with me. And who is to blame, the woman who is looking for a lover because she is a normal person and needs warmth, masculine caress and love! God! And the man when he goes with many women is the great lover, no one scolds him, the woman looked for something outside, but she is immoral, and k ... a. It's not me, she's an ordinary person looking for what she doesn't have at home. Children are not abused in such things, infidelity is the most common and common phenomenon, the adults say, well, everyone cheats on what is so strange to you, but I am surprised because my father did not lie to my mother and they were faithful, but modernity is very different. That's why many women are not as sensitive as me and they don't care at all, they have more than one lover, they live their lives and don't complain like me back and forth on the forums, but they live happily without caring who thinks what about them. I consider myself to have old-fashioned thinking. This is how I was brought up simply, too wise, too moral. It's not bad for the man who lives with me, it's great for him, but for me - mental depression and too serious attitude to life - as a result - sadness and emotional and emotional dissatisfaction. Stupid job. I often want to be like modern women and not care, with two lovers in real life and five more in virtual life, such people do not have my torments. Here is my husband k .... r, immoral and brazen, impudent to the end and sleeps peacefully, there is no woman he does not look at, he does not care about anyone is always happy. But it's not like that with me, end of lovers, I don't have the courage anymore. As you advised me, I will deal with good things, useful and positive, and whatever is written, I hope this pure love that I long for finds me, although it sounds naive, I'm just a dreamer at heart. I will hardly meet again a strong love like the one that passed away, thank God. Such love turns everything inside you. You have the feeling that you are stepping on the clouds and everything is in pink, it is spring, it is bright, your soul is singing. When the feeling is shared as it was with me, you are overwhelmed by a sun dream, for you it is - for him you are and all the songs are for you! Beauty and bliss - both mental and physical. From this beautiful feeling was born poetry and thousands of songs, when there is love and pain and it is sweet. We have shared with him and we both experience the same thing - when there is love - pain, sadness, suffering also brings pleasure. The memory is sweet, the longing is both pain and sweetness, sadness is like sweet poison, it kills you slowly but sweetly. When souls and bodies kiss hard, that burning love is obtained, let it be impossible, let it be a mistake, then let it hurt like hell, but it's worth it, this feeling is just love. Even if it is a mistake and it hurts like hell, one moment with it I would not replace for years an understanding with another that I do not like. It is strong and may sound absurd, but love cannot be described. This is when you embrace him to feel that you have embraced the whole world, his or her eyes to be your universe :) Just see how it sounds, but this is love! :) It happened to me once so hard, I don't believe there will be a second time. But one thing I know I will look for her, even if I know that I will not find her, I will look for her this strong love I want her again, let it be a mistake! Greetings! one moment with him I would not replace for years understanding with another whom I do not love. It is strong and may sound absurd, but love cannot be described. This is when you embrace him to feel that you have embraced the whole world, his or her eyes to be your universe :) Just see how it sounds, but this is love! :) It happened to me once so hard, I don't believe there will be a second time. But one thing I know I will look for her, even if I know that I will not find her, I will look for her this strong love I want her again, let it be a mistake! Greetings! one moment with him I would not replace for years understanding with another whom I do not love. It is strong and may sound absurd, but love cannot be described. This is when you embrace him to feel that you have embraced the whole world, his or her eyes to be your universe :) Just see how it sounds, but this is love! :) It happened to me once so hard, I don't believe there will be a second time. But one thing I know I will look for her, even if I know that I will not find her, I will look for her this strong love I want her again, let it be a mistake! Greetings! even if I know that I will not find her, I will look for her this strong love I want her again, let it be a mistake! Greetings! even if I know that I will not find her, I will look for her this strong love I want her again, let it be a mistake! Greetings!

   Girl, I don't need to quote myself, but in other topics I've said the same to men in your situation, without pretending to set the rules in life. It seems to me that you mix the terms love and great sex (how it sounds, it's supposed to be something very beautiful and nice, and at the same time we define it as AWESOME) - you're talking about love, and I'll quote you a song, rather find her and listen to her again "Back, back mome Kalino", no boundaries for love, no arrangements, no bills, no parents, relatives, public opinion. Don't be angry, if it was your love there would be no power to stop you from being with your loved one, if the feelings are mutual your loved one would never separate you from your child, on the contrary it would make him feel more comfortable than with his loose father. To say once again, that if your loved one held on to you, if he treated you like a "crystal vase", but not only in bed, he would never allow anyone to be rude and humiliating you, much less do it himself. In your delusion and in relation to those who have several lovers, you just can not imagine what computers are their brains - can you be on the thorns all the time, who, when and where will catch you with your loved one, can you live in constant stress because of 5-10 minutes of quality sex. I have such an acquaintance, in front of me and her other friends she is constantly rehearsing what she will say to her husband, she is constantly in some circus, in some role and she deceives herself that he doesn't know - well he knows the man, but he doesn't care, he is comfortable and to him, he to his lovers, she to hers, and the child has understood very well what is going on in the house and has found a way to take advantage of the situation, do you want that, isn't this to "ruin the child's emotional world"? I know you won't believe me, but it's only a matter of time before you go back to your lover, it's only a matter of time before you give him up again, and so until the hormones turn, then you reduce the heat and let the pot simmer, and then you will get the best dish, the point is that you have a taste left to appreciate it. I wish you success, you are obviously a sought-after woman, and it is not easy for such people at all - I always feel confused when I enter a hypermarket with a huge selection. but it's only a matter of time before you go back to your lover, it's only a matter of time before you give him up again, and so until the hormones turn, then you reduce the heat and let the pot simmer, and then you get the best pot, the point is that you have a taste left to appreciate it. I wish you success, you are obviously a sought-after woman, and it is not easy for such people at all - I always feel confused when I enter a hypermarket with a huge selection. but it's only a matter of time before you go back to your lover, it's only a matter of time before you give him up again, and so until the hormones turn, then you reduce the heat and let the pot simmer, and then you get the best pot, the point is that you have a taste left to appreciate it. I wish you success, you are obviously a sought-after woman, and it is not easy for such people at all - I always feel confused when I enter a hypermarket with a huge choice.

   ,, Back back mome Kalino, not my ode after me "you know how well I sing it! You're right to the point of pain for everything! Thanks! Very accurately called things by their real names -,, just great sex" I'm obsessed with passion nothing more . He came back, he was spinning around me, begging me to talk, he was literally running after me, I was shaking all over, my heart was going to burst - it was beating like crazy. But I kept repeating your words, "Play the inaccessible bitch, he's a stranger to you," that's exactly what I did, don't say a word, I turned my head in the opposite direction and literally ran away from him, crossing him, I was barely afraid he would hit me. car, it was foggy in front of my eyes. He: "Lily, let's talk, are we still angry?" with that enchanting voice, everything in me seemed to break into thousands of crystals, clouds seemed to gather above my head, my ears roared. I didn't say a word to him, as if I didn't see him. I tried to avoid him, walking for a long time in front of me, then after me, then next to me. I finally ran away from him. Just then it rained a little snow mixed with rain. It was a fabulous, sweet feeling, as if snowflakes caressed and kissed me instead. On the third day I can't sleep at night. It doesn't cross my mind. But don't forget your words as you taught me to overcome it. I will break away forever, this is a man, "poisonous mushroom" end, I will not return and cry and pray I will not return, I will move on. Greetings! And thank you very much! If you are writing, you know, that i love reading you! it was as if the snowflakes caressed and kissed me instead. On the third day I can't sleep at night. It doesn't cross my mind. But don't forget your words as you taught me to overcome it. I will break away forever, this is a man, "poisonous mushroom" end, I will not return and cry and pray I will not return, I will move on. Greetings! And thank you very much! If you are writing, you know, that i love reading you! it was as if snowflakes caressed and kissed me instead. On the third day I can't sleep at night. It doesn't cross my mind. But don't forget your words as you taught me to overcome it. I will break away forever, this is a man, "poisonous mushroom" end, I will not go back and cry and pray I will not come back, I will move on. Greetings! And thank you very much! If it is written to you, you know, that i love reading you!

   Hello! We talk here, no one bothers us, we haven't seen or heard from each other, and it's as if we've known each other for years ... life, some live now, others in the past, and there are those who are in the future, but I'm not from them, and I do not want my past, nor do I want to know what the future will be, I want to be here and now. I admit that I wanted to be with my current mind in the past, but I wonder if it would be more interesting to me, if I would be what I am now if I had not made my mistakes in the past. It would be nice if our mistakes are not fatal, but there is no CASCO for that - we have to learn from other people's mistakes. Read this topic - http://spodeli.net/4/story-127314.html - especially the opinion of number 15, I can't believe you want to be in her place - I'm trying to protect you from this Lily! Otherwise I don't mind us singing, my lyrics are a bit lame, but there are songbirds, conductors, prompters for that. I'm sorry to have to say this, but I have the feeling that I'm talking to my daughter, who will turn 30 next year - there is some unexperienced childhood in you, you accept somehow purely and childishly the world around you, you still believe in miracles, princes , princesses, castles, fairy tales, etc. However, read the opinion of number 15 of the quoted topic, believe me, you will see (hopefully not on your own back) how the mice leave the ship in a shipwreck - your current lover is a mouse, the moment he feels a threat he will come out with 200 , you won't even see his soles! I wouldn't call it a bitter experience, I just have an observation (it didn't concern me anymore) - after the divorce the ex-wife reunited with some "fallen German", ate, drank and had fun for 8 months, and when the time came to pay the bill, he went out. I'm not a prophet, but your current suitor is strong and strong as long as there is someone to dress and he to undress, his voice is "copper Zagorje" because nothing depends on him, he cares that the child has peed or shit, no your idea of ​​what it is diapers, insomnia, colic, teething. Mr. musician doesn't know how much it costs to prepare a first-grader, he has no idea that children can't wear their clothes or shoes because they just don't fit in next year, Mr. egocentric has focused on how feminine he has - now his ego is damaged, he can't and doesn't want to believe that someone there didn't appreciate his "package" with dignity, he writhes, tries to embarrass you (look at this whore), the number doesn't work, he comes from another angle (I will become new person I will go to the gym, I will do business, I will study), the number still does not pass - the next point is to cut his veins, and the truth is that if he had wanted by now he would have a wife and children, and everything that came to you on the mind. If your dawn is a sexual gratification, you don't have to abstain, if you think you're going to fall in love, it's not your place.

   To 48. If you've forgotten me already, I'm not you. You described me amazingly accurately, how you read me so I do not know! I'm pleasantly surprised! In addition to the family problems with my stupid husband, I was left without the mood and desire to think about anything at all. The ex-lover appears many more times with the desire to meet. I follow your advice and completely ignore it. I begin to understand what a person is and I begin to free myself from the strong passion that blinded me. The nasty thing is that I just stopped believing in love, and I love being in love. Thank you for everything that was so real to me!

   I haven't forgotten you, Lily, I even remember a part of our conversations here and I wonder what happened, why you suddenly disappeared, something affected you, or you just decided to go back to your old way of life. The truth is that I don't have much to add to what has already been said, I even risk repeating myself and getting bored with my instructions, and I don't want to be your mentor at all, especially when it comes to your soul. People are different, some are in love, others are more wooden, others are distrustful, but the worst (in my opinion) is when the faith in love is lost and that it can happen to anyone. Usually people who have lost faith in love become cynics, and as the years go by, their souls harden and the likelihood of believing in the good and the pure decreases sharply. It is no coincidence that the term "old bachelor / maiden" exists, not that such people are old and crumbling, but because they have already stopped believing in love (if they ever believed at all). That is why and several times I directed you to look for someone like yourself, a person who had or has a family, children, responsibilities - those who have never in their lives considered no one but themselves, those who have never cared for someone or those who have suffered deprivation because of love, they will not be able to understand you, they will not be able to get into your situation, they will not comply with you, they will just use you until they get bored. Your case is not unique and is indicative of the above - Mr. musician can not know what he is doing to you by discrediting you in front of his friends, he can not know what are your motives to prefer your "bad" marriage to the insecurity of bohemian life. As far as I understand, he does not stop bothering you and intruding on you, something that a calm man would not do to you, he would not do to himself. I have already told you (I apologize for the repetition), you do not need to become a nun, to deprive yourself of male attention and caress, but you must be careful in your selection, and not as in another topic a lady of your age and in your situation fell in love with a bachelor 10 years younger and does not want to hear about another man. If you feel the need to write, but do not feel obliged to report on what is happening around you - the strong passion will come to you again because things are happening in your head, and there is music, and beautiful pictures, and big dreams, and "small" pleasures - a separate issue is that all this requires patience and perseverance, is a dose of luck. something a settled man wouldn't do to you, wouldn't do to himself. I have already told you (I apologize for the repetition), you do not need to become a nun, to deprive yourself of male attention and caress, but you must be careful in your selection, and not as in another topic a lady of your age and in your situation fell in love with a bachelor 10 years younger and does not want to hear about another man. If you feel the need to write, but do not feel obliged to report on what is happening around you - the strong passion will come to you again because things are happening in your head, and there is music, and beautiful pictures, and big dreams, and "small" pleasures - a separate issue is that all this requires patience and perseverance, is a dose of luck. something a calm man wouldn't do to you, he wouldn't do to himself. I have already told you (I apologize for the repetition), you do not need to become a nun, to deprive yourself of male attention and caress, but you must be careful in your selection, and not as in another topic a lady of your age and in your situation fell in love with a bachelor 10 years younger and does not want to hear about another man. If you feel the need to write, but do not feel obliged to report on what is happening around you - the strong passion will come to you again because things are happening in your head, and there is music, and beautiful pictures, and big dreams, and "small" pleasures - a separate issue is that all this requires patience and perseverance, is a dose of luck. I have already told you (I apologize for the repetition), you do not need to become a nun, to deprive yourself of male attention and caress, but you must be careful in your selection, and not as in another topic a lady of your age and in your situation fell in love with a bachelor 10 years younger and does not want to hear about another man. If you feel the need to write, but do not feel obliged to report on what is happening around you - the strong passion will come to you again because things are happening in your head, and there is music, and beautiful pictures, and big dreams, and "small" pleasures - a separate issue is that all this requires patience and perseverance, is a dose of luck. I have already told you (I apologize for the repetition), you do not need to become a nun, to deprive yourself of male attention and caress, but you must be careful in your selection, and not as in another topic a lady of your age and in your situation fell in love with a bachelor 10 years younger and does not want to hear about another man. If you feel the need to write, but do not feel obliged to report on what is happening around you - the strong passion will come to you again because things are happening in your head, and there is music, and beautiful pictures, and big dreams, and "small" pleasures - a separate issue is that all this requires patience and perseverance, is a dose of luck. and not as in another topic a lady your age and in your position fell in love with a bachelor 10 years younger and does not want to hear about another man. If you feel the need to write, but do not feel obliged to report on what is happening around you - the strong passion will come to you again because things are happening in your head, and there is music, and beautiful pictures, and big dreams, and "small" pleasures - a separate issue is that all this requires patience and perseverance, is a dose of luck. and not as in another topic a lady your age and in your position fell in love with a bachelor 10 years younger and does not want to hear about another man. If you feel the need to write, but do not feel obliged to report on what is happening around you - the strong passion will come to you again because things are happening in your head, and there is music, and beautiful pictures, and big dreams, and "small" pleasures - a separate issue is that all this requires patience and perseverance, is a dose of luck.

   You are wonderful, so polite and considerate! Thanks! Honestly, I stopped writing because I was scared, I was a little scared, you described me so clearly,, I'm sorry to have to say it, but I have the feeling that I'm talking to my daughter, who will turn 30 next year - there is some unexperienced childhood in you, you accept somehow purely and childishly the world around you, you still believe in miracles, princes, princesses, castles, fairy tales, etc. “You described me very clearly. Yes, I have an unexperienced childhood. I grew up in a village, our people had land, my mother is a patriarchal woman, very strict, I constantly helped and worked since I was a child. I have known how to cook since I was nine years old, my mother used to say that a girl should know everything, that when she goes to someone else's house she knows how to please a man and her father-in-law and mother-in-law and knows how to turn a house :) from morning till evening, I even know how to roll pies and even pumpkin :) I was an excellent student at school, I was always sitting over books and textbooks. I got married at 20, he was the first man in my life, my first boyfriend. I haven't lived at all and now I feel terrible, I just want to go to a disco with my son. :) I will not go, my time has passed since I was 37, now I made them by the way, but I have an unexperienced childhood, it's true! I had strict parents, I didn't go to discos, I didn't smoke or drink, I studied and helped our people. And what, I came across a complex man and a mouse at heart, who deliberately criticized me and found flaws in everything so that I would not have self-confidence because he has low self-esteem. Not a happy marriage for 16 years now. Now I am waiting for my son to grow up, to marry him and I will divorce or I will live to the max :) I have an unexperienced childhood, an unexperienced youth, I met love for the first time and learned it from a female singer who constantly wanders the nightclubs. At least for that I thank him for feeling what passion is, it has been straw with the man for so long :) Thank you for being here, for being here and for taking the trouble to write to me! Warm heartfelt greetings with very strong and sincere friendly feelings!

   Lily, she felt, even rhymed, "I was an excellent student at school, I was always sitting over books and textbooks." We got married at the same age, but of course I'm older, and from there with a little more experience, which doesn't make me great - and yet thanks for the revelation. I don't know how strict I was as a parent, I still don't know what mistakes I made and where I was right, but the truth will shine one day. My daughter was also an excellent student, she was always above the books, she even finished with a gold medal, but I don't see that the books helped her in her relationship with men and I'm starting to rethink whether I was right to point her in that direction. Books and textbooks are an invaluable source of information, but they are not the panacea for happiness in life - there are no ready-made recipes in life, life itself is a big school, but unfortunately his lessons are not always as safe and painless as experiments in the chemistry or physics classroom. I also know people who have never read a book in their lives, but are happy (true in their own way), I know their complete opposites - I would prefer to be one of the first, I'm not saying I'm unhappy, but I'm always chasing something, I'm always chasing some goal, I want more and more. I passed this on to my daughter, but I think I was wrong - a woman should not be a man. The woman should be a flower and the man a manure, but I think I slipped away, it was about books and textbooks. I don't know about you, but I see about the daughter that they played a bad joke on her - in real life there are no princes, no good forest spirit, no frogs turned into fairytale princesses, there are slaps and you ate one of them, but no I know when it's better for that to happen. The important thing (in my opinion) is not to get angry and not to despair, the important thing is not to lose faith - if you want to believe, but life at 50 is no less beautiful than at 40 or 30, some priorities change, the passions are subdued, but all this is compensated by quality, and quality is a rather broad concept, quality of communication, quality of emotions, quality of physical contact. By the way, pies and pumpkin are no longer a challenge for me, Easter is coming, my challenge was to knit Easter cakes, but after dealing with 4 wicks I stopped thinking in this direction and turned to sweets, cakes, etc. - it remains to have someone to evaluate you. but all this is compensated by quality, and quality is a rather broad concept, quality of communication, quality of emotions, quality of physical contact. By the way, pies and pumpkin are no longer a challenge for me, Easter is coming, my challenge was to knit Easter cakes, but after dealing with 4 wicks I stopped thinking in this direction and turned to sweets, cakes, etc. - it remains to have someone to evaluate you. but all this is compensated by quality, and quality is a rather broad concept, quality of communication, quality of emotions, quality of physical contact. By the way, pies and pumpkin are no longer a challenge for me, Easter is coming, my challenge was to knit Easter cakes, but after dealing with 4 wicks I stopped thinking in this direction and turned to sweets, cakes, etc. - it remains to have someone to evaluate you.

   Until 52. I'm just waiting for the day when I will get rid of this marriage. When my boy grows up, I will leave this abuser, who because of his complexes attacks me in an inhuman way. I dream of this day.

   It wasn't until I got divorced that I realized how late I was with this difficult step. Like you, I thought that children should grow up first, and then think about themselves. It turned out that the children were not infinitely injured, they saw what was happening at home and were tormented by the eternal scandals of their unemployed mother. For one thing I am grateful to the ex, for the fact that she asked for a divorce - I still did not find the courage, I would wait another 3 years for my daughter to drop out. Option infidelity is not in my blood, although what infidelity is after you no longer tolerate the person next to you. Interestingly, during the marriage only some family friends dared to advise me to part with this dream woman, and after the divorce most friends greeted me, some even said "finally". Do not get me wrong, I don't know what's going on in your house and I don't advise you to get divorced in a minute, but if the thought of divorce is already ingrained in your head, if you're convinced that things will never get better, I don't see the point in continuing. to live in harassment, to cry secretly, to endure relentlessly and to take care of a person who has resisted you. I do not advise you to blindly throw yourself on the neck of the first one who has paid you little attention - you already have the bitter experience of what happens next. It will be difficult for you to know, I know how empty you will feel inside, you will be confused, especially with your artistic nature, but you will cope - you have to cope for yourself and the child. Just don't make the mistake of committing to a bachelor again - sooner or later the bachelor will want children. Don't get attached to the tales of married men, everyone says it, but very few of them divorce to reunite with their lovers, generally arranging for them to stand by their opposing wives and seek love outside. It is difficult to give orders to the heart, but do not make the mistake of falling in love with a much younger than you - there is a topic here in which a woman your age explains how she fell in love with a 10 year younger and how she would waiting for him to push. In general, beware of stupid moves that you will regret in time and will constantly be in the starting position. in which a woman your age explains how she fell in love with a man 10 years younger and how she would wait for him to date. In general, beware of stupid moves that you will regret in time and will constantly be in the starting position. in which a woman your age explains how she fell in love with a man 10 years younger and how she would wait for him to date. In general, beware of stupid moves that you will regret in time and will constantly be in the starting position.

   Where are you. you are not here! You are missing with your analytical-logical reasoning. By the way, the former lover returned many, many times. He created seven fake Facebook profiles - all different. Great effort, great miracle, I don't know why. To sleep with me, hardly, there are many women around him. I missed him, he was in love. I do as you taught me - complete ignore! I don't say a word, I don't even send him a comma. He has been blocked for 9 months on Facebook, he will sit there forever, I told you what a gossip he is, how he told his friends about us, I will not forget how I felt when I found out, I did not sleep for days and nights out of anxiety. It says to me, "You deleted me," I didn't delete it ha ha, I buried it, I'll remember in time. He also wrote to me through other social networks, completely ignoring everywhere, he called on the phone - I blocked his number. He must be sick and angry. But I do as you taught me, because you made me feel strong against him many times. Thanks! I hope I delete the memories with him. Only one thing bothers me, I hope I'm wrong - I'm afraid he hasn't made a recording of our exciting meetings and when he finds out that I don't want him in life anymore and I'm afraid he won't use him against me. I hope he doesn't get to such nonsense, he's not a bad person, but I know he's vindictive, but he's terribly cowardly for my happiness. I wish you all the best, only happiness and smiles to be in your days. that I no longer want him in life and I am afraid he will use him against me. I hope he doesn't get to such nonsense, he's not an evil man, but I know he's vindictive, but he's terribly cowardly to my happiness. I wish you all the best, only happiness and smiles to be in your days. that I no longer want him in life and I am afraid he will use him against me. I hope he doesn't get to such nonsense, he's not a bad person, but I know he's vindictive, but he's terribly cowardly for my happiness. I wish you all the best, only happiness and smiles to be in your days.